Haha...so defensive. I was just curious.

First, a hit and run troll question like all the other ones.

Second, as long as she is not dipping in my pocket to take care of those kids, what the hell do I care?

And would it be different if she had those kids and was married to those five fathers?

JustErin said:

Haha...so defensive. I was just curious.

me too i was just funning; that's the same question you asked Ace

JustErin said:

Just curious...

XxAxX, Empress, Genesia...do you have children?

Yes, I do.

SweeTeaII said:

A women is preprogrammed to play the role of the mother. Her hormones are raging during her most fertile years...the twenties same as a mans. Dont let her reach 30 and be childless, she will result to measures to fulfil that biological desire. Adoption foster care ferility pills insemination or some get desperate and steal another womans baby. So this is real...the second varible is the father figure. Every time a woman has a baby with a man she hopes he is the one...the variable that completes her family equation. Then she finds out he a hoe coward looking for some trim. Next...and the next. When she realize the quality available to her is all the same she be done had 15 kids. Some figure it out after the first one.

well, that's a vast generalization about women. i have quite a number of friends who don't have children, in their thirties and beyond, and none of them are baby-hungry. also, of the women i know who had kids, more than a few of them have told me if they had to do it over again, they wouldn't have done it. i don't have any myself; i just never met anyone i wanted to have kids with, and so i do feel better off for not making a poor decision. but to the point of the thread, i know of two women (a friend and an aunt) who had 5 and 6 kids with four and six different men, respectively. in both cases, life was a dysfunctional hell for those kids. i particularly feel bad for my cousins - drugs, alcohol, poverty, jail time, etc.

I think its a shame and it is one of the things wrong and corrupting our country.

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THE FATHERS AND MOTHERS ARE TO BLAME FOR THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

It depends on the circumstances.

Is she a good mother? Can she provide for their needs? Are the children well-adjusted?

You could have 1 kid and be such a shitty parent that the kid is destined to spend most of his/her life incarcerated...or have 17 kids and see them go on to be respectable & fruitful members of society.

The underlying theme of the thread I suppose is that the stereotype of a single, serial baby-momma is irresponsible, whorish, and leads to all sorts of problems.

But a stereotype is just that - a stereotype. Some of the best mothers that I personally know are single moms. I also know a few deadbeat moms living in suburbia hiding behind white picket fences & manicured lawns.

Look at all of the variables before casting judgement.

nyse said:

I think its a shame and it is one of the things wrong and corrupting our country.

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THE FATHERS AND MOTHERS ARE TO BLAME FOR THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

I think this is a load of bullshit.

PurpleJedi said:

It depends on the circumstances.

Is she a good mother? Can she provide for their needs? Are the children well-adjusted?

You could have 1 kid and be such a shitty parent that the kid is destined to spend most of his/her life incarcerated...or have 17 kids and see them go on to be respectable & fruitful members of society.

The underlying theme of the thread I suppose is that the stereotype of a single, serial baby-momma is irresponsible, whorish, and leads to all sorts of problems.

But a stereotype is just that - a stereotype. Some of the best mothers that I personally know are single moms. I also know a few deadbeat moms living in suburbia hiding behind white picket fences & manicured lawns.

Look at all of the variables before casting judgement.

Stymie said:

nyse said:

I think its a shame and it is one of the things wrong and corrupting our country.

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THE FATHERS AND MOTHERS ARE TO BLAME FOR THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR

I think this is a load of bullshit.

I dont know, i just beleive that men should not be having children with more than one woman and women should not have children with more than one man.

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Having a family is probably the most sacred thing to share and should not be started until you are married and know you will be with this one indivisual for the rest of your life.

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now a days i feel like the attitude about having children is so "ho-hum" and is no longer taken as seriously as it should be.

nyse said:

Stymie said:

I think this is a load of bullshit.

I dont know, i just beleive that men should not be having children with more than one woman and women should not have children with more than one man.

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Having a family is probably the most sacred thing to share and should not be started until you are married and know you will be with this one indivisual for the rest of your life.

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now a days i feel like the attitude about having children is so "ho-hum" and is no longer taken as seriously as it should be.

If my child were to go out and have kids with five or six men, it would be my fault? At what point does an adult become responsible for their own actions?

Can I assume that you are married having sex or single and not having sex?

^^^^

if your child were to go out and have children with 5 or 6 men it would not be your fault at all.

and i hope no mother would beat themselves up over a issue like this.

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I ment I blame the men running around having many children and the actual women who feel having more than 3-4 different fathers for their children is not a problem... this mentality will ultimately make a progressive decline in the importance and substance of marriage and family in America

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& yes you can assume that

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nyse said:

^^^^

if your child were to go out and have children with 5 or 6 men it would not be your fault at all.

and i hope no mother would beat themselves up over a issue like this.

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I ment I blame the men running around having many children and the actual women who feel having more than 3-4 different fathers for their children is not a problem... this mentality will ultimately make a progressive decline in the importance and substance of marriage and family in America

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& yes you can assume that

[Edited 5/2/14 11:22am]

I apologize for misunderstanding you.

no problem, I could have worded it better

Jesuschristontoast buy some condoms already. You don't have to put them through college, they only ever do what you want them to do, they're flexible.....

Honestly, I think more people should consider adoption. I'm all in favor of having a license to have kids too, call me a facist or whatever, but....

all this philosophical talk about 'as long as the kids are well provided for' etc is all just nice and peachy

but the REALITY is in this scenario the chick is probably out of control

point to me a happy, well adjusted family with a single mum with 6 kids to 5 dads ... where the woman is in control and making well thought out choices

i'm all for women's rights, but in this case, sorry, i'm more interested in the welfare of the children than the reputation of the mother

MoBettaBliss said:

all this philosophical talk about 'as long as the kids are well provided for' etc is all just nice and peachy

but the REALITY is in this scenario the chick is probably out of control

point to me a happy, well adjusted family with a single mum with 6 kids to 5 dads ... where the woman is in control and making well thought out choices

i'm all for women's rights, but in this case, sorry, i'm more interested in the welfare of the children than the reputation of the mother

Just because someone is in a marriage with all their children for one person it does not mean that they are 'well adjusted'

Maybe the woman was just looking for love and didn't give up easily. Or give it up easily 4 that matter.

Maybe the guy's lied to her..

Mandingo said:

MoBettaBliss said:

all this philosophical talk about 'as long as the kids are well provided for' etc is all just nice and peachy

but the REALITY is in this scenario the chick is probably out of control

point to me a happy, well adjusted family with a single mum with 6 kids to 5 dads ... where the woman is in control and making well thought out choices

i'm all for women's rights, but in this case, sorry, i'm more interested in the welfare of the children than the reputation of the mother

Just because someone is in a marriage with all their children for one person it does not mean that they are 'well adjusted'

Maybe the woman was just looking for love and didn't give up easily. Or give it up easily 4 that matter.

Maybe the guy's lied to her..

BULL! She can look for love and use birth control. What love got to do with it? She should concentrate on gaining some self respect and control.

Shyra said:

Mandingo said:

Just because someone is in a marriage with all their children for one person it does not mean that they are 'well adjusted'

Maybe the woman was just looking for love and didn't give up easily. Or give it up easily 4 that matter.

Maybe the guy's lied to her..

BULL! She can look for love and use birth control. What love got to do with it? She should concentrate on gaining some self respect and control.

It is not about control. It is about trying to find love and taking a hance then being coninually disappointed by low-life men

Mandingo said:

A woman I know is single and is in this situation. What do y'all think?

Is it that bad?

What about the issue of so many granparents, cousins etc that are not shared amongst the half-siblings.

Or is it cool?

My mother gave birth to 2 Sons by 2 different Fathers. My Late Grandmother gave birth to 7 kids by 7 different Fathers. My Late Great Grandmother gave birth to 2 Girls by the same Father. So Looking at the Black Women in my Family Tree, they all made different choices but they survived as did their kids...

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My Grandmother was indeed a wild-child and drove my Great-Grandmother CRAZY...My Grandmother had an affair with her Best friends husband and produced my Mother. My Grandmother's Best friend was a God fearing woman that would Feed the neighborhood and give you all she had. You don't do wrong to people with Wonderful hearts like hers.. Because of what my Grandmother did I believe the Wrath of God came upon her & my Aunts & Uncles. My Grandmother never found love, died without companionship and battled with health issues. My mother and my 6 Aunts & uncles NEVER found Love & had destructive Marriages that ALL ended in Divorce. One Uncle chose a Life of Being a Drug Dealer while the other was killed because he became a Drug addict. 2 Aunts died from Cancerous diseases. ALL The Grandchildren (including myself) NEVER married, never found Real love, Can't Hold onto Love, Destructive relationships, bore kids out of wedlock....Just a Mess....I might be wrong, but I think when you do wrong to God's children you can curse yourself and your offspring...That's just how I see it....So Be careful how you treat people and think twice about doing Dirt to people because it will come back on you in a Horrific way...

Because when a young lady decides to have the baby instead of an abortion, she is now on a path were she is seen as damaged goods and decent guys will not go near her. Now she must date guys who are OK with women having kids and allow a lower standard to take hold. It doesn't matter if her birth control failed or if she used none, she chose motherhood, and it sprials you down a path of dating losers if it does not work out with the father of the chid.

Yet, the guys are always free to date with out conscequence in many instances since he can hide the fact he is a father if he is not the custodial parent.

paintedlady said:

Because when a young lady decides to have the baby instead of an abortion, she is now on a path were she is seen as damaged goods and decent guys will not go near her. Now she must date guys who are OK with women having kids and allow a lower standard to take hold. It doesn't matter if her birth control failed or if she used none, she chose motherhood, and it sprials you down a path of dating losers if it does not work out with the father of the chid.

Yet, the guys are always free to date with out conscequence in many instances since he can hide the fact he is a father if he is not the custodial parent.

30peacessilver said:

Don't care about her nasty ass or their fathers. These kids don't have much of a chance

There are people who prove over and over again that you are wrong.

Chancellor said:

Mandingo said:

A woman I know is single and is in this situation. What do y'all think?

Is it that bad?

What about the issue of so many granparents, cousins etc that are not shared amongst the half-siblings.

Or is it cool?

My mother gave birth to 2 Sons by 2 different Fathers. My Late Grandmother gave birth to 7 kids by 7 different Fathers. My Late Great Grandmother gave birth to 2 Girls by the same Father. So Looking at the Black Women in my Family Tree, they all made different choices but they survived as did their kids...

*********************************************************************************

My Grandmother was indeed a wild-child and drove my Great-Grandmother CRAZY...My Grandmother had an affair with her Best friends husband and produced my Mother. My Grandmother's Best friend was a God fearing woman that would Feed the neighborhood and give you all she had. You don't do wrong to people with Wonderful hearts like hers.. Because of what my Grandmother did I believe the Wrath of God came upon her & my Aunts & Uncles. My Grandmother never found love, died without companionship and battled with health issues. My mother and my 6 Aunts & uncles NEVER found Love & had destructive Marriages that ALL ended in Divorce. One Uncle chose a Life of Being a Drug Dealer while the other was killed because he became a Drug addict. 2 Aunts died from Cancerous diseases. ALL The Grandchildren (including myself) NEVER married, never found Real love, Can't Hold onto Love, Destructive relationships, bore kids out of wedlock....Just a Mess....I might be wrong, but I think when you do wrong to God's children you can curse yourself and your offspring...That's just how I see it....So Be careful how you treat people and think twice about doing Dirt to people because it will come back on you in a Horrific way...