Ok, and so now what I'm thinking is I should be this dudes friend. He seemed nice and someone I think I could get along with. I was thinking maybe we should go out. So I could know some more things about him...

But then maybe he's just rebounding like my gf says, cuz he broke up with his girlfriend 2 weeks ago...

Shit...I really messed up...

First of all I told him I wasnt a virgin and that i messed around with peeps like my friends...And then last night i told him i was...and then he was shocked...and then like man...I messed up...:Cry:

I don't know what to do people...Please...Im a lost person...

Here are the major points in your statement.

1. met guy online
2. under age drinking
3. have oral sex with a stranger the first time you meet him
4. you wouldn't have had sex with him if he wasn't cute
5. you want to be platonic friends with him after you had intercourse because he did put his penis inside of you.
6. he just broke up with his girlfriend two weeks ago and came to your place for sex
7. you have a boyfriend in the marines and is cheating on him.

Ask yourself which points above are positive enough to start a new friendship with a male you've already been intimate? Remember, friendship is based on trust and trust is not earned in a day, two days, or a week. It takes months to develop a friendship and years to fortify it.

Hmm...your right...but i feel i have all these crazy emotions going on and i don't know what to really do but feel really weird about everything...and god...am i just damn...im really leaning toward the friendship thing...but then u guys have good points...i don't know...im still so lost...
I suggest you walk away from him while you still have the opportunity.

I suggest you walk away from him while you still have the opportunity.

incognito said:

Well said. Very very well said.

I was thinking if i was to keep things mutual...I would bring him to the clinic with me so we both could get checked...I don't know...

angelinthepit said:

Umm... sounds like a lovely first date...

Stay away from him, hun. It sounds like he's not into a friendship, for whatever reason, and that's a blessing in disguise. You obviously don't have to do what any of us say, but take it into consideration at least.

You guys really are a shoulder to lean on...I really apreciate the time and thought of you guys about me...You peeps totally make sense, even my little 15yr. old bro thinks it was so wrong...and I do know it was so wrong...and i do want to try to fix it...Im going to go to the clinic maybe Monday...do i have to call in for an apointment? i checked this one out around downtown here in Chi-town...do i just go in? or call first? And all of this shit...is gonna never happen again...though i will never forget about it...

Though don't stop giving me your thoughts...im still disturbed...I really can't sleep at all man...That's why im in here cuz u guys help a lot...

angelinthepit said:

You're completely welcome, angel. The org can be really great - I came here all of the time after my last boyfriend I broke up and it helped me immensely.

Call into Planned Parenthood and ask just to be sure. The PP where I live has walk-in appointments for everything except annual exams and prescriptions for birth control, but it might be different in Chicago. The wait will be long, but it is definitely worth it.

If it's really bothering, then maybe you should look into talking to a professional. The org can help, but sometimes we all need a little help beyond that.