.....OK, so some guys might think of this:

1) money

2) looks

3) sexual skill/cock size

...... but these are generally the guy's point of view. Girls - What are the criterion you use to pick a guy to hook up with? I'm not talking about flings/sex hookups, but more serious, like..... whatever that might be - a Relationship, maybe even Marriage....? What I'm talking about is......LOVE......

What criterion are the most important? You don't have to list them 1) 2) like I've done, what I'm really aiming for more is a discussion.....

I generally want the opinions of girls who are single right now, but really, there's no reason you can't participate even if you're Dating or even MARRIED!!.....

If you're wondering what brought this on, I was watching The Most Beautiful Girl in The World video yesterday........

All you ladies up in here straight up lying to yourselves. If a dude you never met before lived out of his car and asked you out. You'd be like no thanks.

kewlschool said:

All you ladies up in here straight up lying to yourselves. If a dude you never met before lived out of his car and asked you out. You'd be like no thanks.

Of course....women want a dude who's got his shit together, who's going somewhere in life. Nothing wrong with that.....I feel the same way with dating women.

Financial stability

Strictly heterosexual

Sense of humor

Honesty

Yes, heterosexuality is also a very important requirement.

Horsefeathers said:

I don't date guys exclusively, so these traits are universal for me:

- looks - this can't be undestimated. He can be chubby or small, but I must find him sexy. I only like "darker" types (dark hair + Central European, South Eastern European, Middle Eastern, African, South Asian, etc. origin) and prefer hairy guys (facial hair rules).

- character - kind, loving, romantic, child-like (love for animals and fairy tales), just, brave, intelligent, humourous

- identical political leaning - left wing and liberal

- similar interests

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kewlschool said:

HuMpThAnG said:

(taking notes )

Horsefeathers said:

If he appeals to me by having most of his teeth and a pulse, I indicate interest by showing him my good boob.

Was that YOU at "Forbidden Fruit" 3 years ago...???

How do women hook up with guys with big dicks? How is that a way of picking men out? It is not like men walk around with their dicks hanging out. So no... women never choose men for their dick size. They find that out AFTER they were chosen... usually, unless you are grabby or pick up dudes in nudist colonies.

Most men get attention when they exude confidence, have a great smile, a pleasant disposition and are charming... the rest is all attraction based on a variety of things. Humans can be complicated, and beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.

paintedlady said:

Looks - by far the most important - it's how it all gets started

Intelligence - looks are not enough to keep me interested

Confidence - can't deal with wishy washy people

Humour - no sense of humour = boring

Money - if your car is shittier than mine, we are not gonna last

These 5 traits usually lead to many more attractive ones.

paintedlady said:

How do women hook up with guys with big dicks? How is that a way of picking men out? It is not like men walk around with their dicks hanging out. So no... women never choose men for their dick size. They find that out AFTER they were chosen... usually, unless you are grabby or pick up dudes in nudist colonies.

Most men get attention when they exude confidence, have a great smile, a pleasant disposition and are charming... the rest is all attraction based on a variety of things. Humans can be complicated, and beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.

...you KNOW you walk around looking at guys' hands and feet.

PurpleJedi said:

The only reason anyone approaches someone they haven't met before to hook up with them, male or female, is looks ... its the only thing you know about someone you want to hook up with, how they look. Everything else is unknown at that point, so it has to be looks that pulls someone in first of all.

People say its shallow, but its simply the way it is.

DaveT said:

The only reason anyone approaches someone they haven't met before to hook up with them, male or female, is looks ... its the only thing you know about someone you want to hook up with, how they look. Everything else is unknown at that point, so it has to be looks that pulls someone in first of all.

People say its shallow, but its simply the way it is.

....but that's not Love, that's LUST!

....and would you say the internet has impacted that statement? like, are there hooking up/social websites WITHOUT PHOTOS? (someone, somewhere must have made one....)

domainator2010 said:

DaveT said:

The only reason anyone approaches someone they haven't met before to hook up with them, male or female, is looks ... its the only thing you know about someone you want to hook up with, how they look. Everything else is unknown at that point, so it has to be looks that pulls someone in first of all.

People say its shallow, but its simply the way it is.

....but that's not Love, that's LUST!

....and would you say the internet has impacted that statement? like, are there hooking up/social websites WITHOUT PHOTOS? (someone, somewhere must have made one....)

Lust and love are not mutually exclusive and, at least in my world, they go hand in hand perfectly.

Beauty may draw a person in

But it is content that makes you stay

The thread is a bit ambiguous with the word "hooking up"...

If it is a casual fling then yes - it is about superficial beauty...

If it is about a substantial relationship - then over a period of time...you see people differently - some you thought were beautiful no longer are because of their personality/soul...and others you first dismissed because the initial attractiveness wasn't there become more appealing due to their content

And as a guy btw - a huge turn-off is a woman who pays stock to money...

As a man of relative wealth - there are some girls you play around with and dump...because you can see the dollar signs in their eyes

And then there are girls you grow with...because they have there own values

domainator2010 said:

DaveT said:

The only reason anyone approaches someone they haven't met before to hook up with them, male or female, is looks ... its the only thing you know about someone you want to hook up with, how they look. Everything else is unknown at that point, so it has to be looks that pulls someone in first of all.

People say its shallow, but its simply the way it is.

....but that's not Love, that's LUST!

....and would you say the internet has impacted that statement? like, are there hooking up/social websites WITHOUT PHOTOS? (someone, somewhere must have made one....)

But love isn't instantaneous ... and to be fair the original question was "hook up", not fall in love. And how many people have said "That person over there looks horrid, but I'll take a chance because they might be really hilarious".

I'll hold my hands up to never having the "joy" of using online dating sites. But from what I hear the use of photos on there opens up a whole other can of worms!

EmmaMcG said:

There's no point in going out with a rich, good looking guy with a big thing if you can't stand to be around him.

Interesting you should say that - this just came out in the paper today over here:

http://www.telegraphindia...4EaI6HhntQ

Just by the way - you have a kid?? Didn't you say you were only 26?? Why'd you have a kid so soon....???!!! I mean, of course, it's no damn business of mine, feel free to tell me to shut up whenever you feel like......

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JustErin said:

Money - if your car is shittier than mine, we are not gonna last

Erin, I said - love , NOT a fling! If you fall in love with someone because of their car, well, you need to correct yourself.....

paintedlady said:

How do women hook up with guys with big dicks? How is that a way of picking men out? It is not like men walk around with their dicks hanging out. So no... women never choose men for their dick size. They find that out AFTER they were chosen... usually, unless you are grabby or pick up dudes in nudist colonies.

Most men get attention when they exude confidence, have a great smile, a pleasant disposition and are charming... the rest is all attraction based on a variety of things. Humans can be complicated, and beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.

But it is soooo disappointing when you find a great dude and you finally get ready to do the nasty, and he springs out a pecker the size of a cocktail weiner, and I'm talking ERECT!

CharlieGriffin said: