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Why would you want to have children? I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
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I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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it does take energy but I love being a mom. My daughter is a blessing. It's also a different dynamic with me being a single mom of an only child. My focus is only on her and we have a special bond which would change a little bit if I had another child.
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Some people just really adore children. And no matter if you are happy or not children can bring you happiness you never even knew you could have. I thank god for my children every day. Their smiles can warm my heart on the worst of days. I have wanted children since I can remember and now that I have em I would never want it any other way! He calls me "Holi" cuz he says everyday w/ me is like a Holiday... | |
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Kids are cool.
You can make them wash the dishes, go to the garage to buy you ciggies, hoover the carpet, fix you drinks and prepare your dinner. And if you're Pete Townsend you can make them suck your cock.   Some people are like Slinkies...
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Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
There's nothing wrong with not being ready, willing and/or able to start a family. If that time comes at all, it's different for different people. Even if you're the same age that your peers are and some of them have children, it doesn't mean that you should have them too. Ideally it's about where you are at a certain stage in your life, and whether or not you're ready for that responsibility. I'm just glad I'm not a kid growing up with the current generation of kids. There's a lot going on in this era that I'm glad I didn't have to deal with when I was younger. And on the other side of the coin, I don't wish I was still a kid in the '70s and '80s either. This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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minneapolisgenius said: I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. Cool, I get on with my parents really well too, and have always been loved to bits by them. I used to think along the same lines as you, I probably still do. So, what makes people think you'll end up alone and old if you don't have kids? And why does alone and old necessarily mean unhappy? I know that in my community, everyone without kids is looked down upon (in a 'feel sorry for them' kinda way).
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Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
If you are already happy and you see your happiness being dependent upon not having the physical, emotional, financial and other responsibilities that parenting brings with it, then becoming a parent is not a good idea - not least for the child's sake.ALT+PLS+RTN: Pure as a pane of ice. It's a gift. |
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Anji said: but what happens if you're already happy?
If your happy then that's cool. There is no reason for a particular individual to have them. It won't make a major diference to the good of the world. But some people don't feel satisfied unless they have. Also I think that having children is a way of preserving yourself. After your gone your still having an effect of the world because your responsible for some of the lovers and lusters inside it. Personally, I just love holding them. NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M  L L E” | |
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luv4thepurple1 said: Some people just really adore children. And no matter if you are happy or not children can bring you happiness you never even knew you could have. I thank god for my children every day. Their smiles can warm my heart on the worst of days. I have wanted children since I can remember and now that I have em I would never want it any other way! I think about this perspective too. The idea that they'll potentially be a new, different kind of happiness I'm not really aware of yet.
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Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. Cool, I get on with my parents really well too, and have always been loved to bits by them. I used to think along the same lines as you, I probably still do. So, what makes people think you'll end up alone and old if you don't have kids? And alone and old necessarily mean unhappy? I know that in my community, everyone without kids is kinda looked down upon (in a 'feel sorry for them' kinda way).
What made me realize that I eventually wanted kids was because of something that happened last year. I went to the funeral of one of my husband's great uncles. His wife was there (they were both in their 80's) and she was just devastated. About three weeks later, she died too. They had just been separated the month before because they were to live in two different nursing homes. They had never lived apart. They never had children, and no one but my husband's mother ever went to visit them. It was very sad. Before he died, my husband's great uncle used to call our house all the time, and just be really confused and sad, and just want to talk. I don't want to end up like that. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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Supernova said: Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
There's nothing wrong with not being ready, willing and/or able to start a family. If that time comes at all, it's different for different people. Even if you're the same age that your peers are and some of them have children, it doesn't mean that you should have them too. Ideally it's about where you are at a certain stage in your life, and whether or not you're ready for that responsibility. I'm just glad I'm not a kid growing up with the current generation of kids. There's a lot going on in this era that I'm glad I didn't have to deal with when I was younger. And on the other side of the coin, I don't wish I was still a kid in the '70s and '80s either.  | |
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langebleu said: Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
If you are already happy and you see your happiness being dependent upon not having the physical, emotional, financial and other responsibilities that parenting brings with it, then becoming a parent is not a good idea - not least for the child's sake. | |
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I don't know if I'll ever have children.
But if I will, it's mostly to share the most beautiful creation with the person I love the most. And to be able to appreciate life more, by creating one. or two  | |
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CAMILLE4U said: Anji said: but what happens if you're already happy?
If your happy then that's cool. There is no reason for a particular individual to have them. It won't make a major diference to the good of the world. But some people don't feel satisfied unless they have. Also I think that having children is a way of preserving yourself. | |
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minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. Cool, I get on with my parents really well too, and have always been loved to bits by them. I used to think along the same lines as you, I probably still do. So, what makes people think you'll end up alone and old if you don't have kids? And alone and old necessarily mean unhappy? I know that in my community, everyone without kids is kinda looked down upon (in a 'feel sorry for them' kinda way).
What made me realize that I eventually wanted kids was because of something that happened last year. I went to the funeral of one of my husband's great uncles. His wife was there (they were both in their 80's) and she was just devastated. About three weeks later, she died too. They had just been separated the month before because they were to live in two different nursing homes. They had never lived apart. They never had children, and no one but my husband's mother ever went to visit them. It was very sad. Before he died, my husband's great uncle used to call our house all the time, and just be really confused and sad, and just want to talk. I don't want to end up like that. | |
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Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. Cool, I get on with my parents really well too, and have always been loved to bits by them. I used to think along the same lines as you, I probably still do. So, what makes people think you'll end up alone and old if you don't have kids? And alone and old necessarily mean unhappy? I know that in my community, everyone without kids is kinda looked down upon (in a 'feel sorry for them' kinda way).
What made me realize that I eventually wanted kids was because of something that happened last year. I went to the funeral of one of my husband's great uncles. His wife was there (they were both in their 80's) and she was just devastated. About three weeks later, she died too. They had just been separated the month before because they were to live in two different nursing homes. They had never lived apart. They never had children, and no one but my husband's mother ever went to visit them. It was very sad. Before he died, my husband's great uncle used to call our house all the time, and just be really confused and sad, and just want to talk. I don't want to end up like that. Yeah. Except that family is putting on the pressurepressurepressure! for me to get pregnant! 
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Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
I think it'd be kinda sweet 
Though not yet...  Good God no
I do also share in part the same theory as minneapolis- so u are not alone when u are older... 
But other than that general I get on really well with my family we are always there for each other and are close... not many people i know share this type of bond with their families... I want (obviously in many years time) to create a family likewise- generally supportive and caring... Saying this as long as u are in love and happy with a person I don't suppose this matters JaneyPoos used to be it... then they changed what it was. Now what I am isn't it and what is it is strange and frightening to me...
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everything else we do is just a complication or repression of the urge to reproduce and keep our thing going... My art book: http://www.lulu.com/spotl...ecomicskid
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ufoclub said: mmm... the only purpose of life on earth is to propogate itself until the our cycle's time is up...
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minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. Cool, I get on with my parents really well too, and have always been loved to bits by them. I used to think along the same lines as you, I probably still do. So, what makes people think you'll end up alone and old if you don't have kids? And alone and old necessarily mean unhappy? I know that in my community, everyone without kids is kinda looked down upon (in a 'feel sorry for them' kinda way).
What made me realize that I eventually wanted kids was because of something that happened last year. I went to the funeral of one of my husband's great uncles. His wife was there (they were both in their 80's) and she was just devastated. About three weeks later, she died too. They had just been separated the month before because they were to live in two different nursing homes. They had never lived apart. They never had children, and no one but my husband's mother ever went to visit them. It was very sad. Before he died, my husband's great uncle used to call our house all the time, and just be really confused and sad, and just want to talk. I don't want to end up like that. Yeah. Except that family is putting on the pressurepressurepressure! for me to get pregnant!
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Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. Cool, I get on with my parents really well too, and have always been loved to bits by them. I used to think along the same lines as you, I probably still do. So, what makes people think you'll end up alone and old if you don't have kids? And alone and old necessarily mean unhappy? I know that in my community, everyone without kids is kinda looked down upon (in a 'feel sorry for them' kinda way).
What made me realize that I eventually wanted kids was because of something that happened last year. I went to the funeral of one of my husband's great uncles. His wife was there (they were both in their 80's) and she was just devastated. About three weeks later, she died too. They had just been separated the month before because they were to live in two different nursing homes. They had never lived apart. They never had children, and no one but my husband's mother ever went to visit them. It was very sad. Before he died, my husband's great uncle used to call our house all the time, and just be really confused and sad, and just want to talk. I don't want to end up like that. Yeah. Except that family is putting on the pressurepressurepressure! for me to get pregnant!
Now that's annoying. Yep. You thought I was a man this whole time? After talking about my husband and all? [This message was edited Tue May 20 14:02:53 PDT 2003 by minneapolisgenius] "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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JaneyPoos said: Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
I think it'd be kinda sweet
Though not yet... Good God no
I do also share in part the same theory as minneapolis- so u are not alone when u are older...
But other than that general I get on really well with my family we are always there for each other and are close... not many people i know share this type of bond with their families... I want (obviously in many years time) to create a family likewise- generally supportive and caring... Saying this as long as u are in love and happy with a person I don't suppose this matters | |
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I want more children... why? Selfish reasons... one being that I loved being pregnant.
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Anji said: I don't think it's good enough a reason to have children just because that's what everyone else is doing. So what is? I agree.
The reason that I decided to try to become a parent was because both myself and my wife felt we wanted to share our love and happiness with the responsibility of any new life with which we were blessed. ALT+PLS+RTN: Pure as a pane of ice. It's a gift. |
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minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: Anji said: minneapolisgenius said: I have no kids yet, but the main reason I probably will have them later is because I would feel lonely in later life without them. I have such a good relationship with my parents, and I will always be there for them. So, I don't want get really old and have no one, no family of my own to visit me and care for me. I would just end up taking a bunch of meds and ending it all if I end up alone and old. Cool, I get on with my parents really well too, and have always been loved to bits by them. I used to think along the same lines as you, I probably still do. So, what makes people think you'll end up alone and old if you don't have kids? And alone and old necessarily mean unhappy? I know that in my community, everyone without kids is kinda looked down upon (in a 'feel sorry for them' kinda way).
What made me realize that I eventually wanted kids was because of something that happened last year. I went to the funeral of one of my husband's great uncles. His wife was there (they were both in their 80's) and she was just devastated. About three weeks later, she died too. They had just been separated the month before because they were to live in two different nursing homes. They had never lived apart. They never had children, and no one but my husband's mother ever went to visit them. It was very sad. Before he died, my husband's great uncle used to call our house all the time, and just be really confused and sad, and just want to talk. I don't want to end up like that. Yeah. Except that family is putting on the pressurepressurepressure! for me to get pregnant!
Now that's annoying. Yep. You thought I was a man this whole time? After talking about my husband and all?  | |
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Anji said: JaneyPoos said: Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
I think it'd be kinda sweet
Though not yet... Good God no
I do also share in part the same theory as minneapolis- so u are not alone when u are older...
But other than that general I get on really well with my family we are always there for each other and are close... not many people i know share this type of bond with their families... I want (obviously in many years time) to create a family likewise- generally supportive and caring... Saying this as long as u are in love and happy with a person I don't suppose this matters  yay i did a funny 
I don't mean i want kids right now!!! Hell no!!! Infact i wasnt too keen at all it was jus'at the weekend i had to look after my nephew(5) and niece(3) and i loved it the way they looked up to me and craved my love and attention...
they are little shits most of the time though 
not many perks really i spose JaneyPoos used to be it... then they changed what it was. Now what I am isn't it and what is it is strange and frightening to me...
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Anji said: Supernova said: Anji said: I understand why many people have children, and what makes them feel that their lot are an invaluable source of happiness, but what happens if you're already happy? Why would you want to have children then? Aren't they just an incredible drain? Don't get me wrong; I like cute, fat, sumo-wrestler style babies, but that's not the point.
There's nothing wrong with not being ready, willing and/or able to start a family. If that time comes at all, it's different for different people. Even if you're the same age that your peers are and some of them have children, it doesn't mean that you should have them too. Ideally it's about where you are at a certain stage in your life, and whether or not you're ready for that responsibility. I'm just glad I'm not a kid growing up with the current generation of kids. There's a lot going on in this era that I'm glad I didn't have to deal with when I was younger. And on the other side of the coin, I don't wish I was still a kid in the '70s and '80s either. That could be the case. There are those who say they don't want kids, but end up wanting them later on in life. This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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AzureStar said: I want more children... why? Selfish reasons... one being that I loved being pregnant.
Babooney! So, did you look sexy when you were pregnant?! And did you have any cravings?
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