crazyhorse said:

Dunno, I suppose so

sure... just as a voice on the phone can be the origin for the fantasy of an ideal. but when faced with reality, the truth can be harsh. hehehe

Sure, why not? It's like anything else you may be attracted to, someone's mind or style could play a part.

I also agree with zobilamouche... reality may come as quite a shock.

crazyhorse said:

Illusion of what could be or what isn't... that is how peeping toms get off and stalkers come about!!!
But fantasy is always a nice escape

When I first red Gooey's posts I was Attrackted to him. Now I know what he looks and sounds like, I can tell I find him still atracctive.

So the awnser to your question could be yes !!
But it's also possible that your mind created something different then the real thing !

It depends on the person that reads, not on the person that writes

The answer is: absolutely.

You form your own idea about the person from reading what they have to say... they appeal to you on an emotional or intellectual level and this is certainly a very important part of attraction. You might find this person to be visually unappealing, but this does not negate the attraction that you felt for them on an emotional or intellectual level.

Hell Yeah!!!

100%
HE KNOWS WHO HE IS!
He makes MY shine

yup. except, online you get to know someone's style/personality before you see what they look like

and, as in real life, people are hard to 'know' so take it all with a grain of salt. or two

I'll never forget my blind date with this guy with a very cute accent; deep voice... really nice.I saw him and ... well... picture big russian guy with a sole intrest in politics.

Couldn't help seeing him live: voices and eyes are my thing

SexLovely said:

You little TIT! So you are calling me a mentalist, huh?


Ok, I suppose you are right, my doctor tells me that too...

crazyhorse said:

best of both worlds... the odds are even and subjective.

'dre

I think it can be both. It depends on certain factors... whether or not the person you are talking to is truly being themselves. If they are, the attraction is reality, if they're not... well, you're attracted to their fantasy.

But, I think it can be a good thing. Being attracted to someone, merely by their words that you read, gives you a sense of the "real" person (given that they are being themselves), and that is who you are attracted to, not the physical.

You know, in "real life", outside of the internet, there are some people who don't give people who are less than desirable to look at, at chance to get to know us or us to know them. I also think that it gives those people, who run into that outside of the internet, a sense of happiness and acceptance, when they are actually listened to and part of a "community".


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[This message was edited Tue Apr 15 8:48:41 PDT 2003 by AzureStar]

IceNine said:

Yes...What Ice nine said...


...thought ya knew!!...

I met my current boyfriend while being really drunk, and when we did a query amongst friends(couples) most of them "met" while being quite drunk. is it possible that when people are tipsy; they are less scared of being themselves and you have more chance to have contact with the "real"person inside...???
and with a bit drunk I don't mean being in a complete stat of inawareness of the outside world... hehehe

It will vary in different scenarios. Certainly you can fall for who a person is in writing if they have given a fair representation of themselves. I see where people may even make stronger choices based upon going beyond the obvious typical attractions of a male and female. You would then take it to the next step as with any possible dating scenario. One cannot ignore physical attraction though. You either are or are not attracted to an individual and chemistry is important. I think we get into trouble by turning it into an "either" "or" campaign. The person that suits you will have to, in great part, encompass both aspects.
In a psychology class, I once was given an assignment to place my needs in a relationship in order. All of the class, including myself, used a numbering system, believing that we could do without the lower numbers entirely if, say, numbers one through five were met. The point of the lesson was to show us we failed from jump because of the numbering system itself. We should have placed our needs in a circle and sought to find a person who fulfilled them.

I can't imagine allowing myself to be attracted to someone on the internet..

I have met many friends, but love... no!

crazyhorse said:

damn you're hot

sag10 said:

Can you imagine people feeling attraction to a poet or writer whose words move them?

i think it's possible to be attracted to someone based on what they write. by the style of their posts, you get to understand their personality.
[This message was edited Tue Apr 15 10:39:58 PDT 2003 by Phoenixxx]

IceNine said:

Yes! To me it isn't the same..

sag10 said:

How is this? The same principle applies.

IceNine said:

This is so true

IceNine said:

To me falling in love with the words of a poet is far different than falling in love with a person/persons on a website.

Love is a bit more sacred to me...I am about living in the same city, state as the person I am about to learn. I want to be able to talk, go on a date, fight, makeup...and all of it person to person.

sag10 said:

Right, but the topic is about "attraction" instead of "love." You can easily be attracted to people based upon their words, thoughts, etc.

AzureStar said:

Azure, well put and true. You have a great perspective.

What's more real than falling for somebody based soley on their thoughts and personality?

If what you want from people is real, meaningful relationships, it's being attracted to somebody for their looks that is a fantasy in the long run.