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Why Men Aren't Men Anymore? http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/why-men-arent-really-men-anymore/
There are of course certain men out there who still have their affairs in order, but we are few in number. What people are most often subject to is the company of boys who are refusing to grow up and man up — boys who prefer to play with their toys than to do their part in bettering society, the human race and the world as a whole. These poor excuses for men have the bodies of adults and the mentalities, as well as the social outlook of toddlers. Horny toddlers, but toddlers nonetheless. It’s all about character — or in this case, the lack of character. Something has been happening during this era dubbed the “information age.” Social media platforms have taken away the need to interact face to face, taking away the need for actual interaction. This is great in many regards: you can now keep in touch with friends and family all over the world from a handheld device.
However, much of the interpersonal confrontations are now also taking place online. People no longer feel that they have a need to meet in person to discuss their differences; they can now troll each other online. People are using the Internet as a shield, hiding behind IP addresses in order to speak their minds. The Internet acts like beer-muscles. It makes you believe that you are stronger than you actually are, making you more aggressive. There is nothing wrong with being aggressive when circumstances require it. Personally, when my fight or flight response mechanism kicks in, I always go with fight. It’s not by choice; it’s just the way that I am wired. Online, people have no need to run away because they are already in hiding — so they always choose to “fight.” Although the fighting they do is just about as significant as the fighting I do when I play Call of Duty. The same interaction from beneath cover can be seen when we look at the intercommunication between men and women. It is no secret that both men and women alike have sexual urges. Men, however, feel the need to get off more often than most women. So instead of having to spend the time to meet a real woman and have actual sexual intercourse, they watch porn. Instead of going out into the real world and meeting women, they stalk women on Instagram. People now date online as well. It’s much easier to talk to a woman online than it is in person—or rather, it’s not that it’s easier. Both are just as easy, but for some reason, men now prefer to hide their faces behind their monitors. (Every time I use the term ‘men’ in such context I quiver) It’s out of fear and laziness. Men have become lazy pussies. I don’t even want to use the word pussy because it brings to mind women, who nowadays have much more character than men.
Generation-Y is the instant gratification generation. We want what we want right at the moment we figure out that we want it. We are willingly giving up one of the most important things in life: the waiting period. Having to wait and having to deal with our urges and wants without instantly having them satisfied is what builds character and is what we are now lacking in this fast-paced age. If we want food, we order it online and have it delivered. If we want to listen to our favorite song, we find it on YouTube, iTunes or Spotify. If we want to watch a movie, we either buy it on demand or stream it online. If we want sex, we masturbate. If we want to have a good time, we do drugs. We have this false belief that doing things faster will give us a life more fulfilled — that it will lead to us being happier. But that isn’t the case. Most of us aren’t happier. We do more, but we experience less. We are never in the moment because we are always considering what we will be doing next in order to not become bored. Character is most often built during those moments between activities, during moments of solitude and reflection. Men no longer feel the need to pause and reflect because the options for whatever it is they want are only a click away. The options are endless and therefore we never truly experience disappointment.
We never really feel that we are missing out on something because we no longer give things much importance. Jackie never got back to your text message? I’m sure you have several other women in your contacts that you’d equally like to f*ck — once. Then you’ll get bored and move on to the next one. Men treat women like interchangeable commodities. I do believe that most men still hope to one day fall in love and settle down. But none of them will unless they change their way of thinking and living. Being focused on self-satisfaction will lead to nothing but broken relationships. Real men are not selfish. Real men are just as concerned for the feelings, needs and minds of women as they are for their own — not just women’s bodies and their sexual usefulness. Real men have a well-defined code of ethics and respect that they follow. How can anyone call himself a man if the last time he had to confront another man — whether it be over a social incident or for business purposes — was before he hit puberty? If you don’t have the twiddle-diddles to approach a woman at a bar in person and have a proper, intellectual conversation, making the woman feel respected and comfortable, then move over for the real men.
It’s awful because women are becoming accustomed to such boys and believing that these pansies are all that is left of our sex. Some great women are settling for these fools and then finding that they themselves have no choice but to wear the pants in the family because their “man” is PMSing. All I can hope for is that the law of evolution will see the world rid of these weaklings, these characterless, hopeless pseudo-men. Ladies… real men do exist; there aren’t many of us, but we’re survivors and will be around for a while. Come find us.
[Edited 11/17/13 12:07pm] Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener
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I really hate bullshit articles like this. And just the general whining of ''my generation was better'' So because men don't dress in suits and act like the characters in Mad Men they are not ''real men'' People constantly saying so and so of this generation are lazy, incompetent, and moral-less. Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener
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a MAN is the male sex of the human being genre, that means he has a dick and two balls
no more and no less, everything else is superficial or redundant, and his own damn business
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Yeah, I was kind of thinking along those lines too reading the article. That time had its own share of suffering, even though it did have its own charms. Hey if he's better at ironing than she is then he should do the ironing nobody needs to dictate how that should roll, by the same token if she wants to stay home and run pta functions then nobody on the outside need interfere. Sex well that's folks personal business everybody don't require the same thing. | |
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The Miley Cyruses of this world can take care of themselves and will find out what makes them happy and what makes them feel fullfilled. 99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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I recommend reading Brave New World. 99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener
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Gunsnhalen said: http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/why-men-arent-really-men-anymore/
There are of course certain men out there who still have their affairs in order, but we are few in number. What people are most often subject to is the company of boys who are refusing to grow up and man up — boys who prefer to play with their toys than to do their part in bettering society, the human race and the world as a whole. These poor excuses for men have the bodies of adults and the mentalities, as well as the social outlook of toddlers. Horny toddlers, but toddlers nonetheless. It’s all about character — or in this case, the lack of character. Something has been happening during this era dubbed the “information age.” Social media platforms have taken away the need to interact face to face, taking away the need for actual interaction. This is great in many regards: you can now keep in touch with friends and family all over the world from a handheld device.
However, much of the interpersonal confrontations are now also taking place online. People no longer feel that they have a need to meet in person to discuss their differences; they can now troll each other online. People are using the Internet as a shield, hiding behind IP addresses in order to speak their minds. The Internet acts like beer-muscles. It makes you believe that you are stronger than you actually are, making you more aggressive. There is nothing wrong with being aggressive when circumstances require it. Personally, when my fight or flight response mechanism kicks in, I always go with fight. It’s not by choice; it’s just the way that I am wired. Online, people have no need to run away because they are already in hiding — so they always choose to “fight.” Although the fighting they do is just about as significant as the fighting I do when I play Call of Duty. The same interaction from beneath cover can be seen when we look at the intercommunication between men and women. It is no secret that both men and women alike have sexual urges. Men, however, feel the need to get off more often than most women. So instead of having to spend the time to meet a real woman and have actual sexual intercourse, they watch porn. Instead of going out into the real world and meeting women, they stalk women on Instagram. People now date online as well. It’s much easier to talk to a woman online than it is in person—or rather, it’s not that it’s easier. Both are just as easy, but for some reason, men now prefer to hide their faces behind their monitors. (Every time I use the term ‘men’ in such context I quiver) It’s out of fear and laziness. Men have become lazy pussies. I don’t even want to use the word pussy because it brings to mind women, who nowadays have much more character than men.
Generation-Y is the instant gratification generation. We want what we want right at the moment we figure out that we want it. We are willingly giving up one of the most important things in life: the waiting period. Having to wait and having to deal with our urges and wants without instantly having them satisfied is what builds character and is what we are now lacking in this fast-paced age. If we want food, we order it online and have it delivered. If we want to listen to our favorite song, we find it on YouTube, iTunes or Spotify. If we want to watch a movie, we either buy it on demand or stream it online. If we want sex, we masturbate. If we want to have a good time, we do drugs. We have this false belief that doing things faster will give us a life more fulfilled — that it will lead to us being happier. But that isn’t the case. Most of us aren’t happier. We do more, but we experience less. We are never in the moment because we are always considering what we will be doing next in order to not become bored. Character is most often built during those moments between activities, during moments of solitude and reflection. Men no longer feel the need to pause and reflect because the options for whatever it is they want are only a click away. The options are endless and therefore we never truly experience disappointment.
We never really feel that we are missing out on something because we no longer give things much importance. Jackie never got back to your text message? I’m sure you have several other women in your contacts that you’d equally like to f*ck — once. Then you’ll get bored and move on to the next one. Men treat women like interchangeable commodities. I do believe that most men still hope to one day fall in love and settle down. But none of them will unless they change their way of thinking and living. Being focused on self-satisfaction will lead to nothing but broken relationships. Real men are not selfish. Real men are just as concerned for the feelings, needs and minds of women as they are for their own — not just women’s bodies and their sexual usefulness. Real men have a well-defined code of ethics and respect that they follow. How can anyone call himself a man if the last time he had to confront another man — whether it be over a social incident or for business purposes — was before he hit puberty? If you don’t have the twiddle-diddles to approach a woman at a bar in person and have a proper, intellectual conversation, making the woman feel respected and comfortable, then move over for the real men.
It’s awful because women are becoming accustomed to such boys and believing that these pansies are all that is left of our sex. Some great women are settling for these fools and then finding that they themselves have no choice but to wear the pants in the family because their “man” is PMSing. All I can hope for is that the law of evolution will see the world rid of these weaklings, these characterless, hopeless pseudo-men. Ladies… real men do exist; there aren’t many of us, but we’re survivors and will be around for a while. Come find us.
[Edited 11/17/13 12:07pm] I think it makes some very good points. Masculinity is generally often frowned upon. small circles, big wheels!
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Bullshit article. | |
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And likewise wonderful that there are men who aren't. 99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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I understand why this was written. I think it would have been better off just sticking to the topic of technology changing relationships as opposed to putting everything on men. I have pretty much given up that I will find a decent guy and I'm pretty sure I have no desire for marriage and kids. I don't know if I am capable of feeling loved because I am always in turmoil/uncertain if I am loved by the ones who I am supposed to be closest with. I think this makes a huge impact on how people perceive themselves in relationships as they grow and step out on their own. If you doubt love from others and don't feel it, then how are you equipped to be loving towards others in the long haul?
I think this article oversimplifies the argument that there are men who aren't men anymore but if we take it a step further, we can see that friendships, family, etc. are largely based on convenience. Most people are only comfortable around those whom pose no threat to their sense of self, be it real or imagined. I have doubts in my mind about whether or not my own mother truly loves me. So, how the hell am I equipped to recognize love, feel love and reciprocate beyond the superficial, in the long run? Maybe the article should addres those types of things as well instead of putting all of this on technology and men.... Trolls be gone! | |
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They aren't men anymore because they wax and shave off all their body and pubic hair and look like little bitchboys. I guess next they'll start dressing in schoolboy uniform shorts with knee-socks and skip down the road while licking on a big ole swirly colored lollipop. . . . [Edited 11/21/13 2:12am] Andy is a four letter word. | |
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Okay fine, if men aren't men then what are they? Why is it that anything that is slighlty feminine considered bad? Misogyny is not dead people. Gender is made up, we must transcend and love our fellow humans. We shoudn't still be using concepts used in the Victorian Period. EVOLVE | |
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My thing is people act the way the society has told them too. A guy will act all butch in order to fulfill a certain stereotype imposed upon them. Hyper Masculinity while hot, is just an illusion. Same goes forFemininity. Some might argue with me and thats fine. I don't sexualize people based on dumb norms, I love people for what they are.
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JoeTyler said: a MAN is the male sex of the human being genre, that means he has a dick and two balls
no more and no less, everything else is superficial or redundant, and his own damn business
So there u have it! A man is whateva! make him what u want cuz he has no definition. I have created my illusion in my wanderings...just waiting for him to materialize. "If a law is unjust, a man is not only right to disobey it, he is obligated to do so". Thomas Jefferson | |
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Someone explain to me why choosing to stay single is 'immature'? | |
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Yeah this article sounds like a typical "white knight"/captain save a ho type. [Edited 11/23/13 8:20am] | |
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There are more definitions of what a "man" is than can fit on the Internet. | |
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Well it takes a "ho" know a "ho"... I think that's part of the problem. I don't have an issue with anyone being "horish" per say... as long as you are honest, remain childless, practice safe sex, and stay single.
I'm not sure if Mr. Hudson (author of the article) had a pending deadline and/or came to his point of view after watching Ocean's Eleven (1960)l. Hudson could have written a more thought provoking article if he'd examine, how the world economy has redefined masculinity for many man. When you have young men with time on their hands with nothing to do, you have problems. One of those problems is, many of them never move on to adulthood. Hudson article, drivel. | |
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