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My son... My son will be matriculating to The Citadel this Saturday. (Military University in South Carolina) I'm doing everything I can to be strong in front of him, because I know he's nervous about it too. He's always been a homebody, never wanted to run around with his friends, preferred to stay home. The only time he's ever been away from home is when he would spend a week or two with his grandmother during the summer, or over winter/spring breaks. He has the right attitude going into it, because I got teary eyed the other day and told him, "But they are going to be mean to you!" He said, "It's only for a year mom, and then next year I get to be mean to the knobs coming in." I can't picture him ever being mean to anyone. This is a kid who when he was 5 years old was yelling for me, because there was a spider on the floor, and his 2 year old sister stepped on the spider and said, "There Koda I took care of it for you" and he started crying, because you weren't supposed to kill the spiders, just take them outside and let them go. [Edited 8/14/19 21:42pm] | |
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For those of you that have done it, had your kids go away to college, how do you cope????| Moderator
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He is grown now. Time to cut those apron strings and leave the nest. He will always be your baby. 
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moderatorGo easy on youself; it's ok to cry. It will be a journey for both of you. I live in California and my daughter left for univ in NYC at 17. It took about 2 weeks to adjust though. She has been away for 7 years.(She lives in NY) I notice, though we are close, she is very independent and I need her phone calls more than she needs mine. But I am also happy she is thriving. It's part of being a parent, the continual letting go. It's difficult now but you will be OK over time | |
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I'm dreading this kind of situation. My daughter is only 7 but I just know that when she's older I won't want to let her go. I'm not prepared for it. I never will be. So I completely understand where you're coming from, benni. From the sounds of it you seem to be handling it pretty well though. No doubt he'll be feeling it too so the fact that you're being strong for him is a big help. He's growing up though so maybe he's not the same boy whose sister killed that spider. The fact that he's going off to a military University is proof that he's toughened up a lot. I'm sure he'll be fine. | |
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It's usually not the case that they're gone one day to the next, but it's a slow process: they're out more and more until you hardly see them again. You dont realize it too much, that 'the moment' is there - it's mostly already passed and you didn't even see it. | |
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