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Loneliness People never want to admit that their lonely.
Some people say it's a choice and I say just say you feel lonely. It's a human feeling. I have been trying to understand why I don't fit in with many people. Sometimes I think I'm from another planet because I feel alone in a crowd of thousands. | |
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Slave2daGroove said: People never want to admit that their lonely.
Some people say it's a choice and I say just say you feel lonely. It's a human feeling. I have been trying to understand why I don't fit in with many people. Sometimes I think I'm from another planet because I feel alone in a crowd of thousands. Everyone is lonely sometimes. I too just accept it as part of being human. I don't know why most of us feel so isolated in everyday life, though. It seems like we've sort of forgotten how to connect to each other. Or never knew. | |
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tackam said: Slave2daGroove said: People never want to admit that their lonely.
Some people say it's a choice and I say just say you feel lonely. It's a human feeling. I have been trying to understand why I don't fit in with many people. Sometimes I think I'm from another planet because I feel alone in a crowd of thousands. Everyone is lonely sometimes. I too just accept it as part of being human. I don't know why most of us feel so isolated in everyday life, though. It seems like we've sort of forgotten how to connect to each other. Or never knew. That makes sense. I think it helps to remember that we all want and need the same things. Those are some things that are common ground and connect us as humans. | |
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Slave2daGroove said: People never want to admit that their lonely.
Some people say it's a choice and I say just say you feel lonely. It's a human feeling. I have been trying to understand why I don't fit in with many people. Sometimes I think I'm from another planet because I feel alone in a crowd of thousands. Loneliness is a human condition...there is nothing or no one that will make it go away...it's a feeling...feel it and let it go... as for feeling alone in a crowd, I can totally relate there... "...literal people are scary, man literal people scare me out there trying to rid the world of its poetry while getting it wrong fundamentally down at the church of "look, it says right here, see!" - ani difranco | |
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i am very lonely...
i have been told repeatedly over the years that you should not define yourself by wether or not you are in a relationship, but i can't help it. i have more freinds than i know what to do with, but i do not have a man. a lot of this i am sure stems from the fact that i am very very shy about asking someone out, and out of fear of rejection choose to let them ask me out. what can i say? i am clinging to the knight on a white steed fantasy... Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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cborgman said: i am very lonely...
i have been told repeatedly over the years that you should not define yourself by wether or not you are in a relationship, but i can't help it. i have more freinds than i know what to do with, but i do not have a man. a lot of this i am sure stems from the fact that i am very very shy about asking someone out, and out of fear of rejection choose to let them ask me out. what can i say? i am clinging to the knight on a white steed fantasy... He'll come. The situation you describe was very much how I felt for a long time. My knight came along eventually (in fact I'd known him for a while but never had the nerve to ask him out - thank god for alcohol!) and loneliness is a thing of the past. Don't give up, you sound far too nice to be alone for too much longer. ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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"The last philosopher I call myself, for I am the last human being. No one converses with me beside myself and my voice reaches me as the voice of one dying. With thee, beloved voice, with thee, the last remembered breath of all human happiness, let me discourse, even if it is only for another hour. Because of thee, I delude myself as to my solitude and lie my way back to multiplicity and love, for my heart shies away from believing that love is dead. It cannot bear the icy shivers of loneliest solitude. It compels me to speak as though I were two." - Nietzsche SUPERJOINT RITUAL - http://www.superjointritual.com
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IceNine said: "The last philosopher I call myself, for I am the last human being. No one converses with me beside myself and my voice reaches me as the voice of one dying. With thee, beloved voice, with thee, the last remembered breath of all human happiness, let me discourse, even if it is only for another hour. Because of thee, I delude myself as to my solitude and lie my way back to multiplicity and love, for my heart shies away from believing that love is dead. It cannot bear the icy shivers of loneliest solitude. It compels me to speak as though I were two." - Nietzsche
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1800NewHunk said: He'll come. The situation you describe was very much how I felt for a long time. My knight came along eventually (in fact I'd known him for a while but never had the nerve to ask him out - thank god for alcohol!) and loneliness is a thing of the past. Don't give up, you sound far too nice to be alone for too much longer. thanks new hunk. it's nice to know that the dream does come true. it doesn't help that my last bf really traumatized me pretty severely and forever altered my life. my therapist keeps telling me that my innner self really doesn't want a boyfriend, that i just need to spend this time and recover from the derek experience, which will take some time. but time i no longer have in abudance. i need someone while i am still around, while i am still healthy and alive. a husband and kids are the only things i have ever really wanted and the only thing i have never really gotten. and now to add the pressure of racing against the clock makes it even more frusterating. ::le sigh:: Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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cborgman said: i am very lonely...
i have been told repeatedly over the years that you should not define yourself by wether or not you are in a relationship, but i can't help it. i have more freinds than i know what to do with, but i do not have a man. a lot of this i am sure stems from the fact that i am very very shy about asking someone out, and out of fear of rejection choose to let them ask me out. what can i say? i am clinging to the knight on a white steed fantasy... I think fear of rejection is a big part of why we are isolated, and not just from romantic relationships. We do all want the same things, but we're not sure that anybdy wants them from US, so we don't offer our selves/friendship/love to others. Just having the guts to say, "I think you're cool, wanna spend some time together?", when the other person might say, "uh, no thank you" is so, so hard sometimes. | |
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1800NewHunk said: He'll come. The situation you describe was very much how I felt for a long time. My knight came along eventually (in fact I'd known him for a while but never had the nerve to ask him out - thank god for alcohol!) and loneliness is a thing of the past. Don't give up, you sound far too nice to be alone for too much longer. special Gold Star awarded 2 1800NewHunk 4 all-round niceness and goin outta His way 2 show He cares! | |
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bananacologne said: 1800NewHunk said: He'll come. The situation you describe was very much how I felt for a long time. My knight came along eventually (in fact I'd known him for a while but never had the nerve to ask him out - thank god for alcohol!) and loneliness is a thing of the past. Don't give up, you sound far too nice to be alone for too much longer. special Gold Star awarded 2 1800NewHunk 4 all-round niceness and goin outta His way 2 show He cares! big time co-sign Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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IceNine said: "The last philosopher I call myself, for I am the last human being. No one converses with me beside myself and my voice reaches me as the voice of one dying. With thee, beloved voice, with thee, the last remembered breath of all human happiness, let me discourse, even if it is only for another hour. Because of thee, I delude myself as to my solitude and lie my way back to multiplicity and love, for my heart shies away from believing that love is dead. It cannot bear the icy shivers of loneliest solitude. It compels me to speak as though I were two." - Nietzsche
I love this. Nietzsche was a genius but Jim Morrison taught me that. Thanks for this post, Ice, it's right on. | |
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Thanks guys. It's not easy being lonely, and the gay scene isn't always the friendliest place in the world if you're single, so I just wanted to give cborg a big virtual hug. ----------------------------------------------------------------------
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applekisses said: tackam said: Slave2daGroove said: People never want to admit that their lonely.
Some people say it's a choice and I say just say you feel lonely. It's a human feeling. I have been trying to understand why I don't fit in with many people. Sometimes I think I'm from another planet because I feel alone in a crowd of thousands. Everyone is lonely sometimes. I too just accept it as part of being human. I don't know why most of us feel so isolated in everyday life, though. It seems like we've sort of forgotten how to connect to each other. Or never knew. That makes sense. I think it helps to remember that we all want and need the same things. Those are some things that are common ground and connect us as humans. As a guy, it's like be strong and don't show weakness. That's conditioned into us but you're right AppleKisses, it's the common connection that makes us all humans. I've never seen this thread before and I think some people on the Org are lonely. | |
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bananacologne said: 1800NewHunk said: He'll come. The situation you describe was very much how I felt for a long time. My knight came along eventually (in fact I'd known him for a while but never had the nerve to ask him out - thank god for alcohol!) and loneliness is a thing of the past. Don't give up, you sound far too nice to be alone for too much longer. special Gold Star awarded 2 1800NewHunk 4 all-round niceness and goin outta His way 2 show He cares! Right on! I care too! | |
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1800NewHunk said: Thanks guys. It's not easy being lonely, and the gay scene isn't always the friendliest place in the world if you're single, so I just wanted to give cborg a big virtual hug. thanks new hunk but look at me, jacking this thread. it ain't about me... Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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Slave2daGroove said: bananacologne said: 1800NewHunk said: He'll come. The situation you describe was very much how I felt for a long time. My knight came along eventually (in fact I'd known him for a while but never had the nerve to ask him out - thank god for alcohol!) and loneliness is a thing of the past. Don't give up, you sound far too nice to be alone for too much longer. special Gold Star awarded 2 1800NewHunk 4 all-round niceness and goin outta His way 2 show He cares! Right on! I care too! gold star for you for caring and for starting what will probably be one of the best threads of the week. Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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Actually I met my current boyfriend while i just abandonned all hope for really meeting a nice guy. I just had a attempt go all wrong and I didn't want to be with anyone. I was enjoying being alone. But at a newyears'reception was ready for bigtime party; loads of wine and acting silly. i bumped into him in the café tarted talking about all kinds of stuff. I forgot I hadn't eaten and we both were quite drunk and causing a bit of a scene kissing eachother for everyone to see
But we're still together, being very serious about it, and the litle daughter is very cool; waking us up in the morning singing very loudly at 7 a.m. :0) The HQ-er formerly known as krokostimpy. | |
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euhm - what i was trying to say befor i got wired up in my own story again: friends, health etc are the cake that is life. A boyfriend is the cherry. The HQ-er formerly known as krokostimpy. | |
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zobilamouche said: Actually I met my current boyfriend while i just abandonned all hope for really meeting a nice guy. I just had a attempt go all wrong and I didn't want to be with anyone. I was enjoying being alone. But at a newyears'reception was ready for bigtime party; loads of wine and acting silly. i bumped into him in the café tarted talking about all kinds of stuff. I forgot I hadn't eaten and we both were quite drunk and causing a bit of a scene kissing eachother for everyone to see
But we're still together, being very serious about it, and the litle daughter is very cool; waking us up in the morning singing very loudly at 7 a.m. :0) how did you two recieve her? adoption? surrogate? previous relationship? i am sooo jealous in a happy for you kind of way. i want kids so bad Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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Slave2daGroove said: applekisses said: tackam said: Slave2daGroove said: People never want to admit that their lonely.
Some people say it's a choice and I say just say you feel lonely. It's a human feeling. I have been trying to understand why I don't fit in with many people. Sometimes I think I'm from another planet because I feel alone in a crowd of thousands. Everyone is lonely sometimes. I too just accept it as part of being human. I don't know why most of us feel so isolated in everyday life, though. It seems like we've sort of forgotten how to connect to each other. Or never knew. That makes sense. I think it helps to remember that we all want and need the same things. Those are some things that are common ground and connect us as humans. As a guy, it's like be strong and don't show weakness. That's conditioned into us but you're right AppleKisses, it's the common connection that makes us all humans. I've never seen this thread before and I think some people on the Org are lonely. Just thinking about that common connection makes me not feel lonely | |
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applekisses said: Just thinking about that common connection makes me not feel lonely amen to that... god bless the org! my family that i have never even met face to face Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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Quick thought: it's very possible to still feel lonely while in a relationship. I certainly did in my last one. Having a significant other is not a cure for loneliness, but finding true love is...
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The holidays are the worst.
My favorite saying is; "Yeah, I don't mind being single, it's just that 4 month period between Thanksgiving and Valentines Day that bothers me" | |
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cborgman said: applekisses said: Just thinking about that common connection makes me not feel lonely amen to that... god bless the org! my family that i have never even met face to face Awww... | |
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My friend was married - shortly; and they had a litle daughter. she was only 6 months when they seperated; so she isn't confused when she sees her dad with me instead of with the mom.
I ended up with him when I accepted going through life alone. so; you really never know. The HQ-er formerly known as krokostimpy. | |
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zobilamouche said: My friend was married - shortly; and they had a litle daughter. she was only 6 months when they seperated; so she isn't confused when she sees her dad with me instead of with the mom.
I ended up with him when I accepted going through life alone. so; you really never know. you can say boyfriend, zobila, we are very open-minded here. ya'll are so lucky Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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Yeah, lonliness can be a bitch. Imagine being in High School and feeling like the only Gay person in the world.This was the reality for me.Not having any gay role models and high school clubs for gays & lesbians didn't exist back than.I felt like the only gay person in high school.thank god for my passion for music.Listening to prince, the smiths,bahaus helped me cope...Sorry if this has become a gay theme thread. I see a lot of my gay org mafia posting chris, dont worry someday your real prince will come!! | |
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PhilG said: Yeah, lonliness can be a bitch. Imagine being in High School and feeling like the only Gay person in the world.This was the reality for me.Not having any gay role models and high school clubs for gays & lesbians didn't exist back than.I felt like the only gay person in high school.thank god for my passion for music.Listening to prince, the smiths,bahaus helped me cope...Sorry if this has become a gay theme thread. I see a lot of my gay org mafia posting chris, dont worry someday your real prince will come!!
yea, i know, we of the mafia kinda jacked this thread somehow... thank u phil, i appreciate the support. Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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