CarrieLee said:

...and to think that I liked you.

*sniff*

IceNine said:

Oh you'll get over it!

CarrieLee said:

It is the fact that I actually liked you.

*sniff*

Are you wearing Kramer's sweater?

Just my 2 cents but...

Next date, do something where there's some other activity involved. This takes the pressure off of "having" to come up with small talk. You'll still get a chance to get to know each other and you may do something cool.

If that doesn't work, drink.

I suggest a heavy amount of drugs.

Slave2daGroove said:

What kind of activity?
Examples please.

This guy sounds so much like me, it's not even funny.

Around friends, (male and female), I am always laid back, cracking jokes, everyone laughs a lot, and not to sound full of myself, but most people seem to enjoy being around me.

I try to in any way appeal to women on a date or whatever, and I totally become quiet, apologetic, and try to be as bland and inoffensive as possible. I don't know why I choke, I just do. I think it's because we as men become afraid that women won't like our personalities, so on a first date we have no personality . Definitely the wrong way of doing things, but I can't help it.

Like in golf, I know I'm supposed to relax my swing, but every time I see that ball on the tee, I just want to crunch the shit out of it with all my might. I can't help doing what I know is wrong

He sounds nice though. I think that book buying thing was rather sweet of him

savoirfaire said:

Just be yourself. You shouldn't have to "act" a certain way around certain people.
Unless of course, "yourself" is a selfish, bastard, then maybe that's not such a good idea.

applekisses said:

If you can imagine a Moroccan guy, abou 5 foot 9, muscular, with long eyelashes then u know what I mean. But he also has a bit of a chunky baby face. Very cute.

(I feel like this is private women's conversation and all the men on the org r readin' it like, "Oh God" )

Slave2daGroove said:

Neither of us drink or do drugs. I suggested to him that next time we go to a less public place (famous last words). I felt inhibited at the restaurant and as someone pointed out, there aren't too mny places to look except right at the person- which he had no problem doing.

Thanx 4 all the advice ladies. And savoirfaire: I understand what you mean. I guess that's just a sign that u and him are 2 of those rare endangered species known as "good men."

CarrieLee: OMG that stuffed animal thing sounded horrible! Thank God for me it was just books! I can't believe u called him a peckerhead!

ANYWAY, just so all the men on here know: I'm not a total bitch. I went to a jazz club after he dropped me off, relaxed a bit and thought about how it all went. When I got home I wrote him an email apologizing for not talking that much and reassuring him I had a fun time and would like to meet him again. So it ain't like I'm completely leaving it up to him.

Next time do drugs. If you both have a nice acid trip, you'll have the best time.

EvilWhiteMale said:

He'll be your new best friend!

If things really get ackward...let him know of
your Prince fetish. He'll be sure to run away..
FAST!

Nep2nes said:

So you went out after he dropped you off? that's a real nice thing to do after an awkward date

So you don't drink but you hang in Jazz clubs?

The Jazz club was kind of what I was talking about. Don't judge on nervousness, judge on being a jerk.

althom said:

awww. maybe it's situational nerves, from the whole "date" element.

XxAxX said:

Exactly!

Moroccan tea tastes good. You should have taken him up on that.

Slave2daGroove said:

Umm, I went with my FATHER, as a father-daughter bonding experience, cuz my dad likes jazz (not me).

Sheesh, how we love to jump to conclusions!

jessyMD32781 said:

At his apartment on the first date?

Revolution said:

Cool thing is, he knows about my Prince fetish, and a lot of other not so great things about me, but he still wants to keep this thing going. Our next date will be tomorrow night or the night after. Wish me luck (again)

IceNine said:

Oh my gosh that is piss funny!

CarrieLee said:

ROTFLMAO! Did you REALLY say Pecker head?

REDFEATHERS said:

Yeah yeah yeah, laugh all ya want.

Okay.

EvilWhiteMale said:

<<

Hey, can I join you on the date? I'll get the party started.

Nep2nes said:

oopps. didn't quite see the apartment part.

hold on here...
You didn't ask him for the size of his penis as we recommended?
Or if he's a shower or a...what was the other term? nevermind.


you better listen to us next time.

Natsume said:

No, with LSD, there's the risk of a bad trip. Ecstasy would be a better choice to make a new friend or lover.