If so, how did you deal with it?

missfee said:

Nope...............always seems like a BAD idea that won't end well.

Graycap23 said:

Nope...............always seems like a BAD idea that won't end well.

Developing a crush on someone isn't always by choice. Sometimes it just happens. Whether or not you act upon it is definitely by choice though.

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missfee said:

Graycap23 said:

Nope...............always seems like a BAD idea that won't end well.

Developing a crush someone isn't always by choice. Sometimes it just happens. Whether or not you act upon it is definitely by choice though.

It it a choice 2 shut it down............in your mind.

Graycap23 said:

missfee said:

Developing a crush someone isn't always by choice. Sometimes it just happens. Whether or not you act upon it is definitely by choice though.

It it a choice 2 shut it down............in your mind.

Easier said than done. I get what you are saying though. I don't date co-workers as I've seen and heard countless horror stories of them.

I did learn one thing, which is probably why it has never happened again. EVERYBODY on your job suddenly becomes involved in your personal business. Luckily is was a tight net group and I was really young, even though it got a little embarrassing, nobody really crossed the lines or were to obnoxious about it.

Oh and it turned out my supervisor also had a crush on the same guy, so there was some tension. As I said luckily it was a tight net group.

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morningsong said:

I did learn one thing, which is probably why it has never happened again. EVERYBODY on your job suddenly becomes involved in your personal business. Luckily is was a tight net group and I was really young, even though it got a little embarrassing, nobody really crossed the lines or were to obnoxious about it.

Oh and it turned out my supervisor also had a crush on the same guy, so there was some tension. As I said luckily it was a tight net group.

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That's true. That's why I could never date a co-worker. I think the awkward tension would be even more uncomfortable than the office gossip. But still, I believe that you can't help who you like...and it really does suck crushing on someone that you know you can't go any further with. Just sayin'.

morningsong said:

I don't think it was a serious crush, just someone I thought was really hot and I didn't hold back on my flirting until I got a BOOT IN THE CHEST That's what it took for me to back off.

missfee said:

morningsong said:

I did learn one thing, which is probably why it has never happened again. EVERYBODY on your job suddenly becomes involved in your personal business. Luckily is was a tight net group and I was really young, even though it got a little embarrassing, nobody really crossed the lines or were to obnoxious about it.

Oh and it turned out my supervisor also had a crush on the same guy, so there was some tension. As I said luckily it was a tight net group.

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That's true. That's why I could never date a co-worker. I think the awkward tension would be even more uncomfortable than the office gossip. But still, I believe that you can't help who you like...and it really does suck crushing on someone that you know you can't go any further with. Just sayin'.

No you can't I suppose. I fell particularly hard for this guy, shocked me actually, but I lived and moved on. Smile about it now.

Hell yes. He was cute as hell. He resembled Cuba Gooding, Jr. a lot but he was cuter than Cuba. I remember one day, he raised his shirt up a little to get something out of his pants pocket and I saw a thick treasure trail going down into those pants and I became rockhard. Damn, that motherfucker was hot! Great taste in music too. We were constantly making CDs for each other. Between the two of us, anything good that I didn't already have, he had, and vice versa. And nice and polite as hell too. He always treated me with the utmost respect and also had my back too if someone got out of line with me.

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As for dealing with it, as far as I know, he was straight so there's nothing I could do other than hope he would initiate something which he didn't. I sure wish I could have had him over to my place alone and hang out and drink some gin though. Honey, I would have bought a fifth of gin if that occassion had ever occured. I did, however, work somebody from a club one night that resembled him and while I was in the act of having them, I kept saying...... "Come on, come! Come, you motherfucker! Come on and shoot that come!"..... and I kept calling them his name until the guy finally said... "That's not my name!".... and I said..... "Well for tonight it is! Now come on and shoot that damn come!"

He died of cancer several years ago though. He was cute as a damn button though.

Some Crushes on the job are temporary & some are everlasting....My Golden Rule is to only flirt with coworkers I've worked side by side with for a very long time....The coworkers I fucked in the past all moved on to different jobs or moved out of state...I have an "innocent" Poker face so if Gossip got around I never acknowledged it and never discussed private matters like that...LOL...

Cinny said:

I don't think it was a serious crush, just someone I thought was really hot and I didn't hold back on my flirting until I got a BOOT IN THE CHEST That's what it took for me to back off.

Literally?

missfee said:

Cinny said:

I don't think it was a serious crush, just someone I thought was really hot and I didn't hold back on my flirting until I got a BOOT IN THE CHEST That's what it took for me to back off.

Literally?

Yes. I dispatched security and his uniform had boots. He is 30 and married with three children now.

I once had a crush on a colleague. He had no idea, and even I was in complete denial about it until years later. Que sera sera. We're now both married, me with a kid, and we have created pretty good lives.


Were I more honest with myself back then, I still don't think I'd have pursued anything. Just seems a potential mess to $#@! where you eat. That said, the person to whom my crush is now married was also a co-worker of ours, albeit in an entirely separate division.

I agree with some of the others..you don't bring sand to the beach. There have been some ladies I've liked but I've always kept it to myself. And the ones that have liked me I take it as a compliment (and that's usually it).

Oh I've had several crushes on people on the job. Just don't take it seriously, though. If it progresses into something more serious, it has the potential of turning into a nightmare, especially if you work directly with the person. Seen it happen too many times. Even working indirectly can cause problems with people being all up in your business. With that being said, I did meet​ my Boo at work. We didn't work in the same department or ever had to reallly deal with each other in a professional situation and we have been together for the last quarter of a century. Absolutely no one on the job knew, tho.

I kept reminding myself that it was silly & I should grow up. If I acted upon my impulses in that case - which I do alot of times - I would lose more than gain.

Plus, he was an older married guy with kids. My attractions toward him were strictly physical and due to how he initially came across as an individual, but thankfully nothing of significance made me fall for him. I dismantled my crush toward him with that in mind.

That was ages ago, I saw him by coincedence recently and I felt nothing.

Yep and the shit ended badly. He kept coming up short I knew better though and still did it

If it's a crush it will eventually go away.. I wouldn't recommend anyone to pursue an office relationship, I've never known any Jim and Pam in real life...

Cinny said:

missfee said:

Literally?

Yes. I dispatched security and his uniform had boots. He is 30 and married with three children now.

My point was that I wasn't the only one who thought he was hot

Cinny said:

Cinny said:

Yes. I dispatched security and his uniform had boots. He is 30 and married with three children now.

My point was that I wasn't the only one who thought he was hot

I gathered.

nursev said:

Yep and the shit ended badly. He kept coming up short I knew better though and still did it

Sorry about your experience. Shucks that's happened to me but not with a guy I worked with, just a guy that I wasted about 10 years of my life with, on and off. It wasn't until a year ago that I FINALLY learned my lesson with him...something I should have realized long ago. I could say that we should have just stayed friends, because we were like best friends first, then decided to be in a relationship, but turns out that he was a far better friend than boyfriend. Though there's been so much strife and heartache involved that I realized he doesn't need to be in my life at all and I absolutely DO NOT want to be in his. Just one of life's lessons I suppose.

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morningsong said:

I've been thinking. I've seen lots of relationships and marriages between people who may work for the same company but not really directly with one another. But I'm having a difficult time remembering any relationships that developed from working close. I know some that hooked up but nothing progressed beyond that. I'm sure it happens but I'm guessing the odds aren't great.

I did date a guy once, a few years back, who works at the same company that I do but in a completely different department and in a different building. We went out a few times, nothing panned out though. I thought we had great conversations on the phone but somehow how that connection was lost when face to face. Oh well. Great thing was, there wasn't any awkwardness involved. We still run into each other once in a blue moon and are cordial.

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missfee said:

morningsong said:

missfee said:

If so, how did you deal with it?

I jerked off when I got home, like any rational person.