Just when you think you are over someone you fall back into that "frown" mode and wonder what went wrong...or what if we did that this way...would we be together?


Well...I need to know...what are some good ways to get over someone for good??? I'm having a hard time. Is anyone else here on the list not easily getting over a relationship?

Just drink alcohol and do alot of drugs

best thing i can tell you is talk it out with some of your best friends, spend some time with them.. go to a club, social scence.. i know how you feel, it's not easy at all but just try to find some interests that will keep your mind off of it

vgallo6 said:

i'm doing that but how much coke can one person snort?

vgallo6 said:

no, no... for once, i'll have to disagree with the "just get drunk or high and things will be better" theory, of which i am a nationally known spokesperson. women tend to use those opportunities to call the ex around midnight, drunk out of their minds, saying things they deeply regret the next morning. so this is likely the ONLY opportunity where sobriety is preferable - trust me, i know! now, back to my vodka tonic...

purplegypsy said:

Best thing to do is face it when you're ready for the answers but not until then. It's a natural inclination to ask how and why things went wrong in a person's relationship. I'm going through the same thing. Focus on the more positive things in your life, the positive relationships with friends, etc.

Whenever I think of what might have been (and I do from time to time) it's easy to get depressed. But I realize that I've made new and better relationships since then and for better or worse, it's a new beginning; although I'm still bitter and cynical to be honest.

I hate cliches but it really does take time before you're able to continue on with your life. Notice I didn't say before you get over it because I don't think anyone ever really does. The part I hate is that you will learn something from your relationships whether you want to or not. It seems that opening yourself up to someone always comes with a price and that's something I've yet to come to terms with. I wish I could be more help to you.
Give it time and stay strong.

purplegypsy said:

Date somebody else. Something simple: Go to a movie, go for a walk, a late lunch. Get an active social life. You'll be too busy to think about it.

NovaAngel said:

Thank you Nova Angel (i don't know your real name)--that was really sweet and very honest. Your response meant a lot. This isn't easy!!!

Watch a lot of funny movies!! When I was going through it everything was all about comedy, I would watch a lot of standup, read joke books anything that made me laugh I was attracted to. Stay away from love songs and don't brood in your saddness that's a big mistake. Love is a chemical that your body releases and it can either bring you euphoria or deep depression it's some really strong shit and the only anecdote i've found for it is laughter.

you never really get over anyone but you kinda just move onto a new problem i guess lol like "well that problems not to so important anymore...but this is"

Just try and keep Urself occupied like what's been said already. Sure, I'll be honest Ur still going 2 think about them time 2 time. But think about why the relationship went sour when U do. And look 4ward 2 the knowledge Ur gonna have a great time with some1 else who's gonna be much better than the last.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

hi gov'na!

Christopher said:

This is a serious thread U bastid!

JDINTERACTIVE said:

sorry

I've been dealing with this for the past two years. It helps to see the person completely or repeatedly humiliated.

Lammastide said:

Eeeevil, but funny

My advice is flirt like buggery and move on to the next one.

Soapstone said:

That's the way to do it! Once you've cried your eyes out and are sick of questioning every little nuance of what possibly could have gone wrong, just develop a crush on someone else. Even if it's only a harmless little crush. Works for me every time.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

Getting over someone can be extremely difficult, but take what JD says to heart, you will find someone else who will be a much better match for you, one who shares all of your likes and interests, a person who will share great times with you.

And if an individual finds him/herself in the role of the next significant other, please be kind, patient and understanding. This is a difficult situation for all parties involved, especially when the ex is still very much in the picture (for whatever reasons). Try to be confidant in the strength of your new relationship and remember to take things day to day. I'm find myself in this role and it is VERY DIFFICULT to remember to all of these things, but in the end I know my time with my man is worth all of the hard work and effort.

Just hang in there! A new beginning has started, try to welcome it.

Make a list of the good points and the bad points in the relationship.

If the bad points are stronger, look at that list every time you get sad... Worked for me...

Good luck... :hugh:

Think about all the things you wanted to do while you were in the relationship but couldn't...and DO THEM

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not wanting to sound heartless

it is all about love of self
ppl have got to learn to let go, they are only setting themselves up for a fall.
unfortunately, those of us who have a low self image, those who have done the least soul work.
inevitably find it the most difficult to let go
we must all accept that relationships like most things in life have a beginning and an end
once its time has come, then it is both parties interests to call it a day
if more energy was spent working on knowledge of self
and less about obsessing about what could be
then one wouldn't see it as an end but a begining to something new.
not detracting from the pain of the whole experience, but isn't it crazy to drag it out, to make your self suffer

i myself have always channeled this energy to create, to enhance my life rather than detract from it
not wanting to sound to idealised, but utlimately
it is one's progession in this universe that commands their
position in it

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