MoBettaBliss said:

theblueangel said:

MoBettaBliss said:

you could try and get her to a narcotics anonymous meeting for a start... there would be people there you could talk to about options

Please, please take her to a Narcotics Anonymous meeting. It worked for me and all my friends, when nothing else ever did. Google "Narcotics Anonymous" and your geographic area and there should be a hotline you can call for more info, as well as a listing of meetings. It works.

But don't force her to keep going if she doesn't want to. The 12 step program is not for everyone.

ConsciousContact said:

theblueangel said:

MoBettaBliss said: Please, please take her to a Narcotics Anonymous meeting. It worked for me and all my friends, when nothing else ever did. Google "Narcotics Anonymous" and your geographic area and there should be a hotline you can call for more info, as well as a listing of meetings. It works.

But don't force her to keep going if she doesn't want to. The 12 step program is not for everyone.

Yes, it is. But only for those who want to make it work for themselves.

purplethunder3121 said:

ConsciousContact said:

But don't force her to keep going if she doesn't want to. The 12 step program is not for everyone.

Yes, it is. But only for those who want to make it work for themselves.

Some people don't want to work on their addiction in a group format or may not feel comfortable dealing with their addiction that way. So 12 step meetings are not for everyone. It doesn't mean they don't want to address their addiction.

RodeoSchro said:

Get professional help. Buying her a new car isn't going to deal with her addiction issues. There are plenty of places that will see her for free.

You can even try a large church. Many times, they have programs for addicts, and can get addicts connected with the right kind of help.

But please - get her professional help. Her life depends on it.

I agree with Schro. I hope everything works out.

Superfan1984 said:

Just an update: I have an appt for her tomorrow at the place my ex boyfriend's mother worked at. They are going to do an assesment of her and then see if she will need detox and furthur help. She is going to go for the appt but doesn't want to quit her job if they admit her into the center. I am trying to make her realize that, fuck the job, this is much more important! I can tell she is thinking about it. I hope when we go tomorrow they will make her realize how serious and deadly this is. I appreciate everyone's support.

Good work, Superfan! You are a great brother. I hope everything works out.

Superfan1984 said:

awww that's sweet Ace! thank you so much! but I'm a sister! haha

You're a great sister!

Superfan1984 said:

Superfan1984 said:

Just an update: I have an appt for her tomorrow at the place my ex boyfriend's mother worked at. They are going to do an assesment of her and then see if she will need detox and furthur help. She is going to go for the appt but doesn't want to quit her job if they admit her into the center. I am trying to make her realize that, fuck the job, this is much more important! I can tell she is thinking about it. I hope when we go tomorrow they will make her realize how serious and deadly this is. I appreciate everyone's support.

I could be wrong but there might, MIGHT be laws in place that could help her keep her job if she undergoes a drug treatment program. I think the best place to start, assuming you are in the U.S., is to check with the state-level Attorney General. They can probably give you an idea if something like that exists. I know that FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) covers you in certain situations if you are caring for a sick relative, parent, pregnant, etc. but I don't know if there are any clauses per se that would also include out-patient drug treatment. Maybe she could telecommute or do the ever-so-popular job sharing option where she could find someone to do part of her shift while she's in treatment and then your sister does the rest of her shift later that day. I don't think she has to explicitly tell the boss the details of why she'd need to use FMLA for out-patient treatment because there are HIPPA laws that protect your privacy but it's a thin line. As your ex's mother about that and see what she says.

Superfan1984 said:

quick update: She has been admitted for medical detox and is very optimistic and doing well, thanks for all the support

great news

i applaud you for getting on the front foot and helping your sister out

glad she's doing better

Good to know. Thanks for the update. We're always here for you!

If you are dealing with a Heroin addict, you will need way more than material support, although that could be helpful. Good luck and prayers for her complete recovery. She is lucky to have you on her side.

Superfan1984 said:

quick update: She has been admitted for medical detox and is very optimistic and doing well, thanks for all the support

Great news. Sending positive vibes her way.