uniden said:

KoolEaze said:

What? Too spicy? In the USA?

I thought Brazilian cuisine is much spicier than typical American foods. Unless you eat some real Cajun or Creole food.

What did they eat that they found spicy?

Everything is spicy to them, no matter if I cook it extra bland, or we take them out to eat. They claim everything has a spice to it and his mom swears I put peppers in everything I cook (which I dont). But I sure do feel like putting peppers in everything now just to show her what spicy really is! Brazilian food in the Rio de Janeiro area where they are from mostly isn't spicy and is really sort of bland tasting ( which is why I've tried to cook everything without a bunch of spices). Further north in Brazil the food gets spicer. His mom spit food out on my floor because she said it was too spicy.

!!!

Girl you are a friggin SAINT!! That they are even still alive is testimate to your sweet nature!!

PurpleJedi said:

paintedlady said:

Well, thank goodness for small favors that your husband witnessed that! Good thing she didn't hurt her hand and need an emergency room visit! Or make a hole in the wall....

my goodness, yes, they need their own space for their "way" of doing things.

I would have snapped on both those heffas, you are an angel! Reading that made my eye twitch.

...and you're Puerto Rican (& used to loudness)! Can you imagine what she's going through?

I am no longer used to loudness (well OK the music from my upstairs neighbors) but yelling? Oh no... I can not deal with "yellers" and folks shouting at one another.

Its why I keep my own family at arm's length. I am thankful everyone is getting too old for the loudness.

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

...and you're Puerto Rican (& used to loudness)! Can you imagine what she's going through?

I am no longer used to loudness (well OK the music from my upstairs neighbors) but yelling? Oh no... I can not deal with "yellers" and folks shouting at one another.

Its why I keep my own family at arm's length. I am thankful everyone is getting too old for the loudness.

bobzilla77 said:

paintedlady said:

uniden said:

yesterday was the worst day of the entire visit so far! my husband's grandma and my husband's mom got into a huge argument and they started screaming, slamming doors, my husband's mom punched the wall. it was a nightmare! i am so done with this visit! the only good part was that my husband was home this time to witness the whole mess, and he was mad! finally he was able to see what i've been going through. he told them once they leave they aren't welcome back because of this abuse. if they visit again they have to go to a hotel. but i still have 7 more days until they leave.....

Well, thank goodness for small favors that your husband witnessed that! Good thing she didn't hurt her hand and need an emergency room visit! Or make a hole in the wall....

my goodness, yes, they need their own space for their "way" of doing things.

I would have snapped on both those heffas, you are an angel! Reading that made my eye twitch.

thank the Lord, they flew back home to brasil today! i need a few days to recover from this visit. thank you all for your advice, and all of your fun comments. they gave me comfort and made me laugh at times too. love all of you!

domainator2010 said:

..... may I just rephrase the earlier question that I posted here on the Org, about marriage - "Why did you GET married?"

because thank God my husband is the total opposite of his family. he's a very calm and peaceful person like me.

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

...and you're Puerto Rican (& used to loudness)! Can you imagine what she's going through?

I am no longer used to loudness (well OK the music from my upstairs neighbors) but yelling? Oh no... I can not deal with "yellers" and folks shouting at one another.

Its why I keep my own family at arm's length. I am thankful everyone is getting too old for the loudness.

i can't stand for people to argue and yell....makes me so nervous, i need peace and calm in my home.

tinaz said:

uniden said:

KoolEaze said: Everything is spicy to them, no matter if I cook it extra bland, or we take them out to eat. They claim everything has a spice to it and his mom swears I put peppers in everything I cook (which I dont). But I sure do feel like putting peppers in everything now just to show her what spicy really is! Brazilian food in the Rio de Janeiro area where they are from mostly isn't spicy and is really sort of bland tasting ( which is why I've tried to cook everything without a bunch of spices). Further north in Brazil the food gets spicer. His mom spit food out on my floor because she said it was too spicy.

!!!

Girl you are a friggin SAINT!! That they are even still alive is testimate to your sweet nature!!

"His mom spit food out on my floor because she said it was too spicy. "

IF my mom 'spit' on my floor.

she would have left that minit, that night, or the next mornin.

dependin on mode of travel.

somebody else's mom "GO TO GO... NOW!!!"

THAT'S LIKE DATIN SOMEBODY THAT BUST OUT YO WINDOWS!!!

you just don't do it

Yes, word for word what KingBad said.

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

...and you're Puerto Rican (& used to loudness)! Can you imagine what she's going through?

I am no longer used to loudness (well OK the music from my upstairs neighbors) but yelling? Oh no... I can not deal with "yellers" and folks shouting at one another.

Its why I keep my own family at arm's length. I am thankful everyone is getting too old for the loudness.

Exactly.

paintedlady said:

PurpleJedi said:

...and you're Puerto Rican (& used to loudness)! Can you imagine what she's going through?

I am no longer used to loudness (well OK the music from my upstairs neighbors) but yelling? Oh no... I can not deal with "yellers" and folks shouting at one another.

Its why I keep my own family at arm's length. I am thankful everyone is getting too old for the loudness.

Exactly.

uniden said:

my husband's mom and grandma are visiting us from brazil right now, they have been here since the 17th of dec., and are staying here 35 days total, his grandma is even thinking about changing her ticket to stay here 3 months. i am already going out of my mind with their visit. they hate the food here, everything is too spicy to them or has peppers in it. they constantly complain about everything here! i don't feel at ease in my own home most of the time, feel like i've had to re-arrange my days around everything they want. every day i have to drive up to the store and buy something they need, because the bread here is not good enough or something. feeling so frustrated today. all the extra money we're spending on what they want, and they are never satisfied.

how long of a visit is too long with your family? i think a week would of been good enough for me, LOL!

You are a wonderful wife. I will never be able to meet up to your standard.

I would have booked a course in a another city and apologized for my absence.


You deserve a massage every day for the next two weeks by your husbands.

And I don't mean just the shoulders. It should be a very, very long massage.

Can't last long enough.

I grew up with tons of family visiting for long spans of time. It's a Latin thing.

Difference is: whenever my family came for a visit, they didn't ask to be serviced. They helped my mom with the COOKING and cleaning...and even buying groceries.

If grandma doesn't like your cooking, then SHAME ON HER for not volunteering to cook in the FIRST PLACE!

Your hubby needs to lay down the law. Tell mom & grandma that they need to HELP matters, not make matters worse.

Note: the first time one of my uncles spit in public (as in a public PLACE not an outdoor space), my mom told him he was in New York, not the mountains of Honduras. A little shaming goes a long way.