TD3 said:

Cinny said:

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

Well no, no one add the adjective "hot car", you did. Still, I agree with Erin.

expection: I'd give a man a pass if he lived in NY but othewise, red flag. A 46 year old man without a car... red flag.

I agree. It would be different if we lived in a city like New York or London or something but we don't! LOL!

morningsong said:

Cinny said:

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

Let's see, never married (no alimony), no children (no child support), all income is spent on self but no credible assets (a decent vehicle the easiest asset to acquire) at 40+ years old. Conclusion, possible uni-bomber.

This is hilarious and possibly true, LOL! Thanks for the laugh

haters gonna hate. single for life. if it wasn't good enough for mike it ain't good enough for me.

Uh, he got married twice. And went an' got kids, 3 of 'em. Plus he has a bagillion nieces & nephews. He was freakin' Santy Claus, I'm sure.

morningsong said:

Cinny said:

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

Let's see, never married (no alimony), no children (no child support), all income is spent on self but no credible assets (a decent vehicle the easiest asset to acquire) at 40+ years old. Conclusion, possible uni-bomber.

SeventeenDayze said:

TD3 said:

Well no, no one add the adjective "hot car", you did. Still, I agree with Erin.

expection: I'd give a man a pass if he lived in NY but othewise, red flag. A 46 year old man without a car... red flag.

I agree. It would be different if we lived in a city like New York or London or something but we don't! LOL!

I just wanted to oversimplify and add some sensationalism like a tabloid story. I think you're on the mark here. Imagine if you could Yelp review men, how his would read.

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[Edited 7/15/15 8:20am]

Cinny said:

SeventeenDayze said:

I agree. It would be different if we lived in a city like New York or London or something but we don't! LOL!

I just wanted to oversimplify and add some sensationalism like a tabloid story. I think you're on the mark here. Imagine if you could Yelp review men, how his would read.

Oh I LOVED your tabloid headline It was hilarious I've just started corresponding with a different guy who says he's a boys basketball coach by profession and he has three sons. I don't plan on asking him this until we meet in person but I always thought most coaching positions that weren't associated with a school were volunteer based. I'll have to ask him to clarify that. Seems that a lot of guys that I run into on the internet try to pass off their volunteer work as a career. We shall see!

SeventeenDayze said:

Cinny said:

I just wanted to oversimplify and add some sensationalism like a tabloid story. I think you're on the mark here. Imagine if you could Yelp review men, how his would read.

Oh I LOVED your tabloid headline It was hilarious I've just started corresponding with a different guy who says he's a boys basketball coach by profession and he has three sons. I don't plan on asking him this until we meet in person but I always thought most coaching positions that weren't associated with a school were volunteer based. I'll have to ask him to clarify that. Seems that a lot of guys that I run into on the internet try to pass off their volunteer work as a career. We shall see!

Sounds sporty either way! That's what I would take away from that info.

morningsong said:

Cinny said:

Orger dumps boyfriend for not driving hot car

Let's see, never married (no alimony), no children (no child support), all income is spent on self but no credible assets (a decent vehicle the easiest asset to acquire) at 40+ years old. Conclusion, possible uni-bomber.

OH NO YOU didn't go.....

cold...

Cinny said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Oh I LOVED your tabloid headline It was hilarious I've just started corresponding with a different guy who says he's a boys basketball coach by profession and he has three sons. I don't plan on asking him this until we meet in person but I always thought most coaching positions that weren't associated with a school were volunteer based. I'll have to ask him to clarify that. Seems that a lot of guys that I run into on the internet try to pass off their volunteer work as a career. We shall see!

Sounds sporty either way! That's what I would take away from that info.

Sporty? That's funny.

TD3 said:

morningsong said:

Let's see, never married (no alimony), no children (no child support), all income is spent on self but no credible assets (a decent vehicle the easiest asset to acquire) at 40+ years old. Conclusion, possible uni-bomber.

OH NO YOU didn't go.....

cold...

Hey, there's a lot we can learn from humor, right?

SeventeenDayze said:

TD3 said:

OH NO YOU didn't go.....

cold...

Hey, there's a lot we can learn from humor, right?

Yep. Folks on the org can crack on you bad, real bad.

SeventeenDayze said:

morningsong said:

Let's see, never married (no alimony), no children (no child support), all income is spent on self but no credible assets (a decent vehicle the easiest asset to acquire) at 40+ years old. Conclusion, possible uni-bomber.

This is hilarious and possibly true, LOL! Thanks for the laugh

Well, I mean, those that travel other paths are all good and fine, but it's nice to know where they're headed before you call yourself joining them. Sometimes it's a long walk back to the main road.

SeventeenDayze said:

Cinny said:

Sounds sporty either way! That's what I would take away from that info.

Sporty? That's funny.

You are knocking these men out like bowling pins! I see you definitely have criteria in mind.

Cinny said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Sporty? That's funny.

You are knocking these men out like bowling pins! I see you definitely have criteria in mind.

Well, I don't think I'm looking for anything too serious BUT I don't wanna waste time with a guy who doesn't have his act together. It's like I'm trying to find that perfect balance between "casual" and "serious"

morningsong said:

SeventeenDayze said:

This is hilarious and possibly true, LOL! Thanks for the laugh

Well, I mean, those that travel other paths are all good and fine, but it's nice to know where they're headed before you call yourself joining them. Sometimes it's a long walk back to the main road.

Yeah I mean there are plenty of men out there BUT what TYPE of man are they? That's the bigger question. There are some women out there who will put up with just about anything just to say that they have a man!

SeventeenDayze said:

morningsong said:

Well, I mean, those that travel other paths are all good and fine, but it's nice to know where they're headed before you call yourself joining them. Sometimes it's a long walk back to the main road.

Yeah I mean there are plenty of men out there BUT what TYPE of man are they? That's the bigger question. There are some women out there who will put up with just about anything just to say that they have a man!

Some types are more compatible than others. It is what it is. Why spend a whole lot of time on what doesn't work for you, is all I'm asking.

SeventeenDayze said:

Cinny said:

You are knocking these men out like bowling pins! I see you definitely have criteria in mind.

Well, I don't think I'm looking for anything too serious BUT I don't wanna waste time with a guy who doesn't have his act together. It's like I'm trying to find that perfect balance between "casual" and "serious"

What is wrong with a coach???

morningsong said:

TheGoldStandard said:

Seriously?!

How in and the hell did anything do with Michael Jackson or the Jackson family weasel its way into this thread? The level of obsession about that man appears to know no bounds. Strange.

if it didn't work for her

it won't work for me

[Edited 7/18/15 7:36am]

SeventeenDayze said:

NinaB said:

A man not ever marrying or having kids wouldn't worry me too much tho, esp the marriage part. I would have to ask if he wanted kids tho because he'd be barking up the wrong tree if he did.

His apparent job hopping is a huge red flag. He said he's being untreated fairly at his job due to racism. He said he's looking for more work elsewhere but this guy doesn't seem to have a stable track record. I dunnom maybe I could just use him for sex lol

Where did you meet this guy online, P&R?

Based on the no-car conversation, obviously you were right to dump this guy. But going forward the best way to meet people is by looking at each person with a clean slate. In other words, don't bring your emotional baggage from prior relationships into new ones. Don't look for reasons to reject a guy by making assumptions or by not being willing to accept a guy's flaws. Everyone has flaws. The reason why it's so much easier to meet people in your teens and 20's? No baggage and no ridiculously high expectations, instead they go into relationships with trust and an open mind. Sure sometimes that leads to being hurt, but if you're not willing to take that chance then you might as well get used to being alone.

There are sooooo many older women out there who reject men just because they jump to conclusions and assume the guy is lying or can't be trusted or they think something is a "red flag" when there's often a logical and reasonable explanation. For instance, if a dude is living with his mom don't jump to the conclusion that he's incapable of supporting himself or that he's a momma's boy. Perhaps she's elderly and he doesn't want her to rot away in a nursing home. They say how a man treats his mom is an indication of how he'll treat his wife/girlfriend, so devotion to a mother is not a bad thing. In many cultures one of the children has an agreement to take care of their parent and when that parent passes the child inherits the house, money, whatever. So the question is, would you date a guy who is obligated to his mother like that?

As for job hopping, yeah that's a bad sign but you shouldn't make quick assumptions. Did they quit their jobs, get fired or get laid off? These days job stability is hard to come by. I've already been laid off 5 times throughout my career, 2 companies went bankrupt and 2 shut down because of mergers and one had a massive restructuring. Stuff happens. Or maybe every job change was him quitting for a better opportunity. Just don't make assumptions.

[Edited 7/18/15 7:58am]

The New York Times, July 18, 2015

Swindlers Target Older Women on Dating Websites

I'm just sayin'...

TD3 said: