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PrintableGo ahead and hurt, let the hurt intensify, accept the pain, let it be just fucking awful. Burying yourself in work or whatever will only delay the mourning that must occur. It's like ripping off a band-aid... Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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teller said: Go ahead and hurt, let the hurt intensify, accept the pain, let it be just fucking awful.
Totally agree. When my last boyfriend & I broke up, he THREW himself into his schoolwork. Me on the other hand, I barely finished the quarter and seriously considered withdrawing and going back home. It just depends on what works for ya. Burying yourself in work or whatever will only delay the mourning that must occur. It's like ripping off a band-aid...
Sometimes yeah, sometimes not. I am like that but my ex was not. Again, it all depends on the person. Sometimes the pain is so great, so intense, you need an immediate distraction so as not to go mad. I'm not saying to delay the mourning forever, but for the first few days, it's okay. For me, the worst part was the loneliness, and the existential aloneness that came about a week later. I went back home and hung out with my family hardcore, even blowing 200 bucks I didn't have and hightailing it to Oregon (skipping the last week of classes/finals) to be with my extended family. It was wonderful and got my mind off of everything. See your friends and families as often as you can, it will help. And don't go back to him, girl! That's never a good idea. Trust me.  I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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I'm not sure if this has been said yet, but to get over a broken heart, have as much indiscriminate, promiscuous sex as you can with as many people, of either sex, as possible.
That way mind will always be occupied, and just maybe you'll meet that special someone  | |
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Natsume said: teller said: Go ahead and hurt, let the hurt intensify, accept the pain, let it be just fucking awful.
Totally agree. When my last boyfriend & I broke up, he THREW himself into his schoolwork. Me on the other hand, I barely finished the quarter and seriously considered withdrawing and going back home. It just depends on what works for ya. Burying yourself in work or whatever will only delay the mourning that must occur. It's like ripping off a band-aid...
Sometimes yeah, sometimes not. I am like that but my ex was not. Again, it all depends on the person. Sometimes the pain is so great, so intense, you need an immediate distraction so as not to go mad. I'm not saying to delay the mourning forever, but for the first few days, it's okay. For me, the worst part was the loneliness, and the existential aloneness that came about a week later. I went back home and hung out with my family hardcore, even blowing 200 bucks I didn't have and hightailing it to Oregon (skipping the last week of classes/finals) to be with my extended family. It was wonderful and got my mind off of everything. See your friends and families as often as you can, it will help. And don't go back to him, girl! That's never a good idea. Trust me. Great advice! | |
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AaronFantastic said: I'm not sure if this has been said yet, but to get over a broken heart, have as much indiscriminate, promiscuous sex as you can with as many people, of either sex, as possible.
That way mind will always be occupied, and just maybe you'll meet that special someone 
I love it, Aaron!  I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Times like these are always going to suck. Make sure you have time to yourself to grieve, but don't forget to see your friends & the sunshine.
I've been there, and seeing them again can be such grief, but one day, you'll wake up and you won't even notice what's changed. Slowly, and surely, you'll get over them and get yourself back! Good luck, best wishes & lots of love "You know, you're the classic example of the inverse ratio between the size of the mouth and the size of the brain" | |
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GET ANOTHER ONE | |
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POOK said: DigitalLisa said: What do you do when your suffering from a broken heart? Today I just broke up with my b/f, it's been going on and off for yrrs, but i told him this was it i'm not going back no more, i can take it, enough is enough! At first I felt good about myself, that I finally spoke up and said something, then when I got home I started to miss him and felt like maybe I just done something wrong. I know he ain't no good and I ain't going back , but still I don't know how to handle this broken heart :Cry:
 Any Advice ?IT ONLY BECAUSE IT JUST HAPPEN GIVE IT TIME YOU BE OK! yes, of course! | |
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Arlette said: POOK said: DigitalLisa said: What do you do when your suffering from a broken heart? Today I just broke up with my b/f, it's been going on and off for yrrs, but i told him this was it i'm not going back no more, i can take it, enough is enough! At first I felt good about myself, that I finally spoke up and said something, then when I got home I started to miss him and felt like maybe I just done something wrong. I know he ain't no good and I ain't going back , but still I don't know how to handle this broken heart :Cry:
Any Advice ?IT ONLY BECAUSE IT JUST HAPPEN GIVE IT TIME YOU BE OK! yes, of course!
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I'm sorry to hear that Lisa. 
If in your mind you believe you made the right choice, your heart will be soon to follow. I know it takes time and I know it hurts, but you have friends and loved ones to get you through, and I know you will. Take care. | |
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POOK said: DigitalLisa said: What do you do when your suffering from a broken heart? Today I just broke up with my b/f, it's been going on and off for yrrs, but i told him this was it i'm not going back no more, i can take it, enough is enough! At first I felt good about myself, that I finally spoke up and said something, then when I got home I started to miss him and felt like maybe I just done something wrong. I know he ain't no good and I ain't going back , but still I don't know how to handle this broken heart :Cry:
Any Advice ?IT ONLY BECAUSE IT JUST HAPPEN GIVE IT TIME YOU BE OK! Simple, yet profound words from a little monkey! You are mourning this relationship, and that is completely okay. Give yourself time to mourn, just as you would a death in the family. It is easy to second guess yourself, but don't allow those doubts to rule you, or you'll wind up making a huge mistake. Don't go jumping into any new relationship either, because that will just complicate things. Take the time to feel the loss, and work through it. Even though you know this is the best for you on an intellectual level, you are still going through a fairly massive change in your life. Allow yourself to experience the loss, don't repress it. Make sure that you vent, whether to your friends, or by yourself. Cry, scream,whatever. If you have a creative outlet like singing, painting, writing, etc, then take full advantage of it. Get those emotions out. Purge them. Ultimately, you will empower yourself by dealing with this pain, and be a stronger person for it.  
Do not hurry yourself in your spirit to become offended, for the taking of offense is what rests in the bosom of the stupid ones. (Ecclesiastes 7:9) | |
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Lisa, I know NOTHING about love but everything about heartbreak. I went through something similar about a year-and-a-half ago and I still feel the effects. Breaking up doesn't get any easier with practice. I won't give you advice (what's worked for me might not work for you), but being as I'm a living Library of Congress of books on relationships and the ending thereof, here's some recommendations...
Exorcising Your Ex by Elizabeth Kuster Letting Go (Can't remember the author's name) How to Fall Out of Love (by a Cathy something-or-other) Are You the One For Me? by Barbara DeAngelis Don't Call that Man! (LOL...I can't remember the author's name, but this should show you how DESPERATE I was to get over that relationship!) Either way, you'll be OK. And remember--Love and Relationships are two completely seperate things. | |
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jessyMD32781 said: go out dancing and FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT!!! go home with some numbers and then never call. it'll be something to get your mind off of things.
Jessy, this works, but it's like drugs--it's a short-lived cure for The Problem. | |
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In how many peaces is your heart been broken? Can you picture this? Look at it from a little distance... what do you see? | |
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Once again thank you all, actually i've been doing fine, I thought I was going to just die, but I haven't spoke to him in about a half a week and haven't even thought about it. I saw him yesterday when I was on my way to work, but I didn't even speak or nothing and I know that tore him up insides  and I could help but to laugh 
opps, his bad  [This message was edited Tue Apr 8 14:32:20 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] | |
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