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How much should I charge? A neighbor asked me to drive her two girls to school each day and pick them up at the end of the school day. The drive would take about 10-15 minutes from door to door one way a total of 3.6 miles one way or about 7 miles round trip. I drive a Kia Sportage 6 cylinder which gets about 18.5 miles to the gallon. Gas averages around $3.50 a gallon in my area. What do you think would be a fair price to charge her? Should I charge per day, weekly or monthly? Of course I have to take into account the days that there is no school, like holidays and teacher conference days. Opinions please?
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As for frequency, I personally would charge on a Weekly basis. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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Thanks, Jedi! Yes, I took into account all of your points, too. I would be doing this as more of a favor although I don't really know the mom that well. Her girls are sweethears. I interact with them almost daily because whenever they see me they greet me enthusiastically with "HI, MISS PAT!" I have given them candy and dollars whenever they have helped me carry my groceries from my car to my house. I'm retired so I don't work so this would be a daily trip I would not ordinarily take as most days I'm home doing whatever I please. I do have adequate insurance. | |
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http://www.irs.gov/2014-Standard-Mileage-Rates-for-Business,-Medical-and-Moving-Announced [Edited 8/18/14 7:24am] -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
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Also, something to consider: Total: $11.44 -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
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Isn't there a bus they can ride?
I think it's kind of nerve-y to ask someone else to be your kids' bus driver.
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That could be your first huge RED FLAG. The other RED FLAG is that you don't know the mom well. I think driving kids of close friends is normal, driving kids of not close friends is not normal and opens the door to trouble. 99.9% of everything I say is strictly for my own entertainment | |
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I agree. I have some great friends and do favors for them all the time, but there is not one for whom I would agree to a daily task involving their children. If you don't know this person that well, you don't owe them a favor that big.
In that case, you could do it for the money if the money was worthwhile to you. Definitely do look into the insurance aspect. People are driving for Uber without proper insurance all the time, but that doesn't mean they're protected.
But I would wonder why the kids don't take the bus too. Are there disciplinary issues where they can't take the bus? Or would they just prefer to have a personal chauffeur (in which case, feel free to ask for more money. That's not doing them a favor, it's spoiling them.)
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money and favour aside.. shyra, just don't do it! i did this for somebody once, never again! it was a HUGE mistake. the arrangement only lasted a month.. i used to drive my daughter to school & one of the parents asked if i would let her 2 girls go with us. she offered me money which i refused to take because they were a social case.. i felt sorry for them & i was going that way anyway. but it wasn't long before the kids were turning up late & making us late for school, i used to find myself waiting with my daughter for them after school. things took a weird turn when the mother got shitty one day when my daughter was ill & i couldn't take them!,, & i gave her decent notice! some people just can't be helped! | |
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$200 per week | |
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You have a dilemma because you should definitely charge something, but then if you receive money for this "job," especially for "labor" and not just reimbursement for gas and wear and tear, then you put yourself sort of in an "employee" situation which can have liability implications in case of accident. If you do it just as a favor, then you shouldn't fear liability - people give rides to friends/neighbors all the time, sometimes accidents happen, but there is no claim against the driver unless the driver was reckless or something. The reason why I say you should definitely charge is because this is a daily responsibility. You cannot leave the kids stranded, and if you are sick or have a conflict, you must give reasonable notice. My mother used to do occasional babysitting for me (unpaid, as a favor), but then once in a while things would come up and she couldn't come when I wanted or needed, without notice - and I couldn't get mad because this was not her job, and she was doing it for free to be nice. But with kids, I needed reliability, I needed someone who would be there or get them when I needed, without fail. So I realized I needed to pay someone. My mom didn't want a "job," she didn't need the money and she liked her flexibility, so hiring someone gave me peace of mind. Mom still babysits occasionally, for free, but I don't depend on her, and I'm grateful when she does, not mad when she doesn't. So for the mom's sake as well as yours, you should charge a reasonable amount - something over the $57 that Dauphin calculated for you. But be very clear about liabilities in case of accident, and also about the payment amount, list out the holidays / days when no rides will be needed, list days that you know in advance you cannot give a ride (your planned holidays, etc.), and agree on minimum notice for canceling a ride (from both ends) that is good for you both. Basically, it's a contract. There are online contracts that you can get for a fee to cover stuff like this. If you don't want to say no, just tell this mom that you don't know/think you can commit to daily pick ups, and for her sake and her children's, you'd rather not take the responsibility and then end up letting her down. And that maybe she'd have better peace of mind hiring someone (there are babysitter/nannies who drive - that's the main thing sought for child are nowadays). You can be nice and leave open the possibility of picking up once in a while if she's in a bind, as a favor (and hopefully she'll reimburse your gas and bring you some cookies when you do it), but not as the default mode of transportation. I'm sure she'll understand. But if you would like the extra money, and she's willing to pay an agreeable amount, then get a contract. | |
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Thank you to all who have offered advice. I am really torn now because I can see the disadvantages. I haven't spoken to the mom yet about the arrangements and school starts next Monday. I gave her my phone number and told her to call me when she is ready to discuss arrangements, but I have not heard from her yet. When she first approached me about dong this, I said yes, but after thinking about all the negative possibilities, I will have to get a clear understanding of her expectations. I plan to call my insurance agent to discuss my liability. I agree that you never know how people will react in crisis, and things could go south very quickly if things don't go well. My first thought about the charges was to ask her what she thought would be fair to get an idea of what she's willing to pay or can afford and then negotiate from there. The school is a private Adventist school, so I know she is paying tuition for both of her girls. I believe the reason she doesn't want to use public transportation is that the public bus stop is on a very busy street with no designated crosswalk, and the ages of her girls. One is five or six years old and the older one is about 10 or 11. I can completely understand her not wanting them to take the public bus because it would be very dangerous for them crossing the street to get to the bus stop, and I imagine the school does not employ a private bus service or if it does, she can't afford it or doesn't want to pay the fee, which is probably expensive. | |
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^^ I see. But then, maybe you could help the little ones cross the street? That would be less hassle than driving them, and would still give her some peace of mind without costing much for both of you. I know Adventist schools! They are not as expensive as regular (non religious) private schools, but still I understand she wants to save money. Perhaps she can also bring up the problem of the bus with the school and/or city, and they can provide a crossing guard, as a more long-term solution. | |
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Shyra...make SURE that you have adequate insurance coverage should you decide to go ahead. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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Why was this thread not done with this? | |
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Exactly. It's not cynicism, it's sell-preservation. | |
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Some good advice, especially for a mom that you're not close to. I'm sure she needs the help but there is a major imposition on you. Why not just be one of the emergency contacts on the school's list, that's very helpful too. | |
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RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you. | |
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UPDATE
I've driven the girls to school and picked them up for two weeks now and the mom has not contacted me about reimbursement, not nay word. I'm beginning to think she is taking complete advantage of my kindness and it's kind of pissing me off. I was thinking maybe she's waiting until she gets paid to approach me with some form of compensation. I will wait another week, and if I don't hear from her, I will send her a bill using Dauphin's calculations less the labor charges. It just amazes me how some folk will take complete advantage of people's kindness. Is this lack of hometraining or opportunistic behavior? Or is it my fault for not telling her from jump what she should pay? I have to be fair and say that when she first approached me she said, "I'll call you to discuss payment." I said, "Payment? Oh, okay. Let me give you my phone number." Could she have taken that to mean that I would not accept payment and was agreeing to do this out of love? | |
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Personally, I think the details should be established and agreed upon ahead of time (in this case, should have been). -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-
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I dubbed it the Madea syndrome. The attitude that every unattached older woman is dying to play grandma to somebody's children. | |
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