Hallo

well, my problem is following:

I have started a new job and have met there new friends. With one of them, a woman, I went out on sunday to a disco-bar to do drink somethig and do shake the body a bit.

My new friend is single as me, but the diffrence between her and me, is that she is looking for flirts and more and me I'm not interested in to.

And then there, boys comes and wnat to do make contact. Here does begin the conflict for me.

I just do want to been there, drink something, dance and enjoy just the moment lookin around.

How can I do to not do have to hurt a boy, if he comes on my way, asking for a cigarette, asking me to dance...,or more? - What can I do to not border my friend? She sais frmo herself she's hot. But me I'm feeeling more cool, in this matter.

Tonight I have not go to work and she asked me to go to drnk something. I go with, because she's okay and I have to go a bit out. I'm always enclosed at home.

What can I do? Stay at home?

But maybe you'll not unerstand my English.

I'm not sure I really understand the problem Is it that you don't want to go drinking w/ the female friend? Or is it that when you go out w/ her, she flirts & guys come over & you're not into it?

Arlette said:

I'm trying my best!

Be honest with your friend and tell her that you enjoy her company but that you only want to go out to relax and have a good time and not to flirt with guys etc.

If a guy approaches you just be polite and tell him you are not interested!

Don't stay at home..enjoy yourself!

Lleena said:

sounds like sound advice to me.

Just grab a guy with your friend then take him home and experiment with a threesome. Video the experience and post it on the org.

Or you could just follow Lleena and have a quiet night on your own.

bkw said:

damn you...beat me to it

MrBliss said:

I thought of you when I posted it.

bkw said:

God forbid if she ever bumped into you on one of her nights out!

Lleena said:

bkw said:

That's a long night..

Arlette... do I know you? Just go out... and enjoy yourself, when a man comes up to talk... just say "thank you" , but "no thank you... have a good night". Or is that too nice, perhaps that doesn't work anymore.

One thing is... don't allow it to spoil your time out, simply be content with you and you alone... it will definitely show throughout.

Freespirit said:

one sure-fire way to rid yourself of unwanted attention from men in bars is to simply utter the words: "i think i'm still contagious"

XxAxX said:

ConsciousContact said:

I agree with that too.

XxAxX said:

UuuaaaAAAhhh hahahahahaha! You got me!

I think I'll make it like these:

Leena said

And like these:

Freesprit and Calhounsq said:


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Thank you Boys and Girls!

Okay, I did not went out yesterday. Thinking about all the hot boys there, I thought it is better for me to stay at home. I did wrote an sms to my collegue and told her, I don't feel like to go out. I told her I do have a secret Lover and this is true. I'm not looking for another. Even if I don't know who exactly my secret Lover could been, I do feel I'm closer to Him then ever, since I'm online.
I feel that energy.
I can not go with others or do take risks.