babynoz said:

paintedlady said:

Awww Purple Jedi! Them babies are growing up beautifully.

Aren't they? It warms my heart because so many people today seem to think that family life is lame or something.

Like you said, dem need to mind dem own punanny....

I just wanted to share my experience on the matter in light of the negativity (tho' I do realize that most of it was tongue-in-cheek).

Some people are nurturing, parental types, and some people aren't. Doesn't make anyone more or less of a person either way.

Kumbaya mf'ers!!!!

kpowers said:

PurpleJedi said:

Great thread.

Allow me to introduce myself. My name is PurpleJedi, and I am a willing father.

My ex & I - shortly after getting married - had a conversation about starting a family.

Not as to WHY, but rather when. We were young and our careers were nascent, so we had to decide as to whether we should have kids "now" that we were young and full of energy, or later when we had money. We chose for the "now". We had 3 kids, and yes I've spent the better part of the past 20 years money-poor.

As to the "why"? It was a no-brainer. I love children. We loved children. Before we had our own, we would take my nieces out - to the park, to the beach, etc. and truly enjoyed it.
I don't know. Maybe it's genetic? Maybe social conditioning as some have claimed. But whatever the case, I love kids. Even now, at 45 years old, I still would have a baby if the right woman came into my life.

I won't say that it's easy, nor will I say that it's for everyone. Heck, even my ex wound up tapping out. Kids are with me now (as she's off exploring what makes her happy in life).

But for me...watching these kids grow up...from these tiny little balls of flesh into (now) young adults has been a very rewarding experience. All of our adventures and trips and experiences; it gives me joy. Each one is a part of me. Their happiness brings me happiness. Their sadness brings me consternation. Their laziness brings me high blood pressure.

Now that they're teenagers and going through their teenage angst, I still love them to death. All these years later, I'm still money-poor, ...but I feel rich in my own way.

The Young Jedi's

Keeping the younglings awar from the Darkside has been quite the challenge!!!

morningsong said:

AWESOME!!!!!!!

Having my son has been the most incredibe journey and greatest joy of my life.

PurpleJedi said:

kpowers said:

The Young Jedi's

Keeping the younglings awar from the Darkside has been quite the challenge!!!

I remember in the 80s everyone had 2-3 kids in my neighborhood. The "now we are twos" that KingBAD mentioned (that was a great post) became fives, doubling and outnumbering the "now we are twos" often by 1+. It was so cute we all had minivans and shit. Now we are in our 30s, our parents are divorced, our careers are going nowhere but required for survival and we are miserable, watching the things we used to love disappear or become unobtainable.

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The population boost after the comfort from "winning" a few World Wars and a group labeling themselves prematurely as the greatest generation (ever?) is still poisoning the mentalities of our parents and their cohort as they approach their 70s (the "baby boomers"). When the people from the 60s hit their 60s things started to really turn for the worse because they were set up to fail from the start - their children are set to inherit the blame. Hudson brought up a great point that many millenials simply aren't interested, I'd like to add that many of the millenials from the 90s are the children of single parents and wouldn't want to choose that path for their offspring.

kewlschool said:

Sex is the root cause.

roflol