RJP1205 said:

alphastreet said:

Germanegro said:

alphastreet said:

Really want to, but I haven’t seen him in a couple of months. The only other way I think I would see him is at our friends birthday party in a few months if she has one and I could talk to him there

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Just go for it like the positive confident person that we all need to be. And if you're not, hey, fake it 'till u make it. Like it has been said, life is truly short and you have to "go for yours!"

RJOrion said:

Probably best to make the first move...at least you will know where you stand and you'll be able to move in one direction or another instead of being in suspended animation.

alphastreet said:

I’ve liked a guy since last May and we’ve talked several times and know a lot of the same people at church, but we haven’t exchanged contact info yet. The next time I see him, I want to ask him for coffee, but also feel worried he may not like me back though he always looks happy to see me, just hasn’t asked the question yet Have you ever been in that situation and how did you deal with it? I tried going on a blind date with another guy in attempt to try to move on just in case, and he was very respectful, but he wasn’t him and I felt nothing haha [Edited 2/22/20 18:27pm]

I think pretty much everyone's had a "one-sided, long-time crush" at some point or other. Luckily, I don't have to worry about this stuff anymore.

While I cannot endorse this whole "love" business, here's my advice:

Ask him out directly (e.g. "I'd like to take you out on a date.")

If he's interested, he'll respond enthusiastically and start making plans with you there and then.

If he's not, you've got your answer and you can move on (preferably to a life-long love affair with yourself, where you're responsible for your own happiness).

People'll come and go througout your life (whether's it due to conflict, boredom, the-grass-is-always greener syndrome, or death). But you'll always have you. Don't tell yourself that you need someone else to be happy.

Oh, everybody faced such a situation, IMO. It's a big deal to you now, I understand. That's why the need to ask a simple question about the date makes you nervous. But if you won't ask, you'll never know. Maybe this guy is just shy. Or perhaps he isn't interested, but it's ok too. If that's so, you'll be upset, but you'll move on. Just do it! Good luck!

Ace said:

alphastreet said:

Ace said:

I think pretty much everyone's had a "one-sided, long-time crush" at some point or other. Luckily, I don't have to worry about this stuff anymore.

While I cannot endorse this whole "love" business, here's my advice:

Ask him out directly (e.g. "I'd like to take you out on a date.")

If he's interested, he'll respond enthusiastically and start making plans with you there and then.

If he's not, you've got your answer and you can move on (preferably to a life-long love affair with yourself, where you're responsible for your own happiness).

People'll come and go througout your life (whether's it due to conflict, boredom, the-grass-is-always greener syndrome, or death). But you'll always have you. Don't tell yourself that you need someone else to be happy.

Thanks for the advice! And so true I have myself through all this as well.

alphastreet said:

coldcoffeeandcocacola said:

Rodeo, but he left me.

2freaky4church1 said:

I've had a couple of these and if I had them all over to do again I would have just flat out asked them if I was their type or what they thought about it.

While I enjoyed the flirt dance it was a huge waste of my energy and thoughts. If they say that something could be a possibility then the flirt dance moves with a purpose. Life is too short.