independent and unofficial
Prince fan community
Forum jump
Forums > General Discussion > What is your greatest fear?
« Previous topic  Next topic »
Reply   New topic   Printable     (Log in to 'subscribe' to this topic)
Author

Tweet     Share

Message
Thread started 10/08/21 11:25pm

Phase3

What is your greatest fear?

Being that it's close to halloween I figure this would be a good thread
What is your greatest fear?
My greatest fear use to be Death but now for some reason it isn't.
Heaven awaits us
This is going to sound crazy but my greatest fear now is getting Old
I have been around my grandparents in their final years.I kinda babysat them in a way.They were married in the 1950's and towards the end they both started to get in bad health.Grandma passed in 2012 and my grandpa passed a few years later.
They were very miserable towards the end and were in and out of nursing homes.Grandpa was hard headed and literally worked himself to death.My grandma's health pretty much resulted in her because she was inactive for years.
I just don't want to get very old and have to be a burden to someone.I do not want to be miserable either.
In my 30's now so I have some time to enjoy
[Edited 10/8/21 23:26pm]
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #1 posted 10/08/21 11:33pm

TrivialPursuit

avatar

Being forgotten.

"eye don’t really care so much what people say about me because it is a reflection of who they r."
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #2 posted 10/09/21 11:25am

Empress

Getting old is very hard. My dad will be 90 in a few months and I can see his decline as each month goes by. My husband and I don't have kids and our 4 nieces and nephews have many issues, so we know we can't count on them to help us out when we can no longer do things for ourselves. It's a bit scary, but I try not to dwell on it. I just try to live a good life, be kind to those around me and hope I go before I can no longer look after myself. Another fear is hunger. I just can't imagine what it's like to be truly hungry and wondering where the next meal will come from. We give regularly to the food banks in our city as we know many need them, but I really feel for those living in poverty stricken countries with no idea what they'll eat on any given day.

TrivialPursuit - you will not be forgotten.
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #3 posted 10/09/21 12:08pm

EmmaMcG

avatar

I'm not afraid of getting old. Then again, I'm 31 so if you ask me again in 10 years maybe I'll have a different answer. My biggest fear is dying young and leaving my children without a mother. But even at that, my husband has proven himself to be a fantastic father so I'm sure my kids would be ok without me.
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #4 posted 10/09/21 12:46pm

onlyforaminute

avatar

Alzheimer's. For everything else I can stipulate DNR. But that crap just goes on and on when the body is just fine. I don't wanna simply exist.
Time keeps on slipping into the future...


This moment is all there is...
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #5 posted 10/10/21 6:57pm

Hamad

avatar

Used to be death & losing loved ones, but after last year, I think it changed.

I learned the hard way that staying zeroed in on the present moment - as cliche as it may sound - helped combat my fears toward most things & helping me surrender attachments to people & situations, I struggle with those some days still, but those days are becoming far & few between.
Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future...

Twitter: https://twitter.com/QLH82
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #6 posted 10/11/21 9:41am

SantanaMaitrey
a

onlyforaminute said:

Alzheimer's. For everything else I can stipulate DNR. But that crap just goes on and on when the body is just fine. I don't wanna simply exist.

The good thing about Alzheimer is that you meet new people all the time!
If you take any of this seriously, you're a bigger tool than I am.
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #7 posted 10/11/21 10:37am

2freaky4church
1

avatar

The Family continueing to slowly trot out the music.

All you others say Hell Yea!! woot!
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #8 posted 10/11/21 12:14pm

onlyforaminute

avatar

SantanaMaitreya said:

onlyforaminute said:

Alzheimer's. For everything else I can stipulate DNR. But that crap just goes on and on when the body is just fine. I don't wanna simply exist.

The good thing about Alzheimer is that you meet new people all the time!

I get your joke but I have recent experience dealing with people with it. And if you've ever seen the movie, The Father, it's far from cutsie for the person going through it.
Time keeps on slipping into the future...


This moment is all there is...
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #9 posted 10/11/21 12:39pm

Phase3

2freaky4church1 said:

The Family continueing to slowly trot out the music.


They are still putting out music?
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #10 posted 10/11/21 12:41pm

JoeTyler

onlyforaminute said:

Alzheimer's.

This. Utter loss of control, while being forced to keep playing the game.

tinkerbell
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #11 posted 10/11/21 1:35pm

SantanaMaitrey
a

onlyforaminute said:

SantanaMaitreya said:


The good thing about Alzheimer is that you meet new people all the time!

I get your joke but I have recent experience dealing with people with it. And if you've ever seen the movie, The Father, it's far from cutsie for the person going through it.

I've seen my own father's mind go away, it wasn't Alzheimer, but it was something similar. I was at his death bed together with my mother. I know how hard it is. And that's why I think there's nothing wrong with making jokes about it.
If you take any of this seriously, you're a bigger tool than I am.
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #12 posted 10/11/21 2:41pm

onlyforaminute

avatar

SantanaMaitreya said:

onlyforaminute said:


I get your joke but I have recent experience dealing with people with it. And if you've ever seen the movie, The Father, it's far from cutsie for the person going through it.

I've seen my own father's mind go away, it wasn't Alzheimer, but it was something similar. I was at his death bed together with my mother. I know how hard it is. And that's why I think there's nothing wrong with making jokes about it.

👍
Time keeps on slipping into the future...


This moment is all there is...
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #13 posted 10/11/21 4:54pm

purplethunder3
121

avatar

Hamad said:

Used to be death & losing loved ones, but after last year, I think it changed. I learned the hard way that staying zeroed in on the present moment - as cliche as it may sound - helped combat my fears toward most things & helping me surrender attachments to people & situations, I struggle with those some days still, but those days are becoming far & few between.

This ^^^ nod

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #14 posted 10/11/21 6:55pm

alphastreet

I start a new job this week, but feel I won’t be good at it and afraid of failure. Sometimes I feel like I want to just put an end to everything, but I am talking to someone about it, so it’s helpful
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #15 posted 10/11/21 9:56pm

Phase3

alphastreet said:

I start a new job this week, but feel I won’t be good at it and afraid of failure. Sometimes I feel like I want to just put an end to everything, but I am talking to someone about it, so it’s helpful

Hang in there.Whatever troubles your having will work itself out and it will get better
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #16 posted 10/12/21 1:43pm

JoeyC

avatar

Lately i had been experiencing a lot of fear about death. I used to give no f***s about dying, but for the past 6 months or so i sometimes have anxiety and become a little depressed about it. I'm starting to work through those feelings, so it's getting better. Also homelessness and drug addiction scare the shit outta me. A few days ago i was next to this guy who was obviously a drug addict. He smelled like poo and was most likely homeless...And all i could feel was compassion, and think to myself God, i would rather be dead than to end up in that situation. That is no way to live, and complete misery.

Rest in Peace Bettie Boo. See u soon.
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #17 posted 10/12/21 2:10pm

purplethunder3
121

avatar

JoeyC said:

Lately i had been experiencing a lot of fear about death. I used to give no f***s about dying, but for the past 6 months or so i sometimes have anxiety and become a little depressed about it. I'm starting to work through those feelings, so it's getting better. Also homelessness and drug addiction scare the shit outta me. A few days ago i was next to this guy who was obviously a drug addict. He smelled like poo and was most likely homeless...And all i could feel was compassion, and think to myself God, i would rather be dead than to end up in that situation. That is no way to live, and complete misery.

Know that you are not alone with these fears...and that Covid has amplified them.

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #18 posted 10/12/21 3:28pm

alphastreet

Phase3 said:

alphastreet said:

I start a new job this week, but feel I won’t be good at it and afraid of failure. Sometimes I feel like I want to just put an end to everything, but I am talking to someone about it, so it’s helpful

Hang in there.Whatever troubles your having will work itself out and it will get better


Aw thank you, another job I want has come up, hoping I’ll get an offer for that
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #19 posted 10/12/21 3:29pm

alphastreet

JoeyC said:

Lately i had been experiencing a lot of fear about death. I used to give no f***s about dying, but for the past 6 months or so i sometimes have anxiety and become a little depressed about it. I'm starting to work through those feelings, so it's getting better. Also homelessness and drug addiction scare the shit outta me. A few days ago i was next to this guy who was obviously a drug addict. He smelled like poo and was most likely homeless...And all i could feel was compassion, and think to myself God, i would rather be dead than to end up in that situation. That is no way to live, and complete misery.



Sorry to hear you’re going through that. I’m kind of hell-fearing and try to be a good person, and not as sarcastic as I used to get. Maybe that compassion you have for the homeless can be something like a job to pursue?
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #20 posted 10/12/21 4:20pm

Hamad

avatar

JoeyC said:

Lately i had been experiencing a lot of fear about death. I used to give no f***s about dying, but for the past 6 months or so i sometimes have anxiety and become a little depressed about it. I'm starting to work through those feelings, so it's getting better. Also homelessness and drug addiction scare the shit outta me. A few days ago i was next to this guy who was obviously a drug addict. He smelled like poo and was most likely homeless...And all i could feel was compassion, and think to myself God, i would rather be dead than to end up in that situation. That is no way to live, and complete misery.



Read an article about that recently on NPR, something about pandemic ptsd where the last year have seen a surge of cases with disease/death-related anxieties and depression. I’ll try to find that article.

Obviously whatever works for you, but I’ve started meditating since last year, twice a day nothing too extreme. It really helped and it created a shift in my personality where I’m less anxious & triggered in certain situations where I usually experience the two, still a work in process but I’m glad I incorporated that in my daily routine. Idk maybe give that a shot smile

Hope you work through that, mister.
Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future...

Twitter: https://twitter.com/QLH82
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #21 posted 10/12/21 4:21pm

alphastreet

Hamad said:

JoeyC said:

Lately i had been experiencing a lot of fear about death. I used to give no f***s about dying, but for the past 6 months or so i sometimes have anxiety and become a little depressed about it. I'm starting to work through those feelings, so it's getting better. Also homelessness and drug addiction scare the shit outta me. A few days ago i was next to this guy who was obviously a drug addict. He smelled like poo and was most likely homeless...And all i could feel was compassion, and think to myself God, i would rather be dead than to end up in that situation. That is no way to live, and complete misery.



Read an article about that recently on NPR, something about pandemic ptsd where the last year have seen a surge of cases with disease/death-related anxieties and depression. I’ll try to find that article.

Obviously whatever works for you, but I’ve started meditating since last year, twice a day nothing too extreme. It really helped and it created a shift in my personality where I’m less anxious & triggered in certain situations where I usually experience the two, still a work in process but I’m glad I incorporated that in my daily routine. Idk maybe give that a shot smile

Hope you work through that, mister.


Yes, I’d like to read that article too if you find it. Prayer helps relax me too
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #22 posted 10/15/21 5:17am

KingBAD

avatar

i have the fear of bein CONFUSED...

this will come when my memory fails me...

i've suffered from confusion throughout my life...

when you have great unnastandin in life

when you hit with a befuddlement

it can be almost a cripplin thing...

and at 66 i already have to come back in the house

just about er time i leave because i forgot somethin...

i've already told my folks to just read things to me that

i've written instead of tellin me what i should remember

i've seen the pain it causes folks with 'oldtimers' and

i refuse to be treated in such a manner....

i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
evilking
STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE...
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #23 posted 10/15/21 3:11pm

KingBAD

avatar

JoeyC said:

Lately i had been experiencing a lot of fear about death. I used to give no f***s about dying, but for the past 6 months or so i sometimes have anxiety and become a little depressed about it. I'm starting to work through those feelings, so it's getting better. Also homelessness and drug addiction scare the shit outta me. A few days ago i was next to this guy who was obviously a drug addict. He smelled like poo and was most likely homeless...And all i could feel was compassion, and think to myself God, i would rather be dead than to end up in that situation. That is no way to live, and complete misery.

i have no fear of my death

HOWEVER

my idiations about death come from

my fears of losin those who i hold dear

as i would much rather be cried about

than to have to cry about one of mine...

(those i love or admire)...

AND YES!!!

there are those who i would rather be dead

than to have to live without...

i'm 66 years old and death has a different meanin

to me than it has for many of the people i've

come into contact with...

I am a depressive, schitzoprenic and infj type...

I SAY ALL THIS TO SAY

that with so much i have come through

to still be alive and unscathed

my only concerns are connected to

my selfish need to stop losin those i love

or care for in any way...

IN CASE YOU WONDER

this is much the issue with those who

live forever...

it is a miserable thing to watch all those you love

be born and die,

old and feeble and always that last look

of wonder...

i can only imagine....

i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
evilking
STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE...
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #24 posted 10/16/21 8:55am

2freaky4church
1

avatar

Waking up and finding out Prince was never born.

All you others say Hell Yea!! woot!
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #25 posted 10/16/21 8:28pm

purplethunder3
121

avatar

KingBAD said:

JoeyC said:

Lately i had been experiencing a lot of fear about death. I used to give no f***s about dying, but for the past 6 months or so i sometimes have anxiety and become a little depressed about it. I'm starting to work through those feelings, so it's getting better. Also homelessness and drug addiction scare the shit outta me. A few days ago i was next to this guy who was obviously a drug addict. He smelled like poo and was most likely homeless...And all i could feel was compassion, and think to myself God, i would rather be dead than to end up in that situation. That is no way to live, and complete misery.

i have no fear of my death

HOWEVER

my idiations about death come from

my fears of losin those who i hold dear

as i would much rather be cried about

than to have to cry about one of mine...

(those i love or admire)...

AND YES!!!

there are those who i would rather be dead

than to have to live without...

i'm 66 years old and death has a different meanin

to me than it has for many of the people i've

come into contact with...

I am a depressive, schitzoprenic and infj type...

I SAY ALL THIS TO SAY

that with so much i have come through

to still be alive and unscathed

my only concerns are connected to

my selfish need to stop losin those i love

or care for in any way...

IN CASE YOU WONDER

this is much the issue with those who

live forever...

it is a miserable thing to watch all those you love

be born and die,

old and feeble and always that last look

of wonder...

i can only imagine....

Glad you are still here to tell the tale. cool Getting old myself and going through similar stuff...but glad I am still here and alive... Want to survive and live many more experiences, hopefully in good health, before I kick the life fantastic... woot! fro music headbang

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #26 posted 10/16/21 9:34pm

KingBAD

avatar

purplethunder3121 said:

KingBAD said:

i have no fear of my death

HOWEVER

my idiations about death come from

my fears of losin those who i hold dear

as i would much rather be cried about

than to have to cry about one of mine...

(those i love or admire)...

AND YES!!!

there are those who i would rather be dead

than to have to live without...

i'm 66 years old and death has a different meanin

to me than it has for many of the people i've

come into contact with...

I am a depressive, schitzoprenic and infj type...

I SAY ALL THIS TO SAY

that with so much i have come through

to still be alive and unscathed

my only concerns are connected to

my selfish need to stop losin those i love

or care for in any way...

IN CASE YOU WONDER

this is much the issue with those who

live forever...

it is a miserable thing to watch all those you love

be born and die,

old and feeble and always that last look

of wonder...

i can only imagine....

Glad you are still here to tell the tale. cool Getting old myself and going through similar stuff...but glad I am still here and alive... Want to survive and live many more experiences, hopefully in good health, before I kick the life fantastic... woot! fro music headbang

woot! woot! woot! woot! woot! woot! woot!

i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
evilking
STOP ME IF YOU HEARD THIS BEFORE...
 Reply w/quote - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply   New topic   Printable     (Log in to 'subscribe' to this topic)
« Previous topic  Next topic »
Forums > General Discussion > What is your greatest fear?