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Who's really in the control of the relationship? From my point of view, I know men r supposed 2 wear the pants in the relationship, but y'all know what the real deal is here  Just like in the game of chest the Queen basically take control of the whole game board... ahem, pay attention 2 the words "game" and "control".[This message was edited Wed Jun 25 19:23:11 PDT 2003 by Mizzunderstood] | |
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The one truly in control is the one with the most emotional "hold" or "effect" upon the other...however, that "hold" can be a temporary thing and a person can lose that hold. In that case, the person with the most money is then in control!
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why are you asking this question here on jerryspringer.org?
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Christopher said: why are you asking this querstion here on jerryspringer.org?
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I think the woman is really in control...guys like to think they are. But when it comes down to it, women are.  | |
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althom said: I think the woman is really in control...guys like to think they are. But when it comes down to it, women are.
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Mizzunderstood said: althom said: I think the woman is really in control...guys like to think they are. But when it comes down to it, women are.
u get 10 points for that answer Ta!  | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: The one truly in control is the one with the most emotional "hold" or "effect" upon the other...however, that "hold" can be a temporary thing and a person can lose that hold. In that case, the person with the most money is then in control!
[This message was edited Wed Jun 25 19:23:36 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo] That is so true it hurts! I'm never in control 
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Really? I'M in control, BUT...
I find that the key to a tranquil relationship is to let her THINK she's in control.
A relationship where the woman REALLY is in control... sorry ladies...  ...is in trouble, IMHO.Thanks for the laughs, arguments and overall enjoyment for the last umpteen years. It's time for me to retire from Prince.org and engage in the real world...lol. Above all, I appreciated the talent Prince. You were one of a kind. | |
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The one with the  is in control. The things you men do to get it. | |
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althom said: I think the woman is really in control...guys like to think they are. But when it comes down to it, women are.
well said my little buddie. | |
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Um. . .why would you want to control your relationships?
I control myself. My husband controls himself. The relationship doesn't need to be controlled. Am I stupid or something? | |
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tackam said: Um. . .why would you want to control your relationships?
I control myself. My husband controls himself. The relationship doesn't need to be controlled. Am I stupid or something?  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Mizzunderstood said: From my point of view, I know men r supposed 2 wear the pants in the relationship, but y'all know what the real deal is here
Just like in the game of chest the Queen basically take control of the whole game board... ahem, pay attention 2 the words "game" and "control".
[This message was edited Wed Jun 25 19:23:11 PDT 2003 by Mizzunderstood] Chess is a good analogy. Sure the Queen has the most moves, the most control. The funny thing is even if the King loses the Queen, the game still goes on without her. He's still got others to play with. Lose the King and it's game over for everybody. You can't even PLAY the game without your King. "I ordered no broth! Away with ye lest my cane find your backside!!"- Ralph Wiggum, Actor. | |
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I tend to agree with Tackam... Where did this word control come from, in regards to realtionships? ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: I tend to agree with Tackam... Where did this word control come from, in regards to realtionships?
Only weakminded people (women as well as men) feel the need to be controlling in a relationship. If you are secure within yourself, there's really no need is there? "I ordered no broth! Away with ye lest my cane find your backside!!"- Ralph Wiggum, Actor. | |
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Once I decided that I did not need to control the marriage/relationship I became a much happier person.
I found that when I thought I was in control my hubby was unhappy because he just did stuff to shut me up or keep me "happy". Now he does stuff for his happiness too and finds that he loves me even more because I let him be him and not who I thought I wnated him to be. took me a long time and a lot of therapy to learn that. 
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butterfli25 said: Once I decided that I did not need to control the marriage/relationship I became a much happier person.
I found that when I thought I was in control my hubby was unhappy because he just did stuff to shut me up or keep me "happy". Now he does stuff for his happiness too and finds that he loves me even more because I let him be him and not who I thought I wnated him to be. took me a long time and a lot of therapy to learn that. good observation...i too had the same control issues you did. it led to alot of 
sooner or later you get tired of controlling or the person gets tired of being controlled. it gets boring fast.  | |
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