I am just appalled at the lack of decent hometraining for todays kids. I have given generous monitary gifts to kids who are graduating high school or for their birthdays. Did I get a call or a note or an email thanking me? HELL NO! Not a freakin peep! Yesterday was a neighborhood buddy's daughter's birthday. I had bought her a cute bell for her bike and I wrapped it up and included a card and gave it to her father to give to her. I thought she would have at least called me to thank me. If she called me, she called you. I have made up my mind. I AM DONE! She will be graduating with honors from high school next month, and I intended to give her $100 toward her new start at college. Bump her. She'll not get a damn thing from me ever again. Same thing happened with her mama. She lost her mother and I sent her a card a a lovely fruit basket. She never ever acknowledged it, so I guess I should have guessed the fruit doesn't fall far from the damn tree. Ungrateful sonsofbitches! I just don't understand folk. I was taught at 6 years old to write a thank you note to the gifter, and that has stuck with me to this day. It would be egregious not to do. Have any of you had this problem? It just makes me feel like a damn fool for even thinking about them.

Yeah, simple thank yous seem to be in short supply these days.

It's a result of two things;

A) Lack of home training

B) Lack of consideration

Parents are caring less & less about teaching kids the fundamentals of respect. NO you do NOT talk back, shout, yell, cuss at an adult (unless you're being kidnapped). Hell, some kids are rude to their own parents, and there's no consequences!

People in general are caring less & less about their fellow human beings. It's all about Me, Myself & I. What matters to ME is what's important. If someone buys ME a gift, it's what I expect. No one else's feelings matter other than my own.

thank you for this thread

just to show my appreciation for you taking the time to tell us about these people, here's a little gift for you... some frogs making love

MoBettaBliss said:

just to show my appreciation for you taking the time to tell us about these people, here's a little gift for you... some frogs making love

Cute.

that's why I only give gifts in person

Shyra said:

I am just appalled at the lack of decent hometraining for todays kids. I have given generous monitary gifts to kids who are graduating high school or for their birthdays. Did I get a call or a note or an email thanking me? HELL NO! Not a freakin peep! Yesterday was a neighborhood buddy's daughter's birthday. I had bought her a cute bell for her bike and I wrapped it up and included a card and gave it to her father to give to her. I thought she would have at least called me to thank me. If she called me, she called you. I have made up my mind. I AM DONE! She will be graduating with honors from high school next month, and I intended to give her $100 toward her new start at college. Bump her. She'll not get a damn thing from me ever again. Same thing happened with her mama. She lost her mother and I sent her a card a a lovely fruit basket. She never ever acknowledged it, so I guess I should have guessed the fruit doesn't fall far from the damn tree. Ungrateful sonsofbitches! I just don't understand folk. I was taught at 6 years old to write a thank you note to the gifter, and that has stuck with me to this day. It would be egregious not to do. Have any of you had this problem? It just makes me feel like a damn fool for even thinking about them.

Different generation. No one sends thank you cards anymore.

Thank you cards tend to be more formal and used primarily for wedding gifts, baby showers, and gifts received through a business relationship.

Everyone who does receive a gift needs to thank the person in some manner, in person, via phone, or formal thank you letter.

I had a relative go through a Martha Stewart phase and thank you cards where used for everything, I really don't need a thank you card after being thanked in person (over kill IMO).

MoBettaBliss said:

just to show my appreciation for you taking the time to tell us about these people, here's a little gift for you... some frogs making love

Please hide this from rodeoschro.

Shyra's personal new posting to all those facebook requests for gifts:

kewlschool said:

kewlschool said:

Shyra's personal new posting to all those facebook requests for gifts:

I wish I had the effrontery to use this!

KingBAD said:

WHUTEVER I DO FOR SOMEONEi do it cause that's what i wanted to do.if one does it for the 'thanks', they shouldn't even do it.i told my kids when they were young to show appreciationfor anything done for them, but the first time someones says"you don't have to thank me" stop thankin 'empeople make the rules of how they're to be treated.goin against their word can make them uncomfterable...

I don't do anything for anyone I don't want to do, and I don't do it just to get brownie points or thanks. But it I send someone something, either by mail or courier, I would like to know if they at least received it. And if they don't like it, they could say something like, "I got the ---- you sent," and that would be sufificient. And I understand that written thank you notes are is considered archaic now days, but I will continue to write my thank you notes, thank you very much.

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PurpleJedi said:

It's a result of two things;

A) Lack of home training

B) Lack of consideration

Parents are caring less & less about teaching kids the fundamentals of respect. NO you do NOT talk back, shout, yell, cuss at an adult (unless you're being kidnapped). Hell, some kids are rude to their own parents, and there's no consequences!

People in general are caring less & less about their fellow human beings. It's all about Me, Myself & I. What matters to ME is what's important. If someone buys ME a gift, it's what I expect. No one else's feelings matter other than my own.

You just hit the nail on the head.

MoBettaBliss said:

just to show my appreciation for you taking the time to tell us about these people, here's a little gift for you... some frogs making love

Aww, they're in love.

PurpleJedi said:

free2bfreeda said:

HBO's 'Mildred pierce' mini series pretty much exposes how many of today's youth are allowed to talk to and get away with talking to their parents VEDA PIERCE talkng to her mother re: a scandalous situation. "you want to know why? I'll tell you why. With enough money, I can get away from you! You... And your pie-wagons, and chickens, and everything that smells of grease! I can get away from Glendale, and its dollar days, and furniture factories, and women that wear uniforms and men that wear smocks! From every rotten, stinking thing that even reminds me of this place." veda talks to her mom in this manner from a very early age, and in all but a few cases, she gets away with it. when Mildred finally slaps a 13yr old Veda for being verbally disrespectful, Veda slaps her back. A lot of today's parents allow this type of unacceptable behaviour in a fear of losing their child's love. it's tragic.

She best be glad she was talking to a white woman. No racial intent meant here, but back in the day a black mother would have beat the shit out of that lil bitch. I remember when I first saw this scene I wanted to go through the TV my damn self!