Nothing wrong with being a strict parent at all, I grew up in the South Bronx during the 60s & 70s. Looking back, I'm glad I had a stern father to keep me & my brother on the right path. I didn't care for those ass-whippins & lectures then, but I appreciate them now. I have no kids, but my brother raised his the same way, with love & discipline.

yes/no

My parents were very strict with my brother and I...We came from the "You better have your ass home when the streetlights come on" generation...My brother is strict with his kids and my parents think it's wrong for him to be that way...I tell them they seem to forget how they were with us when we were kids....I will say that the firmness, spankings and 2 hour lectures kept us out of trouble down the road.

My dad was tough but also let me drink a beer. lol

i discipline my children... but i don't hit them.... ever

i also spend a lot of quality time with them

I don't have children nor do i wish to have, but my parents never were strict with me, never... now i wish they were a little bit. But they didn't need to, i was a good guy, and they gave me the freedom to be whatever i wanted to be.

MoBettaBliss said:

i discipline my children... but i don't hit them.... ever

i also spend a lot of quality time with them

Yeah, that belt shit I was subjected to is archaic. I stopped hand-spanking my kid when he was young when I realized I was turning into my father. He grew up to be a great guy...

Dalia11 said:

And the older generation didn't know that beating kids would cause emotional and psychological harm to the kids. They did it because it happened to them and it became a pattern.

Totally.

My dad was strict. I couldn't watch Love Boat or Fantasy Island as a child because Love Boat had unmarried people shared cabins, and Fantasy Island had the word 'fantasy' in the title. My brothers and I had to listen to 'secular' music in secret. My friend's mom handmade her Barbie's clothes because the clothes Barbie dressed in were "too risque" according to her parents. I guess strictness is subjective. I don't have any children.

Yes and somewhat. The adult to child ratio was much different so I could get away with almost nothing, eyes everywhere. Even the neighbors told on me if they saw me doing my parents didn't approve of. I was stricter with mine than most parents of their peers but they were freer to choose things, like I may not take them to see certain movies but I knew they got to see them anyway because they went with the friends parents and would tell me, I would have never told my parents/guardians I did something they may not have approved of.

Mom was strict, Dad left

Explains the Steelers.

My dad never left, he was always there, much to my regret, i wish he would have left us alone. He used to beat my mom, but my mom was nobody's fool, she hitted back, he was stronger, though.

Always the oddball out. I was predominately raised by my father without my mother. Predominately because he was navy and spent a lot of time overseas while I remained stationary which means I had various guardians in my life while he was gone.

My parents spanked me. My mom always said it was my mouth that got me into trouble.

Parents split. Dad had a new family and step mom didn't like me. Mom got remarried, step dad was overly strict with me, because I was the only girl.....but he never hit me, that was my mom's job.

I spanked my children, but mostly they got grounded.

My parents didn't know what grounding meant.

Dalia11 said:

2freaky4church1 said:

Explains the Steelers.

We can do alot Bengal Mama jokes

Dalia11 said:

And children who grow up in broken homes are negatively affected emotionally. And the children who witness their parent being physically abused.

Not true, i'm just alright... or that's what i like to tell to myself.

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My dad was reasonably permissive. My mom was strict -- overly so, I'd say. And she did hit me regularly.

I am strict with my own daughter in two areas: Honouring her responsibilities, and not unduly harming others. In almost every other area, I offer a ton more latitude for her to organically arrive at self-discipline, which in my mind should be a parent's end game.

My personal take on corporal punishment is that while I don't take any parenting tool off the table as a matter of course, I'm failing as the parent I strive to be if I ever have to raise my hand to my daughter. And I haven't since tapping her rump once for carelessly prancing into the street at age 4. She's now 16.