No...Boyfriends/Girlfriends are not considered family..it does not matter how long you been dating, if you don't have a RING then you're just "Company" that enjoys the benefits of Dating & Sex....Even saying I Love you does NOT Trump a RING...

Shit gets real when he/she buys a RING...So don't be so quick to introduce your Boyfriend/Girlfriend to your kids or family members....Wait and see how real it is...

We all have Dated people for weeks, months and it eventually ended...It was nice, they was nice, the Sex was Good, but you move on...That individual was NEVER family or like'family...

Chancellor said:

they can be 'considered' anything...

they are not.

when you have a fam with a bf/gf

it they become a part of YOUR fam

and your child is in the fam but

until there is 'the family name'

(the only reason to marry)

placed on erbody... it's just an

'immediate' and doesn't have to

be accepted by others outside of

that 'atomic family'...

folks tend to like 'considerin' themselves

all kinds of things in life. a rock will

never be a marshmellow no matter

what they taste like or how many

people go toothless thinkin they

marshmellows...

Chancellor said:

No...Boyfriends/Girlfriends are not considered family..it does not matter how long you been dating, if you don't have a RING then you're just "Company" that enjoys the benefits of Dating & Sex....Even saying I Love you does NOT Trump a RING...

Shit gets real when he/she buys a RING...So don't be so quick to introduce your Boyfriend/Girlfriend to your kids or family members....Wait and see how real it is...

We all have Dated people for weeks, months and it eventually ended...It was nice, they was nice, the Sex was Good, but you move on...That individual was NEVER family or like'family...

I agree...to a certain extent. You can be in a relationship with someone for 4-5 years and the signficant other can be considered family, that is, if that person has been present at most family functions/events, etc. In fact, if you are dating someone long term but they aren't considered family, then something is very wrong, IMO. It depends. One would think that if you are close to your family, that you would bring your boyfriend/girlfriend around, so your family would become familiar with your signficant other and become "part of the family".

Legally? No. Outside of that it's a personal preference, like ones pets or something. Legally, your dog doesn't inherit crap but you love em just as deeply as your kid, in some cases.

missfee said:

You can be in a relationship with someone for 4-5 years and the signficant other can be considered family, that is, if that person has been present at most family functions/events, etc. In fact, if you are dating someone long term but they aren't considered family, then something is very wrong, IMO. It depends. One would think that if you are close to your family, that you would bring your boyfriend/girlfriend around, so your family would become familiar with your signficant other and become "part of the family".

Word!

Your relatives determine whether your significant other is considered family or not. My significant other was invited to every family function, given gifts every Christmas and birthday, and was flat-out told they are family.

And marriage doesn't guarantee acceptance as a family member. One of my siblings married the equivalent of Satan, and that in-law was never treated as family. Being considered family is a privilege, not a right.

Edit: Another duplicate posting glitch

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EmmaMcG said:

What if, like me, you don't acknowledge the "importance" of a RING and you view marriage as unnecessary and outdated? I suppose it depends on your definition of family...

That's simply how you view it..It's not for me or anyone else to judge it...

Chancellor said:

Of course - everyone of my bfs was the person I was closest to at the time we were together and if I had to chose one person as my closest family member I would have always chosen my bf.

morningsong said:

Legally? No. Outside of that it's a personal preference, like ones pets or something. Legally, your dog doesn't inherit crap but you love em just as deeply as your kid, in some cases.

Girlfriends/Boyfriends you live together with are considered family legally to pretty much

Serious said:

Of course - everyone of my bfs was the person I was closest to at the time we were together and if I had to chose one person as my closest family member I would have always chosen my bf.

And ALL of those Boyfriends are no longer in your Life, nor do they share your bed....They were never Family...They were temporary Boyfriends that you let go when the relationship was over...

None of them became your Common law Husband...

Serious said:

morningsong said:

Legally? No. Outside of that it's a personal preference, like ones pets or something. Legally, your dog doesn't inherit crap but you love em just as deeply as your kid, in some cases.

Girlfriends/Boyfriends you live together with are considered family legally to pretty much

I'm not sure of all the legalities, I know Cali has had "common law" spouses on the books for a longtime, but again I'm not sure of all the legalities, as in who gets to make what decisions and so forth. Legally it's kind of iffy, but everything else is left up to personal decisions in my book. Now my family as a whole doesn't consider anyone an official member of the family until marriage, and/or other legalities have been officially taken care of first, then it can be a lifetime commitment if the "coming in" individual is willing to be part of the family which includes responsibilities and all, whether divorce is involved or not.

NO

people got a bad habit of givin 'permanent' status

to 'temporary' people. then wonder why they end

up lookin for somebody 'new'....

if erbody i've fukkked was family we'd all be related

and a big number of y'all would be my stepkids...

KingBAD said:

people got a bad habit of givin 'permanent' status

to 'temporary' people. then wonder why they end

up lookin for somebody 'new'....

if erbody i've fukkked was family we'd all be related

and a big number of y'all would be my stepkids...

Depends for sure. My BF and I have been together for almost 4 years now. I definitely consider him family and sees me the same way. His mother treats me like family ,etc...

Pokeno4Money said:

missfee said:

You can be in a relationship with someone for 4-5 years and the signficant other can be considered family, that is, if that person has been present at most family functions/events, etc. In fact, if you are dating someone long term but they aren't considered family, then something is very wrong, IMO. It depends. One would think that if you are close to your family, that you would bring your boyfriend/girlfriend around, so your family would become familiar with your signficant other and become "part of the family".

Word!

Your relatives determine whether your significant other is considered family or not. My significant other was invited to every family function, given gifts every Christmas and birthday, and was flat-out told they are family.

And marriage doesn't guarantee acceptance as a family member. One of my siblings married the equivalent of Satan, and that in-law was never treated as family. Being considered family is a privilege, not a right.

^^ this. very very true.

whenever the word 'like' is used to answer

a yes/no question.... the answer is 'NO'....