So my wife, after letting it collect dust for two years, finally starting reading the 50 Shades of Grey series. She has absorbed the books, finishing them in record time and almost done with the third in the trilogy. And damn if she has not been the absolute horniest she has been in a decade! She has basically attacked me nightly and I'm basically experiencing what would be about 3 months of conjugals in the span of a week in a half. I'm absoultely exhausted but very happy and am encouraging her to re-read the series after she finishes it. Life is good but I may have to become a sadist or something to keep the momentum going.

In rereading this, I am wondering if this goes into the "way too much information, dude" category. Probably not a lot of you out there overly interested in GottaLetitgo's love life.

How friggin' weird is it that women need to read some cheeseball book to want to have sex again...at least in the short term, anyway.

JustErin said:

How friggin' weird is it that women need to read some cheeseball book to want to have sex again...at least in the short term, anyway.

Okay, now I am just depressed.

GottaLetitgo said:

JustErin said:

How friggin' weird is it that women need to read some cheeseball book to want to have sex again...at least in the short term, anyway.

Okay, now I am just depressed.

I'm sorry.

I am blessed to have a wonderful partner in life, my wife is awesome and works much harder than a human should work due to many bad decisions I have made financially. So just wanted everyone to know that it's not that she's affectionate or loving...just sometimes it take a weird spark or catalyst to reignite someone. I need to be a better husband though. Date nights are difficult to arrange and we are so in the "This is 40" mode right now.

lovely story! i'm so happy for you, whatever works.. may it continue & escalate

excited said:

lovely story! i'm so happy for you, whatever works.. may it continue & escalate

For a second I thought you typed "... to ejaculate".

i think it's cool that these books have given her a spark... it's up to you to keep it going now and not let it die out... be creative and surprise her

MoBettaBliss said:

i think it's cool that these books have given her a spark... it's up to you to keep it going now and not let it die out... be creative and surprise her

She is actually finished with the series now. She really gets into book series; got deeply into Twilight, Hunger Gems, etc. My wife doesn't read a lot of books, mostly due to time constraint, but when she does, she gets into it big time. She definitely got into this series but yeah, I need to do things that spark romance. I've definitely gotten lazy and I need to make her feel special.

ZombieKitten said:

Porn so personal. I'm not big on sharing porn or erotica I like to read.
I think I'd be embarassed if he saw what turns me on and equally embarassed at not being turned on by tame things he likes. Feelings get hurt!
Watch it and remember it for later.

That book was perplexing btw, easy to consume, like a junk food but so disappointing and unsatisfying. Why can't quality erotica be mainstream popular fiction?

GottaLetitgo said:

MoBettaBliss said:

i think it's cool that these books have given her a spark... it's up to you to keep it going now and not let it die out... be creative and surprise her

She is actually finished with the series now. She really gets into book series; got deeply into Twilight, Hunger Gems, etc. My wife doesn't read a lot of books, mostly due to time constraint, but when she does, she gets into it big time. She definitely got into this series but yeah, I need to do things that spark romance. I've definitely gotten lazy and I need to make her feel special.

oh yes. toss on a bit of glitter from time to time, surprise her with costumes and various other get-ups. good for you, helping her go that extra mile.

GottaLetitgo said:

MoBettaBliss said:

i think it's cool that these books have given her a spark... it's up to you to keep it going now and not let it die out... be creative and surprise her

She is actually finished with the series now. She really gets into book series; got deeply into Twilight, Hunger Gems, etc. My wife doesn't read a lot of books, mostly due to time constraint, but when she does, she gets into it big time. She definitely got into this series but yeah, I need to do things that spark romance. I've definitely gotten lazy and I need to make her feel special.

(In UK at least,) there are loads of those 'mummy porn' books around now. Perhaps your wife may enjoy some of those too? I cannot name any, as well, I'm a man.

I think erotica books turns me on more than actual porn. Just reading them and using your imagination to pictuure these people doing al of these sexy, crazy, funny things. A good book is something that that can really ensconce your mind in its pages. So I can probably understand where your wife is coming from. Maybe she needed that book to set her off. Different strokes.......ya know?! Anyway, wear your wife out!

JustErin said:

if she had 14 inches to play with like i got u wouldnt have that problem dude

This is one of those threads that I may go back to one day and go "What in the HELL was I thinking?" My love life is likely of no interest to anyone here but I do know that in a LTR, whether the individuals are married or living together or whatever the case, you can get in a rut. My wife and I have never had the amorous side of our relationship go away, there has nver been multiple months where nothing was going on. But it has always been a bit vanilla. And yes, there has been some erotica and porn from time to time but no swinging from the ceiling fan or whips or candle wax or nothing (at this point is anyone still reading this). The book actually talked about vanilla sex and when my wife asked me if I knew what that meant and I explained it she was shocked in a good way. She didn't know that I may have had some slightly kinky thoughts from time to time and that I might be willing to try some new things. We haven't had time to talk about this stuff because life has gotten in the way. So the book may have opened a door but it was a door that needed to be opened. Does that make sense?

GottaLetitgo said:

This is one of those threads that I may go back to one day and go "What in the HELL was I thinking?" My love life is likely of no interest to anyone here but I do know that in a LTR, whether the individuals are married or living together or whatever the case, you can get in a rut. My wife and I have never had the amorous side of our relationship go away, there has nver been multiple months where nothing was going on. But it has always been a bit vanilla. And yes, there has been some erotica and porn from time to time but no swinging from the ceiling fan or whips or candle wax or nothing (at this point is anyone still reading this). The book actually talked about vanilla sex and when my wife asked me if I knew what that meant and I explained it she was shocked in a good way. She didn't know that I may have had some slightly kinky thoughts from time to time and that I might be willing to try some new things. We haven't had time to talk about this stuff because life has gotten in the way. So the book may have opened a door but it was a door that needed to be opened. Does that make sense?

yesss

JustErin said:

How friggin' weird is it that women need to read some cheeseball book to want to have sex again...at least in the short term, anyway.

I agree with you totally.

I hate the book because the only dominant female is a "pedophile" and the only out submissive female is a crazed woman who is suicidal/ homicidal. Both women are deeply jealous of Anastasia.

But, due to religious upbringing and the general culture of the U.S. of A. since T.V., women have not been comfortable being honest about their secret fantasies( even with men they have lived with for decades!). This book gave them a vocabulary and a reference point. They could ask their husbands to read it if they couldn't muster up the courage to say what they wanted him to do to them outloud. Having been brought up by someone who had a picture of a Catholic Saint in every room, I understand sexual suppression very well. You are programed from a very early age to be a "good girl"; once your married it isn't that easy to find your inner "bad girl".

[Edited 8/12/14 13:06pm]

[Edited 8/12/14 13:06pm]

GottaLetitgo said:

So my wife, after letting it collect dust for two years, finally starting reading the 50 Shades of Grey series. She has absorbed the books, finishing them in record time and almost done with the third in the trilogy. And damn if she has not been the absolute horniest she has been in a decade! She has basically attacked me nightly and I'm basically experiencing what would be about 3 months of conjugals in the span of a week in a half. I'm absoultely exhausted but very happy and am encouraging her to re-read the series after she finishes it. Life is good but I may have to become a sadist or something to keep the momentum going.

I hope I did not kill this thread.

Am I right to assume that your wife was very shy about sharing her needs before this?

Did she tell you what she wanted or did she just say "read this".

What did she want that you didn't know before?

Are you always the Dominant in the relationship or does she sometime like to tie you up and spank you?

I am just very curious as to how a couple changes their sex life pretty drastically after 10 years together. Thanks .

Deadflow3r said:

GottaLetitgo said:

So my wife, after letting it collect dust for two years, finally starting reading the 50 Shades of Grey series. She has absorbed the books, finishing them in record time and almost done with the third in the trilogy. And damn if she has not been the absolute horniest she has been in a decade! She has basically attacked me nightly and I'm basically experiencing what would be about 3 months of conjugals in the span of a week in a half. I'm absoultely exhausted but very happy and am encouraging her to re-read the series after she finishes it. Life is good but I may have to become a sadist or something to keep the momentum going.

I hope I did not kill this thread.

Am I right to assume that your wife was very shy about sharing her needs before this?

Did she tell you what she wanted or did she just say "read this".

What did she want that you didn't know before?

Are you always the Dominant in the relationship or does she sometime like to tie you up and spank you?

I am just very curious as to how a couple changes their sex life pretty drastically after 10 years together. Thanks .

You didn't kill the thread. I was kind of letting it die naturally. It's one of those things where you go back and go "this has to be TMI" But then again, if you can give TMI on the Org where can you? My wife has never been shy about sex. We have had a routine for many years and I have certainly been concerned with making sure it wasn't just becoming some boring obligatory thing. What my wife liked about the book was the aggressiveness of Christian Gray and that's what she harped on as something I could ramp up. Be a little bold, she said she might like to be tied up every once in a while. But in the end we have started serious BDSM or anything...I've just tried a little harder. I have a very wonderful wife who I probably take for granted more than I should. Any number of things in this world can be a catalyst to making a person see they are not appreciating someone like they should.

GottaLetitgo said:

Deadflow3r said:

I hope I did not kill this thread.

Am I right to assume that your wife was very shy about sharing her needs before this?

Did she tell you what she wanted or did she just say "read this".

What did she want that you didn't know before?

Are you always the Dominant in the relationship or does she sometime like to tie you up and spank you?

I am just very curious as to how a couple changes their sex life pretty drastically after 10 years together. Thanks .

You didn't kill the thread. I was kind of letting it die naturally. It's one of those things where you go back and go "this has to be TMI" But then again, if you can give TMI on the Org where can you? My wife has never been shy about sex. We have had a routine for many years and I have certainly been concerned with making sure it wasn't just becoming some boring obligatory thing. What my wife liked about the book was the aggressiveness of Christian Gray and that's what she harped on as something I could ramp up. Be a little bold, she said she might like to be tied up every once in a while. But in the end we have started serious BDSM or anything...I've just tried a little harder. I have a very wonderful wife who I probably take for granted more than I should. Any number of things in this world can be a catalyst to making a person see they are not appreciating someone like they should.

Well I am interested because of my own story I guess.

I started dating again at the age of 50 after a very long, 10 year, celibate state. The men that were attracted to me were often submissive. They were also married. They wanted a woman that would do the butt slapping and be aggressive in bed. They had approached their wives but their wives refused. So they were on the internet. One was an architect, another a lawyer and the third a pilot, oops almost forgot the engineer. They always had a decent job.

My problem, I don't want to be second to any woman. Sometimes the woman was the second wife, they already lost a lot of money on the first divorce and they were not willing to divorce again. Unfortunately, I am very willing to be aggressive but I am not being anyones Monica Lewinski while Ms Wife lives like a queen.

is there a book out there that will make ladies want to give their man head while he watches football?

if so, a link to where it can be purchased would be appreciated

MoBettaBliss said:

is there a book out there that will make ladies want to give their man head while he watches football?

if so, a link to where it can be purchased would be appreciated

lol,

Any book that will help you become a billionaire like Sir Christian Grey will be all you will need!

However, from what I have heard, this woman who is more then willing will not be into it so much once she has been married to you and has a child with you.

There is a saying. Women marry men hoping that they can change them and they never can; men marry women hoping that they never change, and they always do.

^ bummer

ok... is there a book that'll make her want to mow the lawn?... i'd buy that book