A dude who used to train me years ago opened his own gym. He has classes to teach kids how to deal with bullying.

He's an expert muay thai kick-boxer.......'nuff said.

Then they become...PRINCE

well one of my friends has a son. he was born with a very peaceful nature. so this peaceful nature he had (at the time) caused other kids to bully him. when his mom came to pick him up she could tell he was feeling kind of down. finally he told her about these three guys who continued to pick on him and etc. i was told that as time went on her son did have an explosion one day. harmless as it was it scared the *hit out of the three bullies. while in class the three bullies were acting out and directing their jibs to u know who.

the explosion was: her son stood up, picked up his back pack, slammed it on his desk while he yelled at the three "STOP." then sat back down quietly. the teacher was concerned about the explosion (as she should have been.)

teacher had meeting with my friend about the explosive incident.

phew

so

to make a short story shorter, she got him into a karate class at age 8yrs. we all noticed how his demeanor changed. the new him was more confident in his carriage. his body language was much more positive and calm.

the karate classes (i noticed) was for co-ed youth, ages 5 - 16, by schedule.

they had a tornament every summer to earn their different level belts. i went to a couple of the tornaments to show support. as i watched each phase of the tornament i noticed there didn't seem to be ego issues amongst the youth.

my friend also told me that the other parents had their kids in the karate classes to help them to learn "how not to fight" without sacrificing their sense of dignity.

so her son made it through to all educational levels with good grades and no further incidents of bullying victimization.

here's a link so (if you wish) you can get an overview of karate for kids: http://www.martialartssuc...-for-kids/

i hope this helps

My daughter was bullied in the 3rd grade. My daughter has a very sensitive nature, takes everything to heart, and this little girl would bully her and my daughter would try to get away before she would start crying. One day, I had woken my daughter up for school and she begged me to home school her. My daughter always loved school, so to have her beg me to home school her, it was heart wrenching. I asked what was going on and she finally told me. I asked her why she hadn't told me sooner and she said she thought she could handle it. I asked if she had told the teachers and she insisted that she had. I talked with the principal and told her that we have a serious problem if a child who has loved school all this time was now begging (and crying) to be home schooled. The principal said she would look into it and called me later that day to say that she had spoken with my daughter to get all the facts, and then called the little girl and talked with her. The little girl admitted that she had done everything my daughter accused her of doing, saying everything my daughter said she said. The girl's mom was horrified to learn her daughter had been doing this, and to actually hear her admit it ... she was so embarrassed and ashamed. The mom was also the girl scout leader of my daughter's troop, and her daughter was in the same troop, so the bullying wasn't just going on at school, but during Girl Scout's too. The principal told me, as well, that my daughter had done everything she was supposed to do, talked with the teachers every time something happened. The problem came in because she would tell different teachers, and each teacher thought it was just a one-time incident, and they'd get on to the girl, and thought the problem was settled, which obviously it wasn't. They changed the school policy after that, any time a child reported a bullying incident to the teacher it had to be reported to the office and it was filed in the bully's file. It doesn't matter if it was a one-time incident, this way they would be able to see if it was something that would continue to happen and the child being bullied was reporting to other teachers.

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The little girl was not allowed back in the class room for two weeks and she had to take all of her classes in the office during that time. She also had to write a letter of apology to my daughter and gave her a gift. Her mom made her give my daughter something that was important to the little girl. My daughter, bless her heart, wanted to give the little girl a gift in return, saying that she accepted her apology and to thank her for apologizing to begin with.

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My daughter still has problems related to the bullying she had went through. It effected her sense of self, her self-esteem. She has a lot of anger that she is still working through. It doesn't help that around the same time the bullying was taking place she had lost her grandfather, who she was really close to, and her great-grandmother had died a few months prior to that, too. So it's all had a huge impact on my daughter and she is still trying to come to terms with it all. She's in 6th grade now.

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My daughter is such an amazing young lady, very strong-willed, though sensitive. She's not afraid to face her fears. When I lived in an apartment and was having problems with the downstairs neighbor, after I had been in a car accident and had gotten seriously hurt, when I was released home from the hospital, the downstairs neighbor started her stuff again, and my daughter went next door to play with her friend, but I found out later that she had went next door to get her friend to go downstairs with her, and confronted the neighbor, telling her, "My mom just got out of the hospital because of a car wreck and she was hurt really bad. We're tiptoeing upstairs because every time we breath you call the cops. Please just leave my mom alone and let her get better. We can't be any quieter than we are because we whisper and we tiptoe just so you don't call the cops and you still call them. My mom doesn't need the stress." The only reason I know about it is because my daughter's friend's mother was down there when my daughter showed up to confront the neighbor. But this little girl that bullied her, really did terrorize her to have had that great of an impact on my daughter. It breaks my heart every time I think of it.

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I can't protect her from all the ills of the world, and I know that, but it still hurts to know that she suffered in silence for so long, hiding what was going on at school from her dad and me because she thought she could handle it herself. Miss Independent.

free2bfreeda said:

well one of my friends has a son. he was born with a very peaceful nature. so this peaceful nature he had (at the time) caused other kids to bully him. when his mom came to pick him up she could tell he was feeling kind of down. finally he told her about these three guys who continued to pick on him and etc. i was told that as time went on her son did have an explosion one day. harmless as it was it scared the *hit out of the three bullies. while in class the three bullies were acting out and directing their jibs to u know who.

the explosion was: her son stood up, picked up his back pack, slammed it on his desk while he yelled at the three "STOP." then sat back down quietly. the teacher was concerned about the explosion (as she should have been.)

teacher had meeting with my friend about the explosive incident.

phew

so

to make a short story shorter, she got him into a karate class at age 8yrs. we all noticed how his demeanor changed. the new him was more confident in his carriage. his body language was much more positive and calm.

the karate classes (i noticed) was for co-ed youth, ages 5 - 16, by schedule.

they had a tornament every summer to earn their different level belts. i went to a couple of the tornaments to show support. as i watched each phase of the tornament i noticed there didn't seem to be ego issues amongst the youth.

my friend also told me that the other parents had their kids in the karate classes to help them to learn "how not to fight" without sacrificing their sense of dignity.

so her son made it through to all educational levels with good grades and no further incidents of bullying victimization.

here's a link so (if you wish) you can get an overview of karate for kids: http://www.martialartssuc...-for-kids/

i hope this helps

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My daughter is now a red belt in martial arts. I never wanted her to be in a position of not being able to defend herself again.

One piece of advice Gunsnhalen, listen when your sister wants to talk. With my daughter small details would come out at different times. It took some time to get the whole story of what the little girl put her through. Sometimes I think I still don't know all of it.

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Also, remind her of what is good and beautiful about her. Bulies tend to find those sensitive places and really pick at those areas, and your sister will need reassurance of who she is, that she is not who the bully is trying to make her believe she is. It's been 3 years and we're still helping our daughter to remember her own strength and beauty. She's beginning to blossom and she is discovering who she is and realizing that being different is a beautiful thing. She is now starting to celebrate her differences from others, instead of being ashamed with being different. With as sensitive as she is, she always felt like she was supposed to hide her sensitivies and not let anyone see her cry, but now, she realizes there is beauty in being able to feel things so deeply and has learned to express her feelings in artwork. (She's become pretty good, too!)

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Also, it might not hurt to talk with the parents. As in my daughter's case, the mother never even imagined that her daughter would do anything like that, at least not until her daughter admitted that she was doing everything my daughter said. But, that could go the other way, too, so be prepared for that. Their kid may deny it and her parents may decide your sister is lying. That is often the case, unfortunately, because no parent wants to believe their child is capable of being a bully. Or they may even encourage the behavior, thinking it's cute, or were bullies themselves and see nothing wrong with their daughter's behavior. We got lucky that the little girl did admit it, and her mom was not going to defend her daughter's bad behavior.

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But what my daughter really needed was just someone to hear what she was saying, to really listen to her. Even today, she will let us know if she thinks we are not truly hearing what she is saying, and she does become frustrated at those times and I have to remember that it's because of those times she tried to tell the teachers what was going on and they didn't really do anything about it, because they weren't really hearing what my daughter was saying. So it's really important to hear, to really hear, what your sister is saying. That is what she needs most from her big brother, that, and lots of love and encouragement.

NinaB said:

Nice to see so many folks recommend martial arts, it helped me in so many ways as a child. My step father initially taught me the basics of karate because a boy was bullying me. I wish all children had the opportunity to do martial arts.

It beats enduring bullying for two years because adults won't do anything. The worst bullying occurs during the middle school years.

purplethunder3121 said:

The best way is to build self-esteem and show the bullies that their words have no effect.

But so many times, bullies get physical. If your sister doesn't know how to defend herself, she might look into some classes, like uPtoWnNY said.

purplethunder3121 said:

NinaB said:

Nice to see so many folks recommend martial arts, it helped me in so many ways as a child. My step father initially taught me the basics of karate because a boy was bullying me. I wish all children had the opportunity to do martial arts.

It beats enduring bullying for two years because adults won't do anything. The worst bullying occurs during the middle school years.

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I don't know that it is the middle school years. I was bullied in 3rd grade too. A little boy would beat me up every day, no reason, just something to do I guess. It got so bad that I would hide in the girl's bathroom until school started. That didn't work out so well since he would send his female cousin n the bathroom to drag me out after he figured out what I was doing. But that bullying didn't effect me so much. I was going through worse things at home. *shrugs*

Kids were being little fuckers to my son n I handled it myself n got up in the kids faces n threatend em all with hell if the shit didnt stop today n threatened the staff n everyone else getting a paycheck daily who turned blind to it n nothing was gonna stop me, I had friends behind me n we all pushed back as hard as we could to the district n the school to get things handled. It changed n I didnt back down even with district letters of jail etc etc bla bla .. I said go to hell fuck your letters n fuck you .. your all are on the payroll letting this shit happen n we have proof on video. They tightened up their ways, they knew they were slacking n couldnt disprove it. Fuck these rude ass brats dont let em get away with shit.

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hifidelity67 said:

Kids were being little fuckers to my son n I handled it myself n got up in the kids faces n threatend em all with hell if the shit didnt stop today n threatened the staff n everyone else getting a paycheck daily who turned blind to it n nothing was gonna stop me, I had friends behind me n we all pushed back as hard as we could to the district n the school to get things handled. It changed n I didnt back down even with district letters of jail etc etc bla bla .. I said go to hell fuck your letters n fuck you .. you all are on the payroll letting this shit happen n we have proof on video. They tightened up their ways, they knew they were slacking n couldnt disprove it. Fuck these rude ass brats dont let em get away with shit.

Unfortunately, too many times, that's what it takes from parents and the community to get anything done with school administrators and staff. Nobody did anything when I was a kid.

[Edited 12/3/15 14:40pm]

EmmaMcG said:

I have a 2 year old daughter so bullying isn't an issue at the moment. But, when she's older, if she's bullied, I honestly could not predict how I would react. I'm guessing I'd go ballistic. I could definitely imagine myself fucking a kid up if they bullied my Emily. I suppose all we can do as parents is to raise our children in a way that they'll feel comfortable talking to us about their problems. I never got that from my mother so I kept a lot of stuff to myself as a kid, which is not healthy. Let them know you're there for them for any advice they need and despite what I said above, kids need to fight there own battles too, so be there for them, but don't be afraid to let them deal with things in their own way too.

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We always encouraged our children to problem solve and that is why my daughter wanted to try to handle it on her own, plus she told me she knew I would go to the school and make a big deal out of it (and she's right), but it is that reason that she didn't tell me until it became too much for her to deal with. She wanted to handle it on her own. We took her to counseling for awhile and let her talk with the therapist on her own if she wanted, which she did. We told her what she said in there stayed in there, unless she wanted to share and then we would listen. The only thing she told me about what she had told the therapist was, "I told him you were really protective. He said that's how mom's are supposed to be, and I told him, "Oh no! Not like my mom! 'Oh you're going to cross the street, don't forget to look both ways 120 times and oh, here's a rocket launcher in case a car comes too fast and you didn't see it the 120 times you looked.'" I'm not THAT bad but she likes to tease me about being protective of her and her brothers. I've seen things in life no child should see and I want my kids to have a loving childhood, one they'll remember with fondness, not regret.

prittypriss said:

Taekwondo. Solves a lot of problems. If nothing else it gives the kid some stature of confidence. My son never seemed to have a problem, and had a rep of being a sweet kid so he wasn't the bully. Or she can do what my daughter learned early, make friends with someone that likes to fight. I have no idea where she learned that from but it seemed to work for her through primary and middleschool, plus she, on her own, took up wrestling which was weird, she weighed all of 120lbs in highschool but neighbors told me she dropped some boy that was pulling on her outside in front of our house when I wasn't there, so I guess that works too.

EmmaMcG said:

BobGeorge909 said:

Sure did!

I taught my niece how to play mind games and mentally torment whoever bullied her in school. She did everything I said and was shocked to see them in the palm of her hand afterwards.

But I had to splash some reality water into her face and tell her that she should do that to people who intentionally wanna hurt her, don't wanna end up creating a monster

Gunsnhalen said:

Now i have not had a kid as of yet (gonna wait till my 30's or so)

Honey, the day you have a kid, I'm calling the National Enquirer.