pejman said:

Can I???

Me, Jealous???
NOT GONNA HAPPEN!!!
you either have trust, or you don't.

There is a proper and an improper type of jealousy.
It is proper to be jealous for the people you love.
This kind of jealousy makes you protect your love ones.
You will not stand idly by an allow their charater nor their
person to be attacked.
This is jealousy for another.

It is also proper to feel protective of the affection due you by your loved-ones.

Improper jealousy is suspicious...unfounded and cruel.
No one benefits from it.

Another improper jealousy is jeaousy OF someone else
because you want something they have.

My

SensualMelody said:

Sounds like another detrimental emotion; hate. Jealousy uncontained will lead straight to all out hatefulness. When someone says I hate this or that, what they are really saying is I'm jealous of this or that, or I want this or that, and I can't have this or that, so I hate you for this or that.

Contain the jealousy -- contain the hate, problems solved.

I don't know about jealousy... but I really hate that this thread has been viewed so many times!

What's my opinion on bacon you ask?

bacon

bkw said:

lol,

anywhoo its natural i guess...but some people go to far.

it's natural...and bad..

i think times of extreme jealousy has really only occurred when i knew deep down the relationship was falling apart anyways...

For the most part, Waste of time!

KingBAD said:

:nod; I agree!! Key word trust!!!

June7 said:

Hmmm...I'm feeling a connection here:

http://www.prince.org/msg...&tid=48521

pejman said:

natural but it can a very dangerous thign

I am not a jealous person, whatsoever..

And I make the person I am with feel important enough so that emotion never enters our relationship...

I think it is a very natural emotion...

but MUST be kept in check..

a little jealousy isn't such a bad thing...

can be flattering and or complimentary in tiny doses.

...thought ya new!!...

for me, emotions, in and of themselves, are neither good nor bad, they are just feelings. everyone has them. some are more in touch with them, some are less in touch with them. some wallow in them, some deny they ever have them. some are victims of them, either through hyper-sensitivity, or by being unconsciously driven by them.

what can be good or bad is how i express, deal, or not deal with them.

therapist edit
[This message was edited Wed May 14 12:28:17 PDT 2003 by medoc2003]

I think jealousy is natural and a healthy part of any relationship as long as it isn't drawn out to the extreems.

REDFEATHERS said:

Actually, jealousy only shows how insecure we are...it has abso-fuckin-lutely nothing to do with how much we "care"...

The more insecure we are, the more intense the level of jealousy...

wellbeyond said:

Ditto...dude!

sag10 said:

Duuude...!! 8)

wellbeyond said:

Double dildo dude woops I really meant ditto

pejman said:

double ditto that is what I totally think it has to do with insecurity !!!
[This message was edited Wed May 14 17:01:03 PDT 2003 by pejman]

you mean jealous in the context of when you're with your lover? or in general? i think it's a sign of insecurity when one partner is always jealous of their lover's relations with others. people should definitely give each other breathing room in that regard. it's important to have other friends.

but, if it's jealous as in the context of you know your lover is prone to fucking around on the sly and thereby maybe exposing your condomless ass to STDs without your knowledge, then jealousy is more than appropriate, it's smart. actually, total escape would be. .

XxAxX said:

nicely said and I meant any kind of jealousy... I'll tell ya though anybody that has hard evidence on their (prone to fucking around on the sly) partner oughta kick them to the curb immediately!!!

pejman said:

Insecurity

DexMSR said:

:amen:

I think that jealousy is stupid.Alot of people get jealous when they r involved with someone and they see them talking or flirting with someone but i think that if a person is going 2 be an ass then they r not worth my time.God made me 4 who i am and if nobody can't accept that then oh well.Love me or leave me!!