Do you cyber with a regular contact?

Have you exchanged pictures with each other?

Are you using your real name, a mic or even a webcam?


Now with all this in mind,is it cheating even though
you will never go as far as meeting them?

Why are so many people ruining their relationships over someone they'll never no?

Cheating has nothing to do with it being cyber.
I think the line you're talking about is probably cybering with someone who doesn't get paid to do it. I mean when it becomes "personal". When feelings are involved, any kind of feelings that are not based on "pay & get it".

If 2 people are conversing via computer
it's fine. If they decide to "masterbate"
with each other, chances are they would do this (and more) in person if possible.

If it's reaching to go to another level
then both parties should question the relationships they ARE already in...

If you do it while you have a significant other there is obviously something missing within that relationship.

You dont think someone can be really happy in there relationship and still want to get nasty online?

No. And there isn't anything anyone can say that would convince me. I've heard all the clichéd scenarios.

But wait, here comes many more...

Supernova said:

Supernova, you are scaring me! I totally agree with you. Cybering is the same as cheating in my mind, and if you've gotta go outside the relationship to cheat, then there's something wrong.

IMHO of course.

Right on,I respect eveyones opinion and I'm intrested in hearing them,not changing them.
That something thats missing in the relationship.Its obviously a sexual,or not?

crazyhorse said:

It can be sexual. It can also be something else that's not being fulfilled - emotional needs, for example.

See, I think the two are linked in that problems that already exist in the relationship will manifest themselves into sexual problems. Of course this is not true all of the time, but a lot of the time it is.

More often than not, if you are not being satiated by your mate, then something else is really going on.

I think to a certain extent theres nothing wrong with it.Talkin dirty with some girl you chatting with is not a big deal to me.But on the other hand,if your up all night
getting nasty with some girl on a webcam while your girlfriends asleep,you might have a problem going on.

If you wouldn't feel comfortable with your partner knowing what you're doing, then, yeah--it's cheating. Hiding, sneaking is a pretty good indication that something isn't healthy. And reverse the situation: if your girlfriend or boyfriend was doing whatever it was you're doing with someone else, how would you feel?

i think cyber becomes cheating if you spend time 'feeling good' with someone online while you neglect your partner's needs. If your partner doesn't know there's a 'problem' maybe you should tell them or leave.

When does cyber sex cross the line and become cheating?

The moment you start!

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[This message was edited Sat Mar 29 4:15:06 PST 2003 by MrBliss]

Let's say you were married and you met someone special on the org, you chat with that person everyday and even dream of them sometimes, adventually you start ignoring your partner and spending all of your time chatting with your new friend you even start during down sex just so you can spend all of your time on the org. If that happens then I would say that you crossed the line and your relationship is in deep trouble.

Guys, wake up... fantasy isn't cheating. I'm assuming by "cybersex" (terrible term) you mean chatting, talking dirty etc, and masturbating right? Personally I don't see the appeal, but I don't see how it is any different from having an erotic dream, or fantasizing about doing some sexual act with someone, or thinking about someone else when you masturbate. It isn't "cheating", it's fantasy.

Cheating is secretly fucking someone else when you are supposedly in a monogamous relationship. Usually involves an exchange of bodily fluids at some point.

Glad I could clear this up for you all

Muse2noPharaoh said:

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crazyhorse said:

U never know...

ian said:

You're refering to cheating as a physical act, but it's got more to do with emotions than just the physical.
The person on the other side is giving you something that is probably missing in your partner, or else you wouldn't need it. That's the same thing that happens when you fuck someone in real life. It's not about the act, it's about letting someone else satisfy your sexual/emotional needs than your partner.

I think cyber sex is OK "but" at some point you will probably want to hook up and see if the real thing is as good as the fantasy???

Natsume said:

Natsume said:

Again:

MissCute said:

Even if it's not considered "cheating" per se, it's considered an emotional betrayal by many people.

Supernova said:

Yes, that's the simpler way of putting it

Supernova said:

Cheating is a physical act, to me.

Any man with a bit of sex drive will fantasize about other women and be attracted to them. It's not an "emotional betrayal", it's sexual desire. You can choose to participate in a monogamous, trusting relationship without cutting your balls off entirely you know

In my opinion, people who consider healthy sexual fantasy an "emotional betrayal" are the ones with emotional problems... in the sense of feeling threatened or disappointed by the mere thought that your partner might imagine sexual acts not involving you.

ian said:

We figured that part.


Regardless, to many people to have "cybersex" is considered an emotional betrayal by their flesh and blood partner. And it's not just fantasy to them because it's more than mere imagination, simply because they're looking elsewhere for whatever is missing in their real world relationship. And as Natsume said, it's not always sex they may be missing in that relationship, or virtual sex that they're missing. It could be something entirely different.

as soon as you initiate any interest other than plutonic, it is cheating. end of story.

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