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Reply #60 posted 07/14/16 4:36pm

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Speaking of cars, I was reminded of something:

When I was just out of college, I owned a couple Mercedes convertibles (a 1975 450 SL and then a new 1983 380 SL). In 1986, I sold the SL and bought two cars, one of which was a red Jeep CJ-7.

I can count on one hand the number of girls that my 380SL pulled in. But the Jeep?

Holy smokes, I could not keep the girls away! Now, I was the same guy in both cars, but I found out that, in my case any way, an expensive car was absolutely no attraction.


I gotta say dude - the 1983 380 SL is a sweet car...I have been considering buying one in "Bobby Ewing red"... cool

It is a toss-up between that and a Triumph Stag in racing green - only for the summer mind...too much hassle for repairs and winter maintenance.

Your experience is interesting though - the Jeep CJ-7 looks like a fun beach type party motor we used to see in the teen High School movies (ala John Hughes), here in the UK

I can see why that got attraction - when the roof was off

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Reply #61 posted 07/14/16 11:18pm

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RodeoSchro said:

Speaking of cars, I was reminded of something:

When I was just out of college, I owned a couple Mercedes convertibles (a 1975 450 SL and then a new 1983 380 SL). In 1986, I sold the SL and bought two cars, one of which was a red Jeep CJ-7.

I can count on one hand the number of girls that my 380SL pulled in. But the Jeep?

Holy smokes, I could not keep the girls away! Now, I was the same guy in both cars, but I found out that, in my case any way, an expensive car was absolutely no attraction.


I gotta say dude - the 1983 380 SL is a sweet car...I have been considering buying one in "Bobby Ewing red"... cool

It is a toss-up between that and a Triumph Stag in racing green - only for the summer mind...too much hassle for repairs and winter maintenance.

Your experience is interesting though - the Jeep CJ-7 looks like a fun beach type party motor we used to see in the teen High School movies (ala John Hughes), here in the UK

I can see why that got attraction - when the roof was off



Love the SL! You can buy SLs in great condition for under $20K. We also had a couple 560 SLs. I'd go for the 560 if you get the chance. Bigger engine, lots of fun to drive.

Both my SLs were Light Ivory with brown interiors. But my mom had a Red/Palomino 560SL and that was possibly the most beautiful car I've ever seen.

I will say this - do not EVER buy a 1975 Mercedes - SL or otherwise. I did, and I found out that was the first year Mercedes began integrating computer chips into their engines. Let's just say they did NOT get it right the first time! Once, my 450SL died on the top of a giant drawbridge. Not fun!

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Reply #62 posted 07/15/16 3:17am

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domainator2010 said:

Out of curiosity - what do you do?


What do I do? I work hard, that's what I do.

I'm not about to disclose where I work but just know that I started at the total shit bottom and started working my way up over 4 and a half years...was just offered my choice of 2 new positions within the company today as a matter of fact.

Hehe, I think we pissed her off LOL! smile Easy Erin, don't talk to me like that. You wanna find the HOTTEST LOOKING, RICHEST guy for 10 miles around and fuck his fucking brains out,....s'completely your prerogative, y'know....? Ain't no one stoppin' ya!

No one's expecting you to tell us where you work, I was curious as to what - ie. something corporate/finance/Real World type of stuff, or something a bit more Human and Creative - like a writer or dancer or something........

*I*, am proud to say that I come from this country:

https://www.youtube.com/w...pby9Pe3Y2E

https://www.youtube.com/w...ebQ8iGTHFQ

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Reply #63 posted 07/15/16 9:23am

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Nah.... Erin is cool and switched on.

This is a healthy discussion...that's all

It is all about having eyes wide open

If Erin wants a guy of a certain standing because it makes her feel that it makes her secure...that is cool...

But there is a caveat with that...

A guy who has money/is liquid/car/attractive etc.... Intrinsically brings an insecurity to the girl deep-down...

Why?

Because the guy already knows he is eligible, so can have his fun and move on - he never acquired that desirability without understanding how to sell.

So...it comes back to the same thing...

Hook-up...cool - just go in with eyes wide open

Long-term...look for something more substantial...which means investment (and I'm not talking money - but the difficult stuff)

There is nowadays, a bit of "cake and want it all/infantalisation" fantasy that is more and more prevalent in the presentation of relationships via media (Rom-Coms, Taylor Swift etc... wink )

Truth is...(for me anyways - and from what I have read here - I'm not alone)... the long-term stuff is very honest

Hook-ups... not so much - and are by definition...superficial

The beauty of this type of exchange of discussion is that it is both robust and has humility = a greater understanding...

As ever...Prince said it best...

"Wherever U are...whatever U do...please remember...I'll always be there for U..."

Or

"Gett off, twenty three positions in a one night stand"

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Peace x

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Reply #64 posted 07/15/16 12:23pm

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JustErin said:


What do I do? I work hard, that's what I do.

I'm not about to disclose where I work but just know that I started at the total shit bottom and started working my way up over 4 and a half years...was just offered my choice of 2 new positions within the company today as a matter of fact.

Hehe, I think we pissed her off LOL! smile Easy Erin, don't talk to me like that. You wanna find the HOTTEST LOOKING, RICHEST guy for 10 miles around and fuck his fucking brains out,....s'completely your prerogative, y'know....? Ain't no one stoppin' ya!

No one's expecting you to tell us where you work, I was curious as to what - ie. something corporate/finance/Real World type of stuff, or something a bit more Human and Creative - like a writer or dancer or something........

*I*, am proud to say that I come from this country:

https://www.youtube.com/w...pby9Pe3Y2E

https://www.youtube.com/w...ebQ8iGTHFQ

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I'm not "pissed off" lol

And who said anything about finding the hottest looking, richest dude? I certainly didn't.

What's physically attractive to me is not necessarily attractive to someone else. Everyone wants to be with someone they are attracted to. I fail to see how I am any different than anyone else in this regard.

I also never once said I wanted a "rich" guy. I simply said I wanted someone that is at least on par with where I am in life. I have one child that I raise on my own - I don't want two.

I work in the corporate world - for a company that has grown exponentially in the last 5 years.

I'll have to watch your videos later when I get home.

Oh, and btw...I'll talk to you anyway I want, just as you can talk to me anyway you want.

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Reply #65 posted 07/15/16 1:01pm

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Erin - to dampen this tone a tad...

I think some of the confusion was in your original post...

"Looks - by far the most important - it's how it all gets started

Intelligence - looks are not enough to keep me interested

Confidence - can't deal with wishy washy people

Humour - no sense of humour = boring

Money - if your car is shittier than mine, we are not gonna last

These 5 traits usually lead to many more attractive ones."

I have no issue with most of this...for a "hook-up"...but it can be interpreted as unattractive to a guy

Now before you jump on this, allow me "some rope to hang myself with" biggrin

Looks - of course they are important for a hook-up...because it is "23 positions in a one night stand"

Anything more...then looks fade and beauty shines through...and we hopefully all accept that, aswell as a spark, beauty encapsulates far more than looks

Intelligence - agreed

Confidence - hmmm "wishy-washy" comes across somewhat perjoratively... there are plenty of solid boys/girls who don't have swagger but have more content than the sharply dressed lion/ess in the cocktail bar

Some folks just a bit more reserved

Humour - agreed...one bone we all like tickled is the funny one - what strokes for some is not necessarily for another

Money - This is a contentious one...because it was expressed in very harsh terms and could lead to your disappointment

I can only say this (as per earlier)... if you want a guy because he has more money than you - then he already has power

Why?

Because he already knows he is eligible - money/crib/car/clothes and believes he has the other 4 criteria mentioned above

So...he could be a playa...if he senses that his financial status is of value to you - like attracts like right?

Now you may well stay together - but there will be an underlying insecurity...because money was part of the equation

This is only my life conclusions/observations - so I choose not to pay stock on what someone is financially worth...

Moreso, importance is on what do we share - similar values/outlook/emotional intelligence

Plenty of very clever/intelligent people out there who get the bus or walk to work and can enrich your life no end...

For this reasoning - the "shittier car" comment possibly didn't come across too well

Just my two cents!

peace x

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Reply #66 posted 07/15/16 1:32pm

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It's the opposite for me. If I'm looking for a hook up I don't care if they are living in a hostel, I just want to have sex with them because I am physically attracted to them (not that I'm interested in doing that in the first place).

What I listed is what I look for in someone for long term.

Looks are important period. Long term or not. I'm not going to get involved with someone if I am not physically attracted to them. That is called a friendship.

I'm not attracted to non-confident people. Never have been never will be. Wishy washy people can't make up their minds and I have no time for that.

Again, I never said I wanted a dude with more money than me. I said I want someone that is at least as finacially stable as I am. This, to me, is important to build a strong foundation that can last. No guy will have power over me like that because I take care of myself. He can think whatever he wants because of his looks/finances because if I were to feel insecure in a relationship, I'm out. Again, no time for that bullshit.

People who are clever/intelligent can still enrich my life - as a friend. I'm ok with that.
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Reply #67 posted 07/15/16 1:34pm

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Wow, replying on my phone is rough.
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Reply #68 posted 07/15/16 1:41pm

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Oh Erin...

Your tough exterior...rather binary outlook does not bode well

Trust me - the guy you are looking for...is going to have fun...and move on

I know - 'cos I am one of those circuit guys at the moment!

Anyways good luck - and if you ever wish to Wine & Dine in london... cool

Peace X

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Reply #69 posted 07/15/16 1:49pm

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That's cool. I honestly don't care if one does move on at this point. Really.

So you say you're hot?
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Reply #70 posted 07/15/16 2:10pm

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In a non-arrogant way - I'm good-looking (see the unconfident response lol )

And have been attracted to all sorts of women - "I like em fat, I like em round...better move that big ass round so I can work on that zipper bab"

But... I am now dating a Moldovan girl who is so flat - I can iron my shirt on her chest...

But damn if she isn't the most invigourating...mentally stimulating...and just differently wordly person I ever met!

But at 20yrs younger we are not on the same trajectory - so we just have fun... and I will always look out for her

My ex (big 15yr relationship) was different aswell... attractive...not a hottie....but god was she smart and inquisitive and she loved me...and I mean end-of-earth-loved me...

But I get that there are shades and for my reasons... called it a day... nowt sinister... just ran it's course (no kids etc...)

It did provide me with a lesson/insight though into a meaningful relationship - and the qualities required build one.

For me, I have dated girls who are Waitresses/Strippers and Lawyers/Accts... some good - some not so good.

It's about the person for me - of course attraction is important...it is a fallacy btw, that a guy will shag anything...

The most important thing for me anyways - am I comfortable/real/peaceful with the girl I am with...

Anyways...enough rambling...

You hot? lol

Peace x

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Reply #71 posted 07/15/16 2:16pm

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No, I'm not hot.

I find your Prince quotes hilarious by the way. lol
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Reply #72 posted 07/15/16 2:39pm

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Don't believe U

I think you are one of the beautiful ones

Anyways lets's remember one of Prince's earliest WOW lines...

"I ain't got no money
I ain't like those other guys you hang around
It's kinda funny
But they always seem to let you down
And I get discouraged
'Cause I never see you anymore
And I need your love, babe
That's all I'm living for, yeah"

Peace x

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Reply #73 posted 07/15/16 2:43pm

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Obviously though Erin...

If I was gonna "hook-up" ...we'll take a trip

"We're all alone in a villa on the Rivera
That's in France on the south side
In case u cared
Out of all yo friends I wanna be the closest
That's why I tell u things
So u'll be the mostest
When it comes 2 life, 2 be this man's wife
U got 2 be well educated on the subject of fights
I mean prevention of
In other words - its R.E.A.L meaning of this thing called love
Are u up on this?
If so, then u can get up off hug and a kiss..."

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Reply #74 posted 07/15/16 3:12pm

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JustErin said:

No, I'm not hot.

I find your Prince quotes hilarious by the way. lol


If that's you in your profile picture, I'd say you're pretty hot...
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Reply #75 posted 07/15/16 4:02pm

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Oh EmmaMcG...

We all know what half a face could mean...

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Reply #76 posted 07/15/16 7:39pm

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:-?

And just like that, the moment is gone.

*zips pants back up*
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Reply #77 posted 07/15/16 9:52pm

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JustErin said:

No, I'm not hot. I find your Prince quotes hilarious by the way. lol

JustErin has always been hot. That is !00% truth.

99.9% of everything I say is strictly for my own entertainment
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Reply #78 posted 07/16/16 7:00am

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....Out of the 101 things that are now being discussed on this thread, no one ever mentioned....... Romance..... which is what my original post was about!

Erin (or anyone else) - do you like a guy with a good heart?

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Reply #79 posted 07/16/16 7:22am

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...and I just came across this, y'all gotta read this shit:

https://www.floh.in/faq

Read the "What are Floh member like" bit.... if THAT'S their definition of "most eligible singles on the planet", then end of the world is near.... smile

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Reply #80 posted 07/16/16 9:44am

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domainator2010 said:

....Out of the 101 things that are now being discussed on this thread, no one ever mentioned..... Romance..... which is what my original post was about!


Erin (or anyone else) - do you like a guy with a good heart?



I love a good heart. With a side of rice and some sweet tea.

Nice guys are ok too, I guess.
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Reply #81 posted 07/16/16 12:37pm

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How do women hook up with guys with big dicks? How is that a way of picking men out? It is not like men walk around with their dicks hanging out. lol So no... women never choose men for their dick size. They find that out AFTER they were chosen... usually, unless you are grabby or pick up dudes in nudist colonies.


You forget that girls talk. I had 2-3 friends of a girl I dated in high school start flirting with me not long after she and I first bumped nasties. Not thinking I was all that or a bag of chips, I figured it was because dating a cute girl can sometimes make a guy suddenly seem more attractive.



Found out a while later, after I moved on and did hook up with one of her friends, it was because she had told them about my size.

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Reply #82 posted 07/16/16 2:12pm

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EnDoRpHn said:

paintedlady said:

How do women hook up with guys with big dicks? How is that a way of picking men out? It is not like men walk around with their dicks hanging out. lol So no... women never choose men for their dick size. They find that out AFTER they were chosen... usually, unless you are grabby or pick up dudes in nudist colonies.


You forget that girls talk. I had 2-3 friends of a girl I dated in high school start flirting with me not long after she and I first bumped nasties. Not thinking I was all that or a bag of chips, I figured it was because dating a cute girl can sometimes make a guy suddenly seem more attractive.



Found out a while later, after I moved on and did hook up with one of her friends, it was because she had told them about my size.


I've never wanted my girlfriend's leftovers & they've never wanted mine.
"We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15
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Reply #83 posted 07/17/16 9:34am

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domainator2010 said:

....Out of the 101 things that are now being discussed on this thread, no one ever mentioned....... Romance..... which is what my original post was about!

Erin (or anyone else) - do you like a guy with a good heart?

I love a good heart. With a side of rice and some sweet tea. Nice guys are ok too, I guess.


Surely you mean with a good glass of Chianti...

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Reply #84 posted 07/17/16 9:39am

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JustErin said:

No, I'm not hot. I find your Prince quotes hilarious by the way. lol

JustErin has always been hot. That is !00% truth.


No doubt Erin is Hot - my earlier post was just jokes

But...there are many "Hot" looking folks out there...until you get to know them...

Then they are just plain ugly!

And that isn't aimed at Erin - who seems cool...a tad strident...but cool

Peace x

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Reply #85 posted 07/17/16 12:02pm

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Maybe it’s just me…but I find the Americanism “hot”, is a term which evokes a “those that are…and those that aren’t” insecurity

I prefer a more subjective description… such as “enchanting” or “bewitching” for a girl and “handsome” or “good-looking” for a boy

“Hot” is just too MTV disposable imo

Must be my own personal affectation – just used to hate that term when living in LA… (think clueless)

Like “hot” was used as a noun to denote some inherent brilliance…rather than simply being attractive/bland without anything else under the hood…

Rather than describe someone as "hot"...I'd rather say that's someone I'm gonna...


No wonder some people think I'm odd!

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Reply #86 posted 07/17/16 12:26pm

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Horsefeathers said:


domainator2010 said:

....Out of the 101 things that are now being discussed on this thread, no one ever mentioned..... Romance..... which is what my original post was about!


Erin (or anyone else) - do you like a guy with a good heart?



I love a good heart. With a side of rice and some sweet tea. Nice guys are ok too, I guess.


Surely you mean with a good glass of Chianti...



No, I never touch the stuff. Fava beans, either. Or liver. I just could not make that work for me.
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Reply #87 posted 07/17/16 11:02pm

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I don't trust this "Connected" guy.

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Reply #88 posted 07/18/16 7:03am

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domainator2010 said:

....Out of the 101 things that are now being discussed on this thread, no one ever mentioned....... Romance..... which is what my original post was about!

Erin (or anyone else) - do you like a guy with a good heart?


No, I love guys with evil hearts.

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Reply #89 posted 07/18/16 10:10am

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I just grab one off the street and throw him over my shoulder

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