Awwwwwww

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oh my god!!

As touching as it is I have mixed feelings about this seeing how sad this day was for that poor girl and how traumatic it might be for her future. Nobody knows if it will help her to let him go or how she will feel about it when she grows up and looks back. I grew up with an old dad who was seriously ill all my childhood and it still affects me. For me a day like this would have been a nightmare. I know it apparently was her own wish, but I am not sure if it was the right thing no matter how good the intentions were.

Serious said:

As touching as it is I have mixed feelings about this seeing how sad this day was for that poor girl and how traumatic it might be for her future. Nobody knows if it will help her to let him go or how she will feel about it when she grows up and looks back. I grew up with an old dad who was seriously ill all my childhood and it still affects me. For me a day like this would have been a nightmare. I know it apparently was her own wish, but I am not sure if it was the right thing no matter how good the intentions were.

I see your point of view. Although, it is an experience for her now, rather than not be able to have that experience with her father later on should she get married one day.

Sad situation and I get the point of it all, however, like Serious has said, I have mixed feelings about it. I lost my dad to throat cancer when I was 18, so in trying to put myself in this little girl's shoes to see how I would have felt if this "ceremony" was done, it would have felt really weird. I think a regular photo shoot with my dad would have been enough but to do a sort of mock wedding like photo shoot somehow doesn't seem comfortable, but that's just me.

[Edited 4/3/14 4:55am]

why wouldn't he want to take a photo and create an experience of her graduating from college or uni???

there r so many other important experiences they could have 'role played'

getting married is not something an 11 yeqar old girl should be taking photos of

I think it's really weird and kinda creepy. I don't understand the obsession some have with marrying off their daughter...and it's ridiculous to play this out with a child...but, whatevs, as long as the people involved were happy.

No one actually thought she was getting married.

It's still weird.

[Edited 4/3/14 5:42am]

I think it was wrong to make this public...now. If and when she does get married, how cool would this be if they edited this footage in the final wedding video, as a trasnsition piece.

That will be special, if it's done right.

JustErin said:

No one actually thought she was getting married.

It's still weird.

[Edited 4/3/14 5:42am]

weird to me too but whatever floats their boat...I hope I'm never in a terminal condition like that but if I am I plan to spend my last days with my family experiencing & sharing tons of realism not symbolism...

JustErin said:

I think it's really weird and kinda creepy. I don't understand the obsession some have with marrying off their daughter...and it's ridiculous to play this out with a child...but, whatevs, as long as the people involved were happy.

My thoughts exactly. It's just weird.

imo, i'd think that later, when she really does get married (or if), she would be assailed by grief when she does walk down the aisle, remembering her missing father?

shorttrini said:

They were just going through the motions people. It's not like he married her off to someone who was actually there...smh. What about those people who have their funerals, before they die, so they can see just how many people care for them? This was more of a symbolic gesture, than anything else....

I'd cut whoever tried that mess. i would not be at their fake funeral

I guess I'm part of that crowd that didn't think there was anything weird at all.

I think for some of us woman the tradition of a father giving his daughter away is creepy and inappropriate in itself. Remember, not so long ago (and still in some countries) daughters were/are considered property and were then transferred as property of their husbands (with a dowry, of course).

I know that this is not how most people view it now, but it's hard to be supportive of such a horrible tradition...and it's especially creepy when it's being played out with a child.

That's how I see it anyway.

Way to go to dad for making his daughters (if) future wedding all bout him. Plus the old man is already 62 and she probably wont be getting married for another 10 to 14 years if even then.

[Edited 4/7/14 19:47pm]

JustErin said:

I think it's really weird and kinda creepy. I don't understand the obsession some have with marrying off their daughter...and it's ridiculous to play this out with a child...but, whatevs, as long as the people involved were happy.

I have such a strong objection to this for some reason, that even as an adult, at my own wedding I refused this tradition, and had my mother in law give her son away instead. I may have made a mockery of it, but it did illustrate how WEIRD that the dad is the keeper of the virginity or virtue as it may be. Same with the white dress.

I am very sorry for the girl in the story

JustErin said:

I think for some of us woman the tradition of a father giving his daughter away is creepy and inappropriate in itself. Remember, not so long ago (and still in some countries) daughters were/are considered property and were then transferred as property of their husbands (with a dowry, of course).

I know that this is not how most people view it now, but it's hard to be supportive of such a horrible tradition...and it's especially creepy when it's being played out with a child.

That's how I see it anyway.

100% agreed

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

I think it's really weird and kinda creepy. I don't understand the obsession some have with marrying off their daughter...and it's ridiculous to play this out with a child...but, whatevs, as long as the people involved were happy.

I have such a strong objection to this for some reason, that even as an adult, at my own wedding I refused this tradition, and had my mother in law give her son away instead. I may have made a mockery of it, but it did illustrate how WEIRD that the dad is the keeper of the virginity or virtue as it may be. Same with the white dress.

I am very sorry for the girl in the story

Weird, creepy, ridiculous, insulting, degrading....I could on and on.

selfish act imo... and dumb... she's 11

Agree its weird and not touching at all!!