Hey. So I'm back in the dating game again. However this is the first time I am actually persuing someone I am interested in for once and not the one playing the mouse.

For one this guy has been a friend with benefits for over 6 years. As well, I also started seeing this guy again during my last relationship when my ex decided to stop having sex with me (which I left after a year of this).

I want to take it slow with him, and he has also agreed...but we both have been going at it for so long its hard to put any brakes on. I've also been letting go of the other bedmates I have since I been single the last 2 years.

Are there any rules of taking it slow? Ive been not blowing up his phone, only have a once a week date night...is that good?

luv4u said:

Argh! But so right!

there's only one rule in 'take it slow'

never bring up take it slow...

usually the subject of take it slow comes up when

'the other' wants to do somethin 'other'

and 'take it slow' becomes the ender...

unless you me...

then all that is a non issue....

Go with your feelings. There are no rules, unless you make them. If you wanna be with him, be with him. Dont think about how you think things should be. Let it flow and have fun!!

Thanks guys. I'm learning more than I ever have about him and I'm glad things are slow cuz I don't want to be so in my feelings about everything when he is being very honest with me about his past. I'm just listening without judging etc so far

Genesia said:

Lol. We are way past that by now. I mean emotionally. He persued me for years and I kinda blew him off...I guess I'm ready for him now and don't want to mess it up.