Why would someone act like they are happy? Or fake like they had a good time? Doesn't this type of behaviour do more harm than good?

Man... I thought this was another orgasm thread!

To answer your question... some people fake they
are happy cause they dont want others to know
they are unhappy.

Some people act as if they have had a good time
when they havent for fear of hurting the other
persons feelings.

And yes... it does more harm because it
can be misleading and unreal!

Perhaps because it is easier to let everyone be under the impression that everything is "good" so that they don't worry or stress about things. Or, to make everyone else happy, so that they aren't upset or sad. I could think of many reasons why someone would do this.

Is it harmful? Probably... I'd imagine to everyone involved. Harmful to the one doing the "faking", as well as harmful to relationships that person is in. I would imagine it would put a lot of stress, etc., on the person who was "faking the happiness"... but those people (those who do this), may rather have the sadness or unhappiness come to them than to come to anyone else.

luv4thepurple1 said:

I can see that being very true as well.

SuperC said:

Because they're cattle instead of individuals.

AzureStar said:

As I can with your response also!

"Hey... How you doing???"
"Shit, my dog died, my girlfriend and my mother are having
an affair behind my back with eachother. Jerry Spinger just called and said My father needs to tell me somethin,
and i got this itch rite in the crack of my ass that's been gettin worse for the last two week"

00769BAD said:

You know what. Think of the poor person that you don't tell that to. They end up with an itch in the crack of their ass because you couldn't deal with your issues and be upfront with them.

SuperC said:

SuperC said:

Depends! In a relationship or what scenario?

SuperC said:

ROLFMAO!!

Muse2noPharaoh said:

Either, should it matter. Are we all actors? Putting our best foot forward to fool someone into thinking we are something we are not. Could this be why so many relationships fail?

SuperC said:

If someone's not happy they should just come out and say it, hiding the truth does more harm then good.

SuperC said:

Maybe I don't understand the question. I think there is no harm in say going to certain events you really don't like to please another. I can almost always make a great time out of anything. However if it is with someone I love or will spend time with and not a once in awhile thing... Then yes it is wrong. I think you were going somewhere else with this one though.

SuperC said:

Is it a matter of fooling someone into thinking we are someone we're not, or giving the impression to people to think we are happy, when we are not, and that life is going just a-okay.

I think there is a big difference in "acting" like you are happy, when you're not and saying that your life is (insert whatever happy, fantastic, thing here) and that wonderful things are going on when they are not. (Or is that not what you meant when you said "fool someone into thinking we are something we are not)?

Obviously, both would be lying... but the former would be hiding your true feelings and and the later would be making up stories to boost yourself to another. Which are we talking about here? Or both?



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AzureStar, come to me on the MSN por favor.

Muse2noPharaoh said:

Sometimes it is acceptable. But i'm talking on a regular basis.

AzureStar said:

A little of everything. Let's say you were feeling down and didn't let your partner or friend know it. Then all of the sudden you either snapped at them(because of all the pressure of holding it in) or you hurt yourself(making the partner or friend feel like shit because they wasn't there for you). If don't on a regular basis i can see any good that will come out of it.






Truth Hurts but rarely kills edit
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SuperC said:

That's what I'm screamin'! Everyday I go to work, people are smiling and saying "Hi! How are you?" all happy. I told this guy "Do you really want to know? You shouldn't ask people that because they may not be doing well." He got offended, but I was going through a tough time and I didn't want people asking how I was and then look at me crazy cuz I didn't smile and say "fine" One guy told me every one should be happy and I was like shiiit.

SuperC said:

What if you did let your partner or friend know about your feeling down... you have then caused them to worry about you and take up time thinking about you and if you're going to be okay... whereas, say, you simply made everything like it was okay... then, the partner or friend has no concerns what-so-ever and life just carries on.

Of course, it is different when it is a fly-by-night thing that you are down... then, of course, one shouldn't have any reason to keep that a secret from friends, family or their partner.

I guess it all really just depends. Who can say?

SuperC said:

Ha...ha! What a wonderful and funny thread.

althom said:

Your confused again aint ya? :LOL:
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althom said:

You sippin on the supersauce again??

SuperC said:

Supersauce

I understand the direction of it now. It really is a tough one! I have seen a lot of that. For numerous reasons. Maybe fear that the person would do harm to themselves or a sense of duty. Often the reason I hear given is out of "kindness." Which is so unkind. ( I have never liked the word kind much because it always has such a false ring to it somehow.)
I have also been close to both sides and noted that the "kind" party is being held there by the partner. Often the partner KNOWS they are unhappy and chooses to remain attached firmly. Seeing it as there stability or happiness anyway. Both parties are wrong. More of a shared blame situation. That sucks for all involved. I would think it is rare for both parties not to realize the situation. I am certain most of the time the one knows the other is behaving falsely.
In these scenarios then C, it is entirely wrong to behave in a false manner. Good topic. I like that, Thank you.

Saying you are unhappy is the same as admitting that something is wrong. With you. And nobody likes being wrong. Or something like that.

Muse2noPharaoh said:

Muse2noPharaoh said:

Well said Muse.