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Why Marry?? Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits?? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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It's a tradition that is ever-so-slowly becoming outdated. It's old-fashioned, and doesn't cater to us as much as it did to people in the past. Kind of like the effect that Jesus supposedly had on the human race (whether or not he actually existed). Less and less people are "followers"... and as time goes by, less and less people will apply it to their lives. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
Marriage makes no sense for a man. If marriage were a business deal, you would never do it. The risk is far too great for a man. YOu can lose damn near everything financially if it doesnt work and in the US it is a more than 50% chance of it not. Then if there are kids, you wont get them. In fact, you'll have to pay to see them. As the Kid's Dad said in the basement scene: "Never get married." | |
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I guess that wasn't much of an answer to the question... the majority of people are doing it for the comfort of a commitment. People are doing it sooner as well; before they realize their "love" was only fascination, and they failed to get to know their spouse better before taking the vows. There's less respect for the concept. I do believe in true love, but it's much rarer than we want to believe. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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You marry so that you can't run away when the going gets tough. Granted, nowadays you can still run away, but the idea is to close the exits so that you the two of you can deal with your demons--each other. Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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LaMont said: DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
Marriage makes no sense for a man. If marriage were a business deal, you would never do it. The risk is far too great for a man. YOu can lose damn near everything financially if it doesnt work and in the US it is a more than 50% chance of it not. Then if there are kids, you wont get them. In fact, you'll have to pay to see them. As the Kid's Dad said in the basement scene: "Never get married." BING the phuck O  | |
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LaMont said: DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
Marriage makes no sense for a man. If marriage were a business deal, you would never do it. The risk is far too great for a man. YOu can lose damn near everything financially if it doesnt work and in the US it is a more than 50% chance of it not. Then if there are kids, you wont get them. In fact, you'll have to pay to see them. As the Kid's Dad said in the basement scene: "Never get married." Very VERY True!! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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INSATIABLE said: It's a tradition that is ever-so-slowly becoming outdated. It's old-fashioned, and doesn't cater to us as much as it did to people in the past. Kind of like the effect that Jesus supposedly had on the human race (whether or not he actually existed). Less and less people are "followers"... and as time goes by, less and less people will apply it to their lives.
Very well said...whap! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Just a thought,
maybe the idea of being part of a marriage is like deciding to devote your life to something greater than yourself. I do think that marriage is kind of an antiquated deal, and I have spent a lot of time wondering what would possess a person to marry. Even so, if I make the effort to think about marriage without prefacing it with the question "what's in it for me?", I start to think that maybe it's not even about me, but about making a life out of devotion to the love of ~other people~, and the work that's involved in creating something positive. Being a part of the community as a person that can make commitments and keep them, make children and love them, and make an example of how to live within something beautiful and be happy with the gifts that I've been given and have shared. Again, it's just a thought. I don't think marriage is for everyone, I'm not married. But these reasons (in my opinion), are probably good enough to consider devoting a life to it. | |
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Hmmm I can't think of anything  So...how's everybody doing?  | |
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INSATIABLE said: I guess that wasn't much of an answer to the question... the majority of people are doing it for the comfort of a commitment. People are doing it sooner as well; before they realize their "love" was only fascination, and they failed to get to know their spouse better before taking the vows. There's less respect for the concept. I do believe in true love, but it's much rarer than we want to believe.
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hell if i know...i couldn't get married, wakin up 2 the same damn face everyday. i'd rather be by myself than go thru marriage...  | |
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Handclapsfingasnapz said: hell if i know...i couldn't get married, wakin up 2 the same damn face everyday. i'd rather be by myself than go thru marriage...
i used to feel that way... i don't any more | |
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SensualMelody said: Hmmm I can't think of anything
Sensual...this has to go on record as the first time that I am in total agreement with you...  Bout time!!
Whap! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Y'all trippin. I wanna get married, it's gonna be cool  And I'll gladly sign a pre-nup to put his mind at ease if that's an issue. Oh, and he'll have to sign one too   I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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Handclapsfingasnapz said: hell if i know...i couldn't get married, wakin up 2 the same damn face everyday. i'd rather be by myself than go thru marriage...
sooo true...we should get 2gether and have fun | |
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CalhounSq said: Y'all trippin. I wanna get married, it's gonna be cool
And I'll gladly sign a pre-nup to put his mind at ease if that's an issue. Oh, and he'll have to sign one too :LOL:...  Mr. Ellis Dee-licious, the Official NPGigolo 
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DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
It's a symbol of love and trust and a promise to be kept, its the overall commitment value and belonging... its like a possession i suppose I think its nice
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CalhounSq said: Y'all trippin. I wanna get married, it's gonna be cool
And I'll gladly sign a pre-nup to put his mind at ease if that's an issue. Oh, and he'll have to sign one too Why do you want to be married? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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WrecK said: DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
It's a symbol of love and trust and a promise to be kept, its the overall commitment value and belonging... its like a possession i suppose I think its nice
Call me old fashioned if you will I agree! Although my previous marriages did not succeed, and i swear it wasnt my fault  , I would love to get married again someday!He calls me "Holi" cuz he says everyday w/ me is like a Holiday... | |
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luv4thepurple1 said: WrecK said: DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
It's a symbol of love and trust and a promise to be kept, its the overall commitment value and belonging... its like a possession i suppose I think its nice
Call me old fashioned if you will I agree! Although my previous marriages did not succeed, and i swear it wasnt my fault , I would love to get married again someday!Interesting The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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DexMSR said: luv4thepurple1 said: WrecK said: DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
It's a symbol of love and trust and a promise to be kept, its the overall commitment value and belonging... its like a possession i suppose I think its nice
Call me old fashioned if you will I agree! Although my previous marriages did not succeed, and i swear it wasnt my fault , I would love to get married again someday!Interesting That's what I'm trying to say. I just don't get it. Some people talk about it like it's a game, or something to keep "trying" out. It's abused. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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INSATIABLE said: DexMSR said: luv4thepurple1 said: WrecK said: DexMSR said: Since the act of Marriage DOES NOT solidify the relationship...why does our society do it...other than the Tax Breaks??...and Health Benefits??
It's a symbol of love and trust and a promise to be kept, its the overall commitment value and belonging... its like a possession i suppose I think its nice
Call me old fashioned if you will I agree! Although my previous marriages did not succeed, and i swear it wasnt my fault , I would love to get married again someday!Interesting That's what I'm trying to say. I just don't get it. Some people talk about it like it's a game, or something to keep "trying" out. It's abused. It's is just another Capitalist's ritual made-up with the benefit laden tax-breaks and benefits to help america's GNP!  The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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I look forward to getting married. This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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Supernova said: I look forward to getting married.
why?! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Supernova said: I look forward to getting married.
Don't!!! Get out while you can!!!   | |
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i look forward to getting married someday. i've been asked three times by three different guys, but always said no because i wasn't ready to give up my independence.
now, i'm ready to share my life with someone. i want to look at the same face everyday and have someone to come home to. | |
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