Are you just naturally flirty?

I guess I never thought I was all that much...but since I am hyper aware of my behaviour at work now, I've realized that I am pretty flirty. Something just happened at work that made me realize that I'm clearly this way with pretty much all the dudes here (not that I actually want them).

If you're not flirtatious, do you find those that are annoying or inappropriate?

You asked two question there, JustErin. I can answer the first one with no, I don't thonk so but I have been told that I am. Some people would call it charisma (mainly me) but some have called it flirty. I've always been this way and if I wanted to stop, I don't think that I could. Look at yourself and ask if you're the same way with everyone that you speak with. Is it intentional or just a part of your character?

Now, do I find it annoying or inappropriate when it's coming from others? No, because I give them the benefit of the doubt. I don't thnk that every woman wants me, just as I don't want every woman that I speak with. BUt I know that many others find it annoying (from a woman's perspective) and a man thinks the woman wants to get with them. I find it funny.

Just having half of a profile pic is being flirtatious, show us everything or be like me and leave it all to the imagination

Just looked up your profile, Canadian and with those eyes...Yea, you're a confident flirt

I think it might just be part of who I am.

Although, I will admit I'm more flirtatious with some than others. I lay it on a little thicker with some.

You know, the young and/or attractive ones.

Too many have tried to flirt with me over the years in here... I just push em to side because I have no interest while I am eating my food

Kobe said:

JustErin said:

I don't view myself as a flirt, because I act the same way with all women ... but people often say I am a flirt.

So you tell me, this is how I am at work:

I have a habit of looking women directly in the eye.
I like to stand close to them, without touching them.
I like to put my arms on their chair while standing next to them.
I will often hop onto their desk and sit next to them during conversations.
I compliment them on their appearance, but only if they've done the same to me
I open doors for them.
I talk in a soft, friendly voice with them.
And I talk about personal subjects with them, only if they've initiated similar discussions in the past

So would you consider me to be a flirt?

Pokeno4Money said:

NinaB said:

Pokeno4Money said:

I don't view myself as a flirt, because I act the same way with all women ... but people often say I am a flirt.

So you tell me, this is how I am at work:

I have a habit of looking women directly in the eye.
I like to stand close to them, without touching them.
I like to put my arms on their chair while standing next to them.
I will often hop onto their desk and sit next to them during conversations.
I compliment them on their appearance, but only if they've done the same to me
I open doors for them.
I talk in a soft, friendly voice with them.
And I talk about personal subjects with them, only if they've initiated similar discussions in the past

So would you consider me to be a flirt?

Not necessarily...irritating maybe & claustrophobia inducing Especially 2, 3 & 4. Well, at least u didn't say you keep touching them [Edited 8/7/16 10:58am]

I appreciate your honesty Nina! They are mostly all older women, if they minded they'd let me know or I'd sense it. Some of the things I do, other women do the same thing.

Yeah touching is a definite no, even with women who frequently touch me.

Pokeno4Money said:

I don't view myself as a flirt, because I act the same way with all women ... but people often say I am a flirt.

So you tell me, this is how I am at work:

I have a habit of looking women directly in the eye.
I like to stand close to them, without touching them.
I like to put my arms on their chair while standing next to them.
I will often hop onto their desk and sit next to them during conversations.
I compliment them on their appearance, but only if they've done the same to me
I open doors for them.
I talk in a soft, friendly voice with them.
And I talk about personal subjects with them, only if they've initiated similar discussions in the past

So would you consider me to be a flirt?

Is opening a door for a lady flirting , oh I do that all the time. I always thought that was about manners and how i was brought up. I can't win sometimes . Sometimes i get a funny look from women for holding the door for them.

[Edited 8/7/16 12:15pm]

Guitarhero said:

NinaB said:

Guitarhero said:

Is opening a door for a lady flirting , oh I do that all the time. I always thought that was about manners and how i was brought up. I can't win sometimes . Sometimes i get a funny look from women for holding the door for them.

[Edited 8/7/16 12:15pm]

Don't mind all that, stay the same way. My Uncle ALWAYS opens the door 4 me. Bless him.

Thank you.

Guitarhero said:

Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

Pokeno4Money said:

I don't view myself as a flirt, because I act the same way with all women ... but people often say I am a flirt.

So you tell me, this is how I am at work:

I have a habit of looking women directly in the eye.
I like to stand close to them, without touching them.
I like to put my arms on their chair while standing next to them.
I will often hop onto their desk and sit next to them during conversations.
I compliment them on their appearance, but only if they've done the same to me
I open doors for them.
I talk in a soft, friendly voice with them.
And I talk about personal subjects with them, only if they've initiated similar discussions in the past

So would you consider me to be a flirt?

I would.

Which of those things I listed causes you to think that? Just curious

See the way I look at it, if I'm the same way with all female coworkers then it's not flirting. If I was that way with just one coworker, then yeah it's flirting.

Just one coworker = I have an interest in her
All coworkers = Just me being me

Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

All of it really. To me it just means you are flirty with women by nature. That it's not intentional because of an interest. I'm thinking I'm like that. I'm not interested but I like being coy with men. Maybe I'm insecure.

You know what? I just looked up the definition, and it's not what I had thought.

I had thought a flirt was somebody expressing their interest in another person with the hope of having it turn into a hookup or relationship.

I was wrong, here's the definition: "behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions."

Yup, I can see why I'm viewed as a flirt.

And I have a really, really hard time believing that you are insecure. Perhaps you use flirting to gain power and influence over your male coworkers? It's quite common actually.

[Edited 8/7/16 13:52pm]

Pokeno4Money said:

Yep when they try snatch my sausage.... off the plate when I am eating my food

JustErin said:

Kobe said:

Too many have tried to flirt with me over the years in here... I just push em to side because I have no interest while I am eating my food

Too many have tried to flirt with you on the org??

Kobe said:

It is when I have cooked it and keep out the hungry savages from grabbing it

JustErin said:

Kobe said:

Yep when they try snatch my sausage.... off the plate when I am eating my food

That must be some sausage.

Pokeno4Money said:

Horsefeathers said:

Horsefeathers said: