I don't know many of you that well, but taking the chance that I'll never meet most of you, I'm gonna tell you something personal that has affected my life. I was wondering what would you have done in this situtation?
I have a half brother (different fathers), who I've always taken to heart as my whole brother love him till death. Well anyways when I got old enough my mom told me a story about his father. It turns out that my mother use to work for his father she was young new in the city I say she was about 17 at the time she was employed by this man. Well anyways she said one night she was working late and her boss (my brothers father) forced himself on her, basically rape her without the beating, she didn't resist because she was frightend, my mother never reported this to the police don't know why, though I do have my theories. Well my mother quits (of course) but turns out she's pregnant and she goes through with the pregnacy, she told me she hated that man so much that she wanted to close her legs and squeeze the life out of his baby that was coming out of her womb. When he impregnated my mom he was 18 years her senior so that would have made him 35 at the time. After hearing that story I never stopped loving my brother but I did hate his father, though I've never met him. Well anyways I seen his father in the grocery store a couple of days ago and became enraged but this guy is an old man now he might've had a heart attack if I even raised my voice at him, intstead of cursing him I just went over and introduced myself, didn't say a negative word but i'm sure he felt my hatred. Anyways to sum it up I was wondering what would you have done? I regret not cursing the old fucker, though it's been years since his transgression. Serious replies only please.
[This message was edited Wed Jun 25 23:26:25 PDT 2003 by sinisterpentatonic]

There's no right or wrong answer here. You did what you felt in your heart was the right and appropriate thing at the time. Accept that this was your choice, and that you did the right thing.

Most likely, I'd keep this to myself, though, as opposed to telling your mother about it. I doubt it would do her any good to hear anything about him.

I really don't know what advise I can give you. This is terrible...just give your mum all the support she needs.

Had it been me, and I am not a violent person, I would have fucked him up on the spot. Period.

It's good that you vented a little. He might be old, but he needs to know what he did was wrong.

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i understand your pain, but the simple truth here
is that the victim of this whole atrocity is your mother
and it is her wishes that need to be addressed
for what ever reason she chose to not go to the police
meaning she wishes to forget the whole experience
and not to be dragged through the system
not saying i agree, but that is her choice
the way one overcomes these situations is to rise above
the ignorance, to not continue the loop of violence
and remember that this is your mother's issue and not yours
nor your brother's
and to love and cherish her will add to all your souls
rather than dragging yo ass down to the level of that fiend
cos once you meet him on that level then he will touch
your soul, which in my experience is far worse, and end up hurting your mother all over again.

dont engage, dont give him that power

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[This message was edited Wed Jun 25 20:38:02 PDT 2003 by youngsoulrebel]

youngsoulrebel said:

Co-sign

It's not your deal, and I know it hurts but that's the way it is. That said,I give you major props for keeping your cool I probably would have bashed the asshole's brains in.Your Mom did what she thought was best and I give her a lot of credit for continuing the pregnancy and keeping and loving your brother. I do not think I could have done that.

And Please remember what ever we do in this life will be repaid in kind in the next. In other words, don't sweat it, that fucking bastard will rot in hell, I'm sure of it.

Your a bigger man than me. If he'd of forced himself on a member of my family I'd of killed him (old man or not).

I'd have greased him

I think you did the right thing. I wouldn't have blamed you if you did pop the guy in the mouth. If he was a bit younger I'd say go for it and bust his ass but since he's an old man it's good you held off. He's old anyway so take comfort in the fact that he'll die soon. Maybe you could keep in touch and when he's on his deathbed look him in the face and tell him that you know everything that he did to your mom. Then tell him that you hope he enjoys his stay in hell. Feel free to unload on this bastard.

After he croaks go home and give your mom a big hug and kiss. Then hang out with your bro and enjoy a nice cold beer ("in memory" of the phucker). All this may sound cold but this dude deserves no mercy. He raped your mom so f*ck him.
[This message was edited Thu Jun 26 5:10:13 PDT 2003 by NovaAngel]

Wow, what a thread!!

I must think about this, but I am happy you could share this with us here...

CAMILLE4U said:

Now that is the kind of thing my Dad and my brothers would do too. My Dad would kill and do time for me, if anyone messed me about.