missfee said:

Have you ever experienced a situation where you actually went above the call of duty for a friend, but in the end, you regretted it? Like, "no good deed goes unpunished"? Well that's how I feel now. I thought that you were supposed to look out for your good friends...you know, have their back as you would have them have your back? Well I had my friend's back and was basically told, in so many words, thanks but it wasn't necessary so YOU wasted your time. Huh? Basically in so many words, I was told a blatant untruthful situation about my friend and defended her...clearly to the point that the liar was left looking dumb in the face and admitted fault in the "story" they were telling so freely to others, so I shut it down. When I notified my friend of the situation and told her of how disgusted I felt by this person's deception, she basically told me that if I was upset about it, it was on me. Really? I feel like I shouldn't had even made the situation clear at all and just kept my mouth shut, I mean especially given her reaction to it. I mean if I would've just sat there, kept mum and said nothing, wouldn't that had been fake as hell?

The fact that ypu supported your "friend" should be enough. This friend maye less friend and more associate "friend."

kewlschool said:

missfee said:

Have you ever experienced a situation where you actually went above the call of duty for a friend, but in the end, you regretted it? Like, "no good deed goes unpunished"? Well that's how I feel now. I thought that you were supposed to look out for your good friends...you know, have their back as you would have them have your back? Well I had my friend's back and was basically told, in so many words, thanks but it wasn't necessary so YOU wasted your time. Huh? Basically in so many words, I was told a blatant untruthful situation about my friend and defended her...clearly to the point that the liar was left looking dumb in the face and admitted fault in the "story" they were telling so freely to others, so I shut it down. When I notified my friend of the situation and told her of how disgusted I felt by this person's deception, she basically told me that if I was upset about it, it was on me. Really? I feel like I shouldn't had even made the situation clear at all and just kept my mouth shut, I mean especially given her reaction to it. I mean if I would've just sat there, kept mum and said nothing, wouldn't that had been fake as hell?

The fact that ypu supported your "friend" should be enough. This friend maye less friend and more associate "friend."

After sleeping on it, I've come to arrive at this conclusion as well.

NinaB said:

Charming. I couldn't of sat there with my mouth shut either. Some folks would though & then afterwards come tell u what was said Maybe there's more to this than meets the eye.

True, perhaps there is more going on than I'm aware of. Her reaction just seemed so strange to me. And like you said, yes, I sure could have sat up there, said nothing and then rushed to tell her what was said, but that's not me. I defended her because, first off, I knew what the truth was and secondly, I consider her to be a friend. I'm not one to sit back and let someone bash on someone else when I know there's a blatant lie being said in front of my face.

missfee said:

NinaB said:

Charming. I couldn't of sat there with my mouth shut either. Some folks would though & then afterwards come tell u what was said Maybe there's more to this than meets the eye.

True, perhaps there is more going on than I'm aware of. Her reaction just seemed so strange to me. And like you said, yes, I sure could have sat up there, said nothing and then rushed to tell her what was said, but that's not me. I defended her because, first off, I knew what the truth was and secondly, I consider her to be a friend. I'm not one to sit back and let someone bash on someone else when I know there's a blatant lie being said in front of my face.

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i think it's good you defended your friend from malicious gossip. wonder what's going on with her?

missfee said:

the only time i have had a regret

is when i putt expectations on what i did...

other than that, i come out cool...

(and yeah... it took a bit to realize i wanted somethin)

you need Superfriends

Don't get into things that are not your business, at least your friend asks for your help. Otherwise, stay out. And for your friend's reaction, she must think the same.

missfee said:

Have you ever experienced a situation where you actually went above the call of duty for a friend, but in the end, you regretted it? Like, "no good deed goes unpunished"? Well that's how I feel now. I thought that you were supposed to look out for your good friends...you know, have their back as you would have them have your back? Well I had my friend's back and was basically told, in so many words, thanks but it wasn't necessary so YOU wasted your time. Huh? Basically in so many words, I was told a blatant untruthful situation about my friend and defended her...clearly to the point that the liar was left looking dumb in the face and admitted fault in the "story" they were telling so freely to others, so I shut it down. When I notified my friend of the situation and told her of how disgusted I felt by this person's deception, she basically told me that if I was upset about it, it was on me. Really? I feel like I shouldn't had even made the situation clear at all and just kept my mouth shut, I mean especially given her reaction to it. I mean if I would've just sat there, kept mum and said nothing, wouldn't that had been fake as hell?

was that whole thing a sex related matter?

cuz yall know when things get heated, when folks is lustful, sin comes knocking on your door with the swiftness

if i were you id´just go to both of them and talk it out..discuss it...they gots to understand your point of view tho....I mean we all been there and done that...we all fell victim to the pleasures of the flesh....butt...we re all human right?

so basicaly, if these folks were down with you til two of you three gave into temptashion, is the third person still mad at you or is it rather the other one.

have you thought about spiritual counseling..? like after the moment you realized you done fucked up..you ever thought about confessing? or like, talk with that third person in private.?

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thing is, just like using a safeword..things can still get out of hand despite using one. things spiral ...out of control.

its like he said she said....

now I know yuo meant well but those lowlife mawfuckas seem to be taking you for granted..

now I know you and me aint personal really....like not that close...butt still...I dig your posts. you kinda positive from what I can tell.

butt yeah, back to topic..

that urge can be kinda devilish....its easy to give in...and like quicksand...once you in you cant get out without that shock...without that dissappointment..

its like my man Jalil and his buddy Ecxtacy used to say...FRIENDS HOW MANY OF US HAVE THEM ? FRIENDS ....ONES WE CAN DEPEND ON....FRIENDS ......BEFORE WE GO ANY FURTHER LET´S BE FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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i think you´re friends are just a bit uptight and not as openminded as you are. perhaps you should´ve gone into a bit more details in the planning phase? like kinda be sure ALL parties involved kinda know what they gotten into and know what they gon get? nahmean? like being explicit?

butt yeah, perhaps they couldn´t handle the truth.

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sometimes the urge is just too strong...the passion takes over.

its like that old After7 song inthe heat of the moment...I lost my miind ...didnt know what to do.

Keep ya head up girl,. you aint done nothing wrong

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thats whats wrong with this country, too....peeps talking loud and sayin nothing...on FB on twitter in real life...folks act a fool.

butt we can be like that again...those glory years..the greatness...and make America great again!

What you did was good and what a friend SHOULD do.


Your friend's response was from a point of "no fucks shall be given what people say about me".... so it's not YOU. Do not take it personal... it's just she doesn't care what people say. She knows they were lying... and her stoic demeanor is more a reflection of who she is and not what she thinks of you. I am sure she is grateful.

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