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Thread started 03/21/23 6:56am

ShellyMcG

Good news & Bad news

I honestly don't know whether to laugh or cry. Have any of you ever received really good news which was followed by really bad news shortly after and you don't really know how to feel about it all?

Ok, a bit of backstory to this random post. I moved to Ireland not long after my boyfriend died in an accident, just before our son was born. That was nearly 10 years ago now. Since then, I've never had a single date with a guy. I'm not a bad looking girl or anything, I don't think. I mean, I've had offers but I've just not been interested. That all changed just recently when I've started seeing a friend in a different light, let's say. Long story short, he told me last night that he's had feelings for me for a long time and the feeling is more than mutual. So far so good, right? Like, I really like this guy. A lot.

BUT!

This morning, I get an email from work saying that I'm being let go. Nothing to do with my performance or anything. They're just cutting costs across the board. I've worked there almost 8 years. I'm devastated to be leaving. I don't have any qualifications (the perks of being a mother at 20) and I honestly don't know what I'm going to do. I know it could be worse. I don't pay rent or have a mortgage but I've never been a good saver and I don't exactly have a big nest egg to fall back on.

The future is very uncertain at the moment. But at least my love life has never been better. I have to laugh. Because if I don't, I will cry. I suppose I'm just looking for reassurance. Although the fact that I'm looking for reassurance from random people on the internet probably says a lot about me. I just don't really have anyone else to talk to anymore.
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Reply #1 posted 03/21/23 9:11am

RJOrion

May peace & blessings be upon you
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Reply #2 posted 03/21/23 3:07pm

S2DG

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When you feel like your world is ending, just realize that it's not the end, it's just a chapter of your life.

Like your the hero of this story – the movie never ends when shit gets real, does it? No, that's when things get better and sometimes, just sometimes, makes our hero realize it was for the best.

The job thing will work itself out because you will figure it out and while those are just words, you really will, because you want to.

Congrats on the new relationship, that's another part of your story, write a good next chapter with that as well!

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Reply #3 posted 03/22/23 5:42pm

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At least you have someone there in your corner while you have to look for a new job. Don't despair; hang in there one day at a time! Our best wishes go with you! hug

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato

https://youtu.be/CVwv9LZMah0
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Reply #4 posted 03/24/23 5:58pm

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When 1 door opens, another closes!

It sounds like it's a great time for you to have new beginnings. hug

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Reply #5 posted 03/26/23 2:49pm

ShellyMcG

Thanks guys. I think I just let the situation get the better of me. I'm feeling much better about it now. I'm not out of a job until May/June so I have plenty of time to find a new job. I'm still pretty pissed about how it's been dealt with but there's no point in crying over spilled milk.

And on the plus side, my first date in 10 years went well. Really well.
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Reply #6 posted 04/01/23 12:57pm

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I was made redundant at 30 in a job I’d had for 8 years.
I was very scared of change which is why I’d stayed so long and it was going nowhere. I was devastated.

Whilst that was going on, I was in a very unhappy marriage. That ultimately ended around two years later.

Anyway, I dove into a new profession I’d always fancied but didn’t pursue.

That redundancy AND the end of the marriage (both extremely devastating times in my life) ended up being the best things that have ever happened to me.

Sounds like you have something great that can help you through this bad (but probably ultimately good) thing that’s happened.

That’s not going to stop the very real feeling of being lost right now but there’s a fucking bright light at the end of the tunnel.
If the milk turns out to be sour, I aint the kinda pussy to drink it!
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Reply #7 posted 04/01/23 2:22pm

ShellyMcG

lust said:

I was made redundant at 30 in a job I’d had for 8 years.
I was very scared of change which is why I’d stayed so long and it was going nowhere. I was devastated.

Whilst that was going on, I was in a very unhappy marriage. That ultimately ended around two years later.

Anyway, I dove into a new profession I’d always fancied but didn’t pursue.

That redundancy AND the end of the marriage (both extremely devastating times in my life) ended up being the best things that have ever happened to me.

Sounds like you have something great that can help you through this bad (but probably ultimately good) thing that’s happened.

That’s not going to stop the very real feeling of being lost right now but there’s a fucking bright light at the end of the tunnel.


You have no idea what this comment means to me. Seriously. I'm not feeling as bad as I did that first day I found out and made this thread. But I'm still feeling really fucking shitty. So things like this and what others have said here means so so much to me. I don't want to get too deep into it because I don't want to come across as though I'm looking for sympathy or anything but the last year has been especially tough for me, on a personal level. So it's just really great to be able to talk to someone (ANYONE) and feel like I'm not alone.
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Reply #8 posted 04/01/23 6:09pm

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ShellyMcG said:

lust said:

I was made redundant at 30 in a job I’d had for 8 years.
I was very scared of change which is why I’d stayed so long and it was going nowhere. I was devastated.

Whilst that was going on, I was in a very unhappy marriage. That ultimately ended around two years later.

Anyway, I dove into a new profession I’d always fancied but didn’t pursue.

That redundancy AND the end of the marriage (both extremely devastating times in my life) ended up being the best things that have ever happened to me.

Sounds like you have something great that can help you through this bad (but probably ultimately good) thing that’s happened.

That’s not going to stop the very real feeling of being lost right now but there’s a fucking bright light at the end of the tunnel.


You have no idea what this comment means to me. Seriously. I'm not feeling as bad as I did that first day I found out and made this thread. But I'm still feeling really fucking shitty. So things like this and what others have said here means so so much to me. I don't want to get too deep into it because I don't want to come across as though I'm looking for sympathy or anything but the last year has been especially tough for me, on a personal level. So it's just really great to be able to talk to someone (ANYONE) and feel like I'm not alone.


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If the milk turns out to be sour, I aint the kinda pussy to drink it!
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Reply #9 posted 04/10/23 1:23am

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There's a phenomenon in life that doesn't get much coverage because people tend to either be glass half-full or glass half-empty types.

In reality the glass is right smack in the middle. There is truly balance in the force. You gotta watch your back most when things are at their best.

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