missfee said:

morningsong said:

nothing. There was a night where there would have been an opportunity to hook up - drunkeness was inevitable, but I went home early instead. Even though I was encouraged to stay out. It was a bad idea for sure!!!

I understand people saying to not mess with coworkers, but my boyfriend and I met at work and we're still together 11 years later... although neither of us works there anymore. So it can end well!

Ace said:

missfee said:

If so, how did you deal with it?

I jerked off when I got home, like any rational person.

LOL. Same here. It's been a while but some of them were pretty strong. But I just knew it was gonna be more trouble than it was worth so never acted on any of them.

I did date women from my local scene, who I had to run into later on... it was kind of awkward but possible to avoid them, for the most part.

bobzilla77 said:

Ace said:

I jerked off when I got home, like any rational person.

LOL. Same here. It's been a while but some of them were pretty strong. But I just knew it was gonna be more trouble than it was worth

Yeah, when I was 18 and she was way older, like 23. She inspired me to go traveling with her tales of, um, traveling, and we shared some good times getting high working on the shrink-wrapper at a CD packing factory. Occasionally I thought she might like me quite a lot, but I think it was more that every other guy there was a dickhead. Still, I took her apparently not thinking I was a total dickhead as some satisfaction moving forward in my adventures. Traveling ultimately led me to meet my now wife, and I feel sure the knowledge that I might not be a dickhead helped me in that regard.

Yes. It kinda sucks. I believe that if you find the right person, wherever you may be, things could work out given a mature, honest, and careful approach. My attractions have been to close associates and distant ones in other departments. I think that this is kind of inevitable when you spend 40 hours/week in a dual-sex, multigenerational environment. None ever stuck or grew into more than a fleeting friendship, save the fantasy film running in my mind. Some I feel would be mismatched levels of interest which occasionally are confirmed. Some gals are married, so no going there. Other times a nice flirtation will be short-circuited when I discover the presence of a boyfriend, and I may actually meet the "lucky guy" who beat me to getting that crucial connection started. I have been approached as well, and these are usually an unmatched level of interest with more flirting than I would like, or someone who I cannot find on a regular basis to build any relationship traction.

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Man, people can play games! One time I developed an interest toward on a colleague who would look me over occasionally--I guess you would call it flirting; I followed up with attentiveness, enough to discover a tryst she was having with another staffer , simply by being at the right place at the right time--nothing intrusive, whatsoever. This gal was completely off of her game when she got busted by both me and the other guy . I had the nerve to approach her about the situation with open questions a few days after that experience, and thought she was still a friend at the time, but was shocked by her extraordinary defensiveness and talk of alerting HR--you know I backed off of that like a mongoose from a cobra! She is married now, just this year, to a non-coworker.

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Good connections have been made in this workplace, however. I know of one marriage started between 2 who worked in different departments and married after one left the job, and another where the couple both met and married while at the job, with one leaving first and the other eventually leaving as well. So you can catch all kinds of action at the workplace, some desirable, some not so much!

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Ladies and gentlemen, watch your step!

Graycap23 said:

missfee said:

Developing a crush someone isn't always by choice. Sometimes it just happens. Whether or not you act upon it is definitely by choice though.

It it a choice 2 shut it down............in your mind.

You're right but it's hard when one flirts with you and come to work in a banging dress

with heels on and tell you how they play with their love toy since they don't have a man.

They can sense the mental anguish in your face too.

Its happened a couple of times in my life. I always kept my cool but if I had not my life would be completley different right now. One night in particular comes to me mind immediately and even with a buzz on, I didn't cross the line. Could have in a second but I just knew better.

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I look back and wonder if I ever kept anyone strung along who may have had a crush on me but women are so different I wouldn't have known. Stupid man genes.

Germanegro said:

Yes. It kinda sucks. I believe that if you find the right person, wherever you may be, things could work out given a mature, honest, and careful approach. My attractions have been to close associates and distant ones in other departments. I think that this is kind of inevitable when you spend 40 hours/week in a dual-sex, multigenerational environment. None ever stuck or grew into more than a fleeting friendship, save the fantasy film running in my mind. Some I feel would be mismatched levels of interest which occasionally are confirmed. Some gals are married, so no going there. Other times a nice flirtation will be short-circuited when I discover the presence of a boyfriend, and I may actually meet the "lucky guy" who beat me to getting that crucial connection started. I have been approached as well, and these are usually an unmatched level of interest with more flirting than I would like, or someone who I cannot find on a regular basis to build any relationship traction.

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Man, people can play games! One time I developed an interest toward on a colleague who would look me over occasionally--I guess you would call it flirting; I followed up with attentiveness, enough to discover a tryst she was having with another staffer , simply by being at the right place at the right time--nothing intrusive, whatsoever. This gal was completely off of her game when she got busted by both me and the other guy . I had the nerve to approach her about the situation with open questions a few days after that experience, and thought she was still a friend at the time, but was shocked by her extraordinary defensiveness and talk of alerting HR--you know I backed off of that like a mongoose from a cobra! She is married now, just this year, to a non-coworker.

>

Good connections have been made in this workplace, however. I know of one marriage started between 2 who worked in different departments and married after one left the job, and another where the couple both met and married while at the job, with one leaving first and the other eventually leaving as well. So you can catch all kinds of action at the workplace, some desirable, some not so much!

>

Ladies and gentlemen, watch your step!

That was really shitty...especially if the chick was the one initiating all of the flirtation between you and the other guy. Wow. You are most certainly right, that is why you have to be careful of what you do with co-workers. Glad you were able to walk away unscathed.

phunkdaddy said:

Graycap23 said:

It it a choice 2 shut it down............in your mind.

You're right but it's hard when one flirts with you and come to work in a banging dress

with heels on and tell you how they play with their love toy since they don't have a man.

They can sense the mental anguish in your face too.

Believe me I know............but u have 2 play if off.