CherrieMoonKisses said:

I'm sorry...but i have learned my lesson...This is just a very big fault that i thought would never ever happen to me, but it did...and so now im gonna do good again...and keep on the right path...

ahhh...oh man...u know what...so today right after my class i went to call up da clinic...they played that elevator music for a while and so they asked for my name, b-day, and phone...so i registered...and then i had to make an appointment, and so i did...but until thursday _July 16_, and she said i had to bring $61 bucks and have insurance information...and so i said my parents have insurance...but i don't want my parents to know this...and then she said to be on the safe side bring $120...

I thought it was free and confidential? ohh...what am i gonna do now? I have to call back again and talk...she was hasty to let me go, cuz i guess more peeps were calling...

awww...

Oh lord if this isn't the epitomy of something stupid a teenager does..

Met someone on the internet, invite him over to your house, have sex, let him cum in your mouth... Cmere lokita.

Sorry to be so hard but baby girl...

And listen to Anji he is wise.

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[This message was edited Mon Jul 14 10:35:27 PDT 2003 by sag10]

sag10 said:

awww...stop with the spanking...that dude did it enough...

but yeah Anji advice is really deep, i had to read it over and over again...he kinda sounds like a psychologist...nothing bad...just saying...i remember that class...lol,

well im gonna try to forgive myself by being not depress now...and im gonna forget about it,

so now my plan is to call the clinic again and ask them if i could just come in and talk about what happened and if they can refer me to a free clinic...and so maybe i won't have to pay...because i don't have that kind of money man...and plus i have to wait till the 16...

and so tomorrow im gonna go to my high school that i gaduated from and come with a friend to the clinic there and see if they can help me...

i will never sleep...

Ok today earlier i woke up at 11:30 and went to my friends at 1:15pm. and then we went to my high school clinic...but they couldn't help me as in check me themselves, but the nurse gave me a percription for the 72hr. mourning pill...and another over the counter medicine to stop vomitting...because when peeps take the pill they do that...
and so, ok, me and my friend left and the school closed at like 2...and so we went to walgreens...and i noticed the nurse misspelled my name, i showed her my insurance card and she puts my moms name on it...and so when i went to the drop off...i pointed it out...that it was for me and that the name was wrong...and so they had to call the nurse again to verify its for me...and so it would take 40mins. to do that...
...and so me and my friend went back to her house to get money from her aunt cuz i only had $13...and so she borrowed 35...and then we went back to walgreens...and asked about the percription...and so they tried calling the nurse but no one would pick up and they tried to page her, but no call back...and so i told them my situation, about it happened friday mournin, and so we were like couldnt we just get the pill under my moms name? but no...its against the law...and so they wanted to help me and they were like crap...
so they told me these options like go to planned parenthood and it was 3 already and i think it was going to close at 4, and we didn't have a car and so it would have took an hour or more to get there by cta...and then one of the pharmacist was like im not telling you to do this but i would just go to another pharmacy...
and so i was like ok...so we did that a couple of more blocks was a walgreens again...and this time...:Sigh: they didn't have the pill and so we had to go to another one...and so we did
...we went back to my friends house cuz she needed to get ready for work and then we left went to another walgreens and it was there FINALLY...and so i went to another friends house to take it...and so i took the motion sickness pill at 5:40ish...and then i waited 30mins. then i took the 72hr.pill at 6:15...and that was it...
... damn...it took forever...i am so tired...
and so far im feeling good, dont feel sick or throwing up or anything like that...
...well so after 4 1/2 days i did something...and now im just gonna wait for my planned parenthood appointment on thurs. to get that check up...and i have no insurance man...only under my mom...but i can't use it because i think if i do...then my parents will find out if they get billed ...and so im just gonna mooch off some money somehow... im gonna ask my parents for $100 or so, so i can buy books for school and maybe more money to buy art supplies...and this is all so bad...
...and then earlier when i was at my friends house i showed her this place and she read my forum...and got mad cuz i saw the dude again...and so man...she's really disappointed...and then she exited the site...and i didn't say what i wanted in the chat room with psycho...and June...and so if you guys read this...i didn't do it on purpose...it was my friend...
...and so yeah...hope this all works out...i missed my 2nd day of school...i thought i would make it cuz i had a 3:00 class but i didn't...,. bad bad bad...man...im so bummed...

angelinthepit said:

If you go to a Planned Parenthood that bases its fees on a sliding scale, and if you tell them you don't work and have zero income, they should do it on a "donation basis". That's what the Planned Parenthood I worked in did. But you have to find one that goes on a sliding scale, not a private one, so get out the phonebook and start calling.

Most women don't get that sick from the morning after pill, maybe a little sick to their stomach, so I don't know why the nurse gave you that med for nausea. I have to say, though, that because you didn't take it til way past the 72 hrs. it probably won't do anything to help prevent a pregnancy. I wouldn't be too stressed out, though, because you did use a condom, right?

I still am not sure if you're "for real", there has been something about your posts that hasn't quite sounded right...but if you are telling the truth, I wish you the best and take care. Please respect yourself and never allow someone to do something sexual out of fear or pressure...

AnotherLoverToo said:

hmmm...oh...theres a private and a public planned parenthood? i didn't know that...hmmm...ill call later on today when i wake up and call the same clinic i made an appointment on and ask them about the sliding scale...
and well, i know my tread is confusing, im confusing myself...but it is all true...im just in a panic i guess...
but thx to a lot of peeps here, you guys really helped...you know who u are...and so there's still a lot of work to do...and i do need some counseling to feel better...so i'll ask about that...
i'll keep on writing here...

angelinthepit said:

It's a long story as to why, but some family planning clinics get money from the government to help poor women, while others don't. You can thank Bush and the other religious right fanatics in the government who have helped take away money for things like what you need...

and like, is this a joke post? like?

hmmm... crazy ass peeps... but i know i will get through this with or without Bush and those religious right fanatics...so today when i go home (cuz im in school right now) im gonna go look up that phonebook k...so tomorrow's my appointment...

pm1 said:

joke post?!?!?

my ass...

why the hell am i gonna make some bullshit up...for my entertainment?!?!? i don't think so...im dead serious about this and thx to the peeps that are helping me out...i do really appreciate it...

you wake up
suddenly

cherrys gone

AnotherLoverToo said:

AnotherLover, it makes sense you worked at PP! The people there are so wonderful, as are you.

shausler said:

er uhm

well...first of all...

the answer to your question...i would say that you are still a virgin...based on what you have said here.

secondly...you really need to check yourself...do some serious alone-time thinking...cuz..it seems to me that a certain part of you enjoyed his company enough to have him over the second time...

i know it feels good...and your body and mind can take over real fast...its never a good thing to play with...( the sexual side i mean)...if you truely want to be a virgin when you marry...dont put yourself in that position anymore...

you are only human and things happen...stop beating yourself up about it, just make sure it doesnt happen again.

BUT LASTLY...


be thankful you were not chopped to pieces and left in your basement...the rest can be worked out.

this world is full of sick-O's ...becareful !!!

angelinthepit said:

The man who wants to marry you obviously will have bigger worries than u beeing a virgin or not.

Natsume said:

Mayb i'm missing something here, but even if the guy would have fucked her brainless, no court in the world would convict him. There are times where u need legal assistence and there are times where u have to THINK a little bit for yourself.

SpcMs said:

EXACTLY...having him there twice is the kicker

shausler said:

i was conscience the whole time though my head was spinning...and i saw no blood no where so i still have my cherry...thank god...

angelinthepit said:

Not all women bleed after their first time. Some women don't even have a "cherry" (hymen--a thin piece of skin in the vagina).

justkelley said:

Awww... u sounded like a friend i just talked to...very comforting...

...he told me i was like a half virgin...lol...cuz my cherry was still there...and he kept asking if i enjoyed it...which i kinda did...(i just didn't know the after math of it all was gonna come after me, when my brain will think before i do...) and man, after this...it's not gonna happen again...im gonna be careful and not so thoughtless like that...and yeah...thank GOD...that nothing worst happened... Thank You...

SpcMs said:

Man...if u were to know me like my friends do...i was like the virgin of the group...lol...and they all knew this...i was gonna be a virgin till i get married...and my friends thought i would be the rare ones who would be able to do that...but true...it's not the only thing that he should think about...but that's what i really wanted to happen...to share it with somebody special and who could be that person but the man up on the altar with you...

AnotherLoverTo said:

oh wow...i didn't know some didn't even have a hymen...hmm...but i bet i do...cuz the guy said when he was fingering me, he felt something there and found out i was a virgin...

angelinthepit said:

But I thought you said you told him the next day while you were having coffee that you were a virgin, and that he was surprised?

But the point is that not all women bleed the first time. You can't decide whether or not you're a virgin based on bleeding. You also said he went in about an inch or two--the vagina is only about 4 inches long, but it obviously can expand to hold bigger things...I think you need to decide in your own mind if being a virgin or not is really the issue that's bothering you?

AnotherLoverToo said:

ok... he found out i wasn't and so that's when i told him yeah he was right...but at the moment...all im worried about is if im ok...and well it's not the end of the world if im not a virgin no more...because i can't take it back, but i can prevent future crap like this happening again...but it really disturbed me in the begining...like i said and what my friends thought...it was something special to me...too bad it's kinda gone like this...

Ummm...hmmm...ok so today i have the appointment right...but i think im just gonna go tell my mom to just let me go get checked anyway since i haven't yet and it's about time because im at that age...and so i'll benefit using the insurance and i can use that money to really buy books and supplies...and so i'll tell her i want to see the gyno...and make it soon...

...but if something comes up bad...which will not i hope...will my parents find out from the doctor? will the doctor tell them whats up with me if i answer questions like im active and stuff?

angelinthepit said:

My understanding was that if you're 18, they can't give out your medical info without your consent--not even to your parents, unless it's an emergency and they're listed as your contacts.

If you're under 18 yrs. old, it depends on what state you live in and each clinic's policy, as far as laws allowing teens confidentiality about their exams. In Michigan where I used to live, and Washington where I am now, clinics can keep non life threatening medical info private. But again, it depends on that particular clinic's policy, so if you're under 18 you should ask the doctor first when you first get into the room.

angelinthepit said:

Exactly! You're starting to really think straight now, I believe! You alone will be the one to decide how to view yourself (virgin or not).

AnotherLoverToo said:

oh...hmm...im already 18 gonna be 19 very soon i think that's true about they can't find out my info...just checking...but what about well...if nothing bad is there then i can tell my mom and if there is which there wont be pray to God and im hesitant to say...or wait...the doc will never tell her...so i can be like im fine...no...i can't ...what about if i need medicine?...then they will surely know...oh my...what am i thinking...am i ahead of myself?!?!?...damn, im still worried about this all...and i don't think there's going to be an emergency about my check up right? so i'll be fine there at least...hmm...?

angelinthepit said:

At Planned Parenthood, if a woman had a STD like chlamydia or gonnorrhea, she took one dose of medication while she was there in the exam room and was good to go--no other meds. Some symptoms of STDs don't show up for awhile, if you get symptoms at all (most women don't have any symptoms and don't know they have a STD). Watch for bumps/rashes/discharge that smells bad/pain during urination--but try not to get paranoid, too

Go to the doc with a friend or by yourself if you really don't want your mom with you. You can explain going by telling your parents that it's recommended that all women, even if they're not sexually active, get a Pap smear by age 18--cause that's true. If by some freak chance you have a problem, you can decide what to tell them then (you could just say they found a yeast infection or something--it does happen alot, lol). We always recommended that the girl tell her parents as much as she felt comfortable with, but we also knew that some girls would never be able to confide in their parents fully, so we advised them to talk some sort of trusted adult--a teacher, aunt, cousin, best friend's mom, etc.