XxAxX said:

heartbeatocean said:

Not going to your own brother's wedding? Not that it's my business. But those kinds of decisions can really damage relationships long term. just sayin'...

very true. just, try and resist the urge to pop up and shout "me! i do!" when the priest asks if anyone has reason to speak against their union

Yeah, it might not work out, but I think people need support to work through their mistakes in their own way (if it is a mistake). Weddings are about gathering community support for the union. It may be frustrating to watch but it sounds like this couple may need that. Yikes.

dJJ said:

I always wanted a family.

But I wasn't looking for a guy who would make me pregnant and become the mother of his kids.

To me, family is what matters. So, both parents involved.



That ideal was not attainable for me. Unfortunately.


So, now I'm single and the last batch of my friends are having a baby. It makes me feel lonely and left out. But, I also enjoy all the perks of being alone.

I don't focus on what other families have. I enjoy the freedom and tranquility of being on my own. I cherish that.

enjoy it on my behalf too please!!!

i'm married with kids

many people who are married with kids bore the living shit out of me

SaraWright10 said:

Alej said:

I'm totally 23 and everyone I know is doing grownup stuff. That's cool, I'm not interested in that life. I'm not interested in their lives.

I'll just sit here and eat bananas.

Hi

ZombieKitten said:

dJJ said:

I always wanted a family.

But I wasn't looking for a guy who would make me pregnant and become the mother of his kids.

To me, family is what matters. So, both parents involved.



That ideal was not attainable for me. Unfortunately.


So, now I'm single and the last batch of my friends are having a baby. It makes me feel lonely and left out. But, I also enjoy all the perks of being alone.

I don't focus on what other families have. I enjoy the freedom and tranquility of being on my own. I cherish that.

enjoy it on my behalf too please!!!

Likewise!


It's a fair deal, you enjoy the blessings fo family life, also on my behalf.

And I will apreciate my single status and all the perks that come with that on your behalf.

It was something I wanted a long time ago but shied away from for years though it's starting to come around again. I do think it's overrated and there is nothing wrong with you for not doing so, but honestly I just feel like I deserve someone good after having bad luck and not to sound full of myself, but I am worth it and whoever it is better recognize that!

NinaB said:

Different strokes. No point in comparing. Some folks ain't cut from that cloth. Many single people can & have added to society in numerous ways. Some folks who had kids really shouldn't have as their not cut out to be parents & have seriously f****d their kids up. Don't have to be married to be in a loving partnership. Give thanks you've got your health.

Thank you! I realized a long time ago I wasn't cut out for that lifestyle - too much of a loner, too stubborn, selfish and set in my ways. Besides, marriage/fatherhood is a lot of work and a financial burden I don't want.

I'm in my 50s now, single and loving every minute of it. No drama.

uPtoWnNY said:

NinaB said:

uPtoWnNY said:

Thank you! I realized a long time ago I wasn't cut out for that lifestyle - too much of a loner, too stubborn, selfish and set in my ways. Besides, marriage/fatherhood is a lot of work and a financial burden I don't want.

I'm in my 50s now, single and loving every minute of it. No drama.

You're welcome It's good you did you & knew who you were at a young age. So many people just go along with it all & have kids & really weren't cut out to be parents.

Folks need to be totally honest with themselves before they walk that aisle - can I do this 24/7, 365 for the rest of my life?

Once the wedding, the big party and the honeymoon are over is when the real shit begins. I saw how hard my parents, relatives & friends had to work to keep their marriages/families together. Fuck that shit - too much responsibility for me. I just want to work out, hang with my cousins, play PS3/PS2 and watch football & basketball.

I don't think marriage is for me either, but I'm afraid of ending up alone later in life too though I know companionship can come through in other ways. If I considered it though, I don't think I would want kids though, I think most people who have them are selfish or think too fast before having them and end up screwing up the next generation cause of their mistakes. I don't want any part of that system.

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alphastreet said:

I don't think marriage is for me either, but I'm afraid of ending up alone later in life too though I know companionship can come through in other ways. If I considered it though, I don't think I would want kids though, I think most people who have them are selfish or think too fast before having them and end up screwing up the next generation cause of their mistakes. I don't want any part of that system.

It's a fact that there are too many people on earth. We're wrecking our planet. So every person who does not breed, is a win for mother earth.


I'm good being alone now. Why should I not be good later on life?

dJJ said: