Of course, I've had "crushes" on other girls before, but there is this girl that is an amazing friend of mind, who is also cute, funny, supportive, caring, and just fantastic in general.

Even though we are not involved in a formal relationship, she makes me feel so great. Even more so, she has shown so many signals of being interested in me, just short of throwing herself at my feet. Yet, every time I am around her, I just can't bring myself to ask her out. I have never ever had this much trouble doing something like this. Every day I see her, I just flirt with her in a very Junior High School manner, and never go through with it. Then I get home, and sit around depressed that I never said anything.

I just don't get what it is about this girl in particular, but she is driving me crazy, and I just can't muster up enough courage to tell her how I feel.

Anyways, I'm not really looking for advice or anything, I just believe that the more people I tell this to, the easier it will be for me to talk to her. I've missed many boats in my lifetime, and this is certainly one I am in danger of missing, and it is a very, very, very, big boat.

I have never thought about someone, within a relationship or not, as much as I've been thinking about her.

Thanks for listening,

Sav.

Good luck!!

go for it. don't make that mistake of missing that boat. they don't sail very frequently . . .


better to regret trying than to regret NOT trying imo
good luck

I agree with XxaxX.

You have to go for it. You will regret it always if the opportunity passes and you never get the chance again.
There's nothing worse than a missed chance at happiness.

And if you are getting such a strong impreession that she is interested in you, as well, she probably *IS*...and she's probably sitting at home being just as confused as you are about why you aren't asking her out.

Don't wait any longer. I hope soon you will be making a post about how happy you are about having taken that chance.

Good luck.

Best of luck Sav and I mean that sincerely

I wish you luck but from the sound of things you wont need it

When I was a kid in elementary school, we used to write notes and draw little boxes for checking your answers.

Usually, they would say something like:

Will you be my girlfriend? ___ Yes ___No

Please give back after class.

If you checked yes, then it's on!!

Ask her...

love is sooo grand...





i love to see it in every body...!!!

It sounds like this is one boat you should not miss, go for it!

savoirfaire said:

Au contraire, oh lovestruck one.

Remember this: if you never make that move you might regret it. I realize none of us likes rejection, but you've stated that she gives strong hints that she's interested in you. That being the case, she's probably as fearful of making that move as you are.

Supernova said:

I THINK YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO, SAVOIRFAIRE

Revealing your feelings towards this lady may not be easy. But either you take the chance, or curse your lack of action by spending the rest of your days as a bitter and twisted old man like me.

The choice is yours.

My two kobo
:2C:

PS: I mean bitter and twisted like this: Not this:

Hope everything works out for you.

How sweet... I wish you nothing but the best, savoirfaire! Don't stop trying... I worked harder for my last boyfriend than anything else in my whole life, and it was worth it! (Especially for the friendship afterwards.)

Blackcat said:

My wife said she'd get notes that read, "Do you like me? Circle one of these: yes or no." She'd circle "or" and return it.

4 me...there is this girl in sydney whom i havent seen since i met her when i went 2 visit other friends other there a year ago.
we've talked a couple of times on the fone,& when we have,it has been amazing...
40mins minimum,,,no awkward pauses...just amazing.
she used 2 live only 10mins from me but moved 2 sydney 5 years ago.
whats so coincidental is Mrbliss & FunkyStrange used 2 live in the exact same suburb 80mins out of sydney that she does!
heard Fuel's "Shimmer" on the radio as we were leaving sydney & i hadnt heard that song in atleast 2 years!
with the line "all that shimmers in this world is sure 2 fade...away...again....2 far away from me 2 hold..."
i nearly laughed just cos it was so ironic....i smiled for AGES after hearing that song!

its all,like,fate & stuff!


so anyway,im off 2 sydney in 2 weeks,so i am going 2 tell her how awesome i think she is & since we r staying at darling harbour for 2 nights (dad & myself)...
i'll ask her out,romantic dinner at darling harbour...
not expecting anything big 2 happen...but i know if i don't do it i will regret it...
ppl would probably think "get over it dude,it wont happen"...
but she's justsomeone u dont easily 4get.
& the great thing is,unlike other crushes where i get all depressed & cry just cos i am not really in2 the person...
just longing for that whole thing...
with Hannah...i just thik wild,happy thoughts.
which is just really beautiful...really cool...
perhaps its just me growing up.

& i gotta start having this "u only live once so just go 4 it mofo!" attitude.
savoirfaire: let's both do this...
when i get back from sydney i will letcha know how it went


,
Joshy
[This message was edited Sat Mar 29 23:13:59 PST 2003 by Joshy84au]

Thank you all for your support.

I know you're all right, and I give the exact same advice to my friends, but I think we all know it's so much easier to say it, than it is to do it.

But you are all right. Love is peculiar. I am a very rational and logical human being. I relate most things in my life to scientific fact, or to being products of my environment. I lust for women because I find them physically appealing.

But love, going ga-ga over someone, unable to speak when they're around you, imagining yourself with that person, sex or no sex, that feeling I just cannot rationalize. Perhaps that's why it scares me.

take care,
sav