Ok, I don't really need one, but I want one. I'm 25 and still a virgin. Though, I'm proud of this I am getting a little frustrated. I decided when I was really young I would wait until I was married for sex with anyone, but I thought I'd be married by know. Shit. Dating is a big waste of time and I'm no longer interested in an emotional connection with anyone. I just wanna have sex. So, here's my question: should I take a lover, you know a sex buddy? Should my first time be with someone I don't love? I have a friend a year older than me that's in the same situation. She's ready to let it all go and I see where she's coming from. A male friend told me I should just wait since I've waited this long. Then, another friend said it causes more problems because for women that's the most they can give, their body. She said it can cause you to lose your grip on reality. So, I need the fellas and the ladies to help me with this one. What should I do?

DO NOT TAKE THE LOVER!

You will just end up dicking yourself over in the long run.

Yeah, dating is a pain, but hang in there. If anything, have sex with your next boyfriend, but make sure there are at least some emotions involved, yanno?

You've waited 25 years, you can wait a titch longer...

Okay. So what have you done sexually... nothing?

Have you participated in any oral foreplay, or "grinding" or anything?

There's so much you can do without actual penetration... I would suggest you check into that, if you've waited this long, may as well ride it out... (so to speak).

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June7 said:

lol I thought you said anal penetration

Natsume said:

No, that would be my advice to you... are you game?

June7 said:

I will remain an ass virgin until I am older and much much drunker, thankyouverymuch!

Holy shit!!! Did we just jack this thread???

June7 said:

Nothing oral. No grinding. A guy I was daing touched me and I didn't like. He didn't know what he was doing. I do things on my own. I believe in self love

Janfriend said:

I suggest you not ask the people of around here, and take the advice of someone you know and trust the most - if you're not going to go by that voice in your head.

Supernova said:

Oh, definitely. I just wanted to get some opinions

Have to ask yourself these questions---

do u seek physical stimulation?
or do u seek intimacy with another?

chances are the latter...since u've
not indulged in your youth.

im available...

If you've waited this long, no sense in giving up something that important to just anybody. Natsume's right. Wait for someone you've got some feelings for.

You need another lover....
like you need a holeinyohead

Sorry. Couldn't resist.
[This message was edited Fri Apr 25 4:45:28 PDT 2003 by NovaAngel]

tafnap said:

lol. Thanks

origmnd said:

I'm seeking both but I don't think I'll get the latter at my age

You're 25 and you've given up on intimacy? Damn!

I know a nice single guy I can hook ya up with. He's very sweet.

tackam said:

How sweet, but most guys my age, in the past, wanted sex period. The minute they found out I wanted to wait they bolted

I cant tell you what to do... But

I hope that you will wait. The right guy will

come along that will wait for your value! You will

be so happy that you waited and didnt give this special

part of yourself up to anyone. Those that dont want to

wait for you arent worth giving it to anyway!

Hang in there!

Janfriend:


I could see how you'd want to..
do what you're thinking about doing

BUT

before you do something you might well regret

READ

Perry's thread "This is Why I Choose to Remain a Virgin Until Marriage"


There really is nothing wrong with waiting.

Janfriend said:

Your male friend is an idiot! He should have fucked both of you virgins in the most amazing threesome in history.

SexGod said:

uh...ok

Very simple--if U dont know anyone
at the moment that meets your criteria
then WHY do something that wont be as enjoyable as possible?

When in doubt, don't!

Motorpsycho said:

That's a good one. Thanks

Janfriend said:

This guy is 24, and he waited until he met the girl he planned to marry. He wanted to spend the rest of his life with her and be the daddy to her children and all that good stuff.

And then she dumped him for this burly army man.

He pretty much feels like you do at this point.

luv4thepurple1 said:

is this how the right guy looks? or or this maybe