Hey peeps, I am so scared, confused, and stupid...just toughtless man...:CRY:

Ok I'm a virgin, at 18, never done shit with nobody, but man,recently it's like i think I'm Not...
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Ok heres what happened...I met this dude online that i didn't even know. And i invited him over my basement, and we were drinking, jegermister and redbull, and i got so hammered, and then we started to like go down on each other, and like and then i sucked his thingy...w/out a condom and he came in my mouth, and like then he tried to go in me, but i kept pulling away so it was around there but he didn't go all the way in and that was that day.

And then he came over the next day and we went at it again, and this time i made him wear a condom when i blew him this time and like he kinda went in me some more, i felt it like an inch or 2 not more i hope...and i don't think i bled...and he came...and like so that was that last night...

And so I'm like scared about everything...I don't want to end up pregi, or with diseases...and AM I STILL A VIRGIN...:CRY:

Man my ideal was to be married one...to be pure but now i just don't know...and with someone i didn't even know...

Can you peeps help me please...I'm really scared...and man...I disappoint myself...:Cry:

first of all, you damned lucky that the cat you met online wasn't psycho or whatever, cuz it coulda been a worse situation than what you described.

doin folks you hardly know from online, why do folks do this shit???

How long ago was the first time he came over? If it's been within 72 hours, you can go get the morning-after pill to avoid pregnancy. Also go get tested for STDs at your local Planned Parenthood - it's free and confidential.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I don't know how much of this 'action' was unwanted by your descriptions, and that frightens me. You might want to consider pressing charges.

Keep away from this guy. And remember the org is always here with people who care...

edit: I'm taking that back.
[This message was edited Sat Jul 12 21:05:19 PDT 2003 by INSATIABLE]

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

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Yeah i know i was lucky...that he wasn't a bad dude...

Man the reason y i think i did this shit, is because the basement peeps of mine r gone on vacation and so i had it all to myself and geez first it was all a game to me, talk some shit, pervs wanted to hear, and the next thing i know, damn, he's right here and were doing this bad shit...i don't know, i guess i was kinda wondering how it would be like, but damn i really didn't want to go that far...

Maybe it would help to check your drinking, cause you seem to make poor decisions when you do. And it's best to experiment with foreplay/sex (when it's the first time) with men you know and trust, not strangers.
[This message was edited Sat Jul 12 21:13:34 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

angelinthepit said:

well, this should teach you a bit of a lesson. just like i said, it coulda been worse. the internet is a dangerous place and there's a lotta perverts and crazy-ass folks out there, so to go along online and talk junk to folks you don't know from adam you're puttin yourself up for some deep, deep shit.

i ain't tryin to be harsh with you, i'm tellin the truth.

angelinthepit said:

And you want to DATE this guy??

AnotherLoverToo said:

I was praying you'd get here soon

AL

Natsume said:

Ok that guy was here yesterday, and the day before, so he was here Thursday night, like Friday mornin cuz it was like 1:00am...and yeah... god...I am so thoughtless...im going to try to come with my gf to my high school clinic and see if i can be help...though i already graduated...but yeah i really want to know if im ok...

I don't think im going to press charges...It was my fault...for telling him in the first place i wasn't a virgin, :Cry: and then my parents will find out about it...man...they will totally kill me...they won't even let me have a bf...though i still do have one anyway,.but man, he's in the Marines, and he hasn't been there for me like i wanted in a bf...

And about keepin away from this guy...I'm considering just to be friends to know him some more...I feel like i have to know him because of what we did, and oh my god...he is like 26...like and I might consider going out with him...

I don't know...

AnotherLoverToo said:

I know...my friend told me the same thing, cuz man...i didn't even know this dude...but man...if he was ugly, i bet i wouldn't have done it...he was kinda cute...he kinda rememinds me of Wolverine...thats what he said...and he did...

angelinthepit said:

he's 26? lhmj...you ain't gotta jump to conclusions like that and hook up with the dude. like you said, you hardly know the guy...

angelinthepit said:

Go to http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ and find the nearest Planned Parenthood, then GO THERE IN THE MORNING ASAP and get the morning after pill and get tested. I swear to you it's free and confidential - I've been going there for the morning after pill, birth control, getting tested, annual exams for over a year. The people there are really nice.

I would advise against dating the guy. Your reasons for doing so aren't very good, and he's 8 years older than you.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

No please tell me the truth, i do need some guidance...I can not tell my parents about anything...The Will Kill Me...And yeah, i think i have learned my damn lesson...no more inviting strangers to my house...thought since this guy i know impacted my life so much i think i need to know him, and he does seem nice...and after this thats the end of computer dating for real...

I hope everything turns out ok for you sweetie, I will say a for you.

angelinthepit said:

if you end up hookin up with the guy it ain't gonna do nothin but make you feel even more guilty than you are awready, cuz of what happened between the two of you. it ain't gonna help one bit by "needin to know him"...the best things you can do right now is like natsume said, go get yourself tested, and talk to the guy and apologize for lyin to 'im...as for your folks, you gon' have to end up tellin 'em yourself, otherwise all this is gonna end up eatin away at you if you keep it a secret. you'll be in a lotta trouble, sure, but trust me...you'll be a lot better off if you tell them.


mine!!



edit knows best
[This message was edited Sat Jul 12 21:31:20 PDT 2003 by Handclapsfingasnapz]

angelinthepit said:

Nevermind--I'm questioning that you're for real now, angel....some things just don't add up
[This message was edited Sun Jul 13 2:20:51 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Editing myself again, cause I'm starting to think you're pulling a fast one, angel....
[This message was edited Sun Jul 13 2:21:46 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

Angel, it's highly unlikely that you will have contracted any form of life threatening sexual disease from this encounter, however, one can never be sure. It is very worthwhile for you to visit a clinic as this should settle you and also, more importantly, ground you in the reality that you have potentially put your life at risk. In reflecting, you must ask yourself whether you felt it was worthwhile? From your initial reaction, I'm glad to see that that is probably not the case. The issues of pregnancy, remaining friends, your boyfriend etc are all much smaller in the grand scheme of things and these things should all fall into place when you settle the first issue above.

I can sense that there will be certain people who will judge you by what you've allowed yourself to experience; you may even sense these attitudes here. Don't be too hard on yourself, or let others unfairly reflect their own values/attitudes on you. Often, they will be reflecting their own experiences (and insecurities) but this has little, if anything, to do with you or your situation. The most important thing is that you must learn to come to terms with everything you have experienced. The first part of that process is being good to yourself by simply forgiving yourself. We all make choices we regret at various times in our lives but the trick is learning to move on with a better approach next time around.

Finally, you'll know who your close friends and/or family members are, the ones you can really trust. I know this might be a difficult thing to do but allow them to be there for you. You'll feel much better when you let go and let them in. Right now, Angel, your emotions are overtaking you but believe me, you'll be fine in the long run.

I hope im still all good...I know, I am a really emotional person, being a crazy cancer...so then im guessing...ok...so hmmm...geez...so...I this is really something that i will NEVER forget man...I really do need to think about all of this...

Keep the info comin...i was checkin that site u suggested Natsume...thx alot...Im still going to keep on typin here till i figure out myself man...

Carlito was my comp bf who came in here under marzbarz...we were in love...came in here everyday almost...called each other up...though he was in Colorado...and i was in Chicago...

If you were to be in the chat rooms back then, you could tell we were for real...Some of my peeps know that already...

Then I haven't heard from him in the longest, not in here, email, call...nothing...

Then Stephanie01 told me he was locked up...which i don't know why...and so that's all i know about him...My heart was broken...and shit...I just have to do something about all of this...

angelinthepit said:

So Carlito is an Internet boyfriend as well?

Natsume said:

Yeah he was...but he was really sweet...he didn't try to get in my pants...

We met up playin pool on yahoo...he was so depressed because his gf dumped him...and said that no one will ever love him again...but man we talked so much it was so nice...he didn't do that cyber sex shit like other stupid pervs were trying to do when they wanted to play with me...we were rolling...and cheered each other up...it was grand...and now that he's locked up...it's so weird...

angelinthepit said:

There seems to be a pattern here - guys you meet on the Internet who have just broken up with their girlfriends. Angel, you seem like a sweet girl and deserve something better. If you want to meet people, get off the computer - go out and have fun and meet people in real life. You're young - you should be out having fun.

Carlito sounds nice, but not stable. I'm sorry if any of this is coming off as harsh, I'm just concerned for you.

Natsume said:

Hmm...your right...i am a decent girl...something just went wrong...i really know for sure who ever i do have as a bf...will be for real...but yeah...i do feel really bad for cheating with my Marine bf...if you have read my past threads about him...it broke my heart...i don't know...i know he's out there for the good of the nation...but man...it was just to much that i just couldn't wait for him no more...though man...he's coming back next month i think...I don't know what to do...should i tell him about this? I don't know about my feelings for him...its been so long since we've been together...

Honey, u have an orgnote

Jen

Anji said:

Excellent advice, Anji. Lemme cosign that.

Ok guys tomorrow im going to try to go to a clinic after school...im gonna call my gf right now to see if she can go with me...and 1st of all i need to know if im ok...then maybe i can think straight...i know what's done is done...and i just need to pick myself up again...

I'll tell you guys about it...thx alot for that site
Natsume...i found a place...

How could you be so careless?
Havent you heard enough stories of psycho online perv killers?
You probably would STILL be talking to him had you not engaged in sexual things with him.
Im 19 and know better not to do this...ONLY ONE YEAR OLDER.
You make people our age look stupid and reckless...Now that he knows where you stay what if he decides to come back?
I have NO PATIENCE when it comes to stories like this because you had a choice and decided to be stupid!

And dont get me wrong, Im not passing judgement, Im not God but Im not going to sugarcoat something like this to make it seem lighter then what it is.
I had a friend get kidnapped, raped and damn near killed over this same situation.