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Girl troubles Ok so I've known this girl for 12 years we use to date but past year or so we been talking on fb messenger.I've been sending her flowers which she likes a lot
so a few days ago her bf kicks her out and she goes to a bar.she receives the flowers I sent to her same day but I sent them to her moms address.So she's at the bar with no money for gas to leave to go to her moms and no money for gas to get any food.i offered to send her money but she told me she couldnt ask of me to that but i told her i wanted to do it I send her $50 by western union.she says she gets gas in her car and something to eat with it Then she asks if she could come to my house that night .I told her yes then she drives to my house which is 90 minutes from her town .she ends up spending the night with me,I spray tan her,she gets in her bra and panties right in front of me .which gave me a huge smile on my face . she also gave me a pare of bra and panties to keep . then we kiss and I start touching her boobs and ass then she starts smiling and laughing .she told me she couldn't do it this time cuz she just got out of a bad relationship and she didn't want me to be used as a rebound .I wouldn't mind anyways .she says we will do more next time .she leaves and seems like nothing is wrong .then she texts me later on that day and hinted that she needed more gas money .I told her I didn't have it .I try to text her next day and no response .I tried again last night and no response .I know she saw my messages cuz it says message seen on messenger.I'm trying to figure out why she's ignoring me. We've known each other for 12 years and only recently that I ever gave her money .she's not the kind of girl that would use people .what should I do ? And why do yall think she is ignoring me? I've been depressed for 2 days now cuz I'm worried about her .I'm listening to prince musicology CD now to help me feel better. Also she said she needs $340 to pay for her tags on her car .she has a job and her boss won't pay her for some reason .I messaged her that I could send her $200 of it to help her but no response.[Edited 2/20/16 5:14am] [Edited 2/20/16 5:20am] There's Joy in repetition | |
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breakdown2k14 said: Ok so I've known this girl for 12 years we use to date but past year or so we been talking on fb messenger.I've been sending her flowers which she likes a lot so a few days ago her bf kicks her out and she goes to a bar.she receives the flowers I sent to her same day but I sent them to her moms address.So she's at the bar with no money for gas to leave to go to her moms and no money for gas to get any food.i offered to send her money but she told me she couldnt ask of me to that but i told her i wanted to do it I send her $50 by western union.she says she gets gas in her car and something to eat with it Then she asks if she could come to my house that night .I told her yes then she drives to my house which is 90 minutes from her town .she ends up spending the night with me,I spray tan her,she gets in her bra and panties right in front of me .which gave me a huge smile on my face . she also gave me a pare of bra and panties to keep . then we kiss and I start touching her boobs and ass then she starts smiling and laughing .she told me she couldn't do it this time cuz she just got out of a bad relationship and she didn't want me to be used as a rebound .I wouldn't mind anyways .she says we will do more next time .she leaves and seems like nothing is wrong .then she texts me later on that day and hinted that she needed more gas money .I told her I didn't have it .I try to text her next day and no response .I tried again last night and no response .I know she saw my messages cuz it says message seen on messenger.I'm trying to figure out why she's ignoring me. We've known each other for 12 years and only recently that I ever gave her money .she's not the kind of girl that would use people .what should I do ? And why do yall think she is ignoring me? I've been depressed for 2 days now cuz I'm worried about her .I'm listening to prince musicology CD now to help me feel better. Also she said she needs $340 to pay for her tags on her car .she has a job and her boss won't pay her for some reason .I messaged her that I could send her $200 of it to help her but no response.[Edited 2/20/16 5:14am] [Edited 2/20/16 5:20am] Dude, WAKE UP!!!! She is straight up USING you and lying to you. Move on, leave her alone and when she contacts you again, ignore her. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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There's no doubt about it. You are being used. Cut this girl out of your life and move on. And DON"T SEND HER ANY MORE MONEY! "Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
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I don't know if she's using you but it doesn't sound like it. Like you said, you've been friends for 12 Years and you used to date and you didn't have to pay her for that. The reason she hasn't text you back could be that she feels she over stepped the mark in kissing you. Maybe she's embarrassed? If it's bothering you or if you're worried you should call her. A phone call is a lot better than a text or whatever. It has that personal touch. But don't offer her any more money. She might get the wrong impression. | |
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Why doesn't she have her own money? Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise. | |
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moderatorThat spray tan link links to a forum I didn't know existed. News Comments? 1999? Carmen Electra was married to that thing? | |
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Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture! REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince "I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben |
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She called me today.she said she hasnt been ignoring me,her phone is messed up and she can only use it to make calls.so its all good [Edited 2/20/16 22:13pm] There's Joy in repetition | |
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breakdown2k14 said: She called me today.she said she hasnt been ignoring me,her phone is messed up and she can only use it to make calls.so its all good [Edited 2/20/16 22:13pm] Oh my...dude, you are way too gullible and this chick knows it b/c she's playing you like a fiddle and you are allowing it. Good luck with that.  I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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she's just recently stopped bangin' her boss??? the rest is no riddle, methinks "Whatever skin we're in
we all need 2 b friends" |
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Why were you sending flowers to a woman that had a bf that wasn't you? | |
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Thanks for the advice everybody .I'll be updating this There's Joy in repetition | |
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Thanks Luv4u ..Here's a update. I told her thanks for using me.then she said she didn't know what I was talking about .then she said she never said we would date and she said for me to leave her the fuck alone since I was accusing her. I didn't reply after that .maybe i over reacted but I sent her $150 to help her.she never asked for it straight out.I've known her for 12 years so its hard for me to believe she was using me.she told me she's not even attracted to the guy she's dating when he's naked
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Sounds like you're getting what you want to me. That's what life's about. It isn't my cup of tea but who am I to judge? | |
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i'm really not an expert but i have to say this: when love is right it does not cause so much worry, and so many bad feelings. it was nice of you to help her out with money. not many would do that. but, she doesn't seem gratefu. i think you deserve a girl who is grateful to you when you treat her nice. imo run away from this girl. run away fast! | |
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Thanks for the replies and advice everyone .I still haven't talked to her in a week
I learned a lesson and I'm gonna keep my $ from now on.I still love her and if she had been upfront and honest with me from the start that she didn't want to date me and just be friends then I wouldn't had no problem with that but oh well [Edited 3/2/16 15:22pm] There's Joy in repetition | |
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Wait...you realized she was using you and you still sent her $150??? Huh? I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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missfee said: Wait...you realized she was using you and you still sent her $150??? Huh? I had a feeling she was using me but gave her benefit of the doubt There's Joy in repetition | |
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If she likes you as a friend, she likes you as a friend. The cause of your concern is that the money is getting in the way - so cut out giving her money, as it is complicating things. If you want to spend time together - sex or just hanging out - take her to dinner, talk about whatever and just pick up the check if she has no money. But do not straight up giver her cash - it is causing too much of a grey area in your relationship with her. And if you do want her romantically - then straight up ask her - no biggie if it is a no go...just let her know you had to ask and go find a girl who is into you romantically. For every guy there is a girl who is into you... Peace out Brother! ~Shakalaka!~..... ~Mayday!~ | |
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