In only three occasions in my life have there ever been a gay OR bi man that actually were interested in getting with me. In all three cases, I did tell them "no thank you" because I'm straight. But I also thank them for finding me attractive.

[Edited 11/10/13 16:28pm]

vainandy said:

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Straight men are masculine but they aren't that masculine because they have nothing to prove. And they are also not as outspoken on trying to prove they aren't gay because they actually know they aren't and they aren't engaging in that type of behaviour in secret so they don't have anything to try to prove or hide.

PREACH! This is the truth right here.

I'm naturally quite effeminate. But I am also secure with my sexuality. I don't feel the need to act overtly macho to prove to anyone I'm straight. I'm not insecure if people think I'm gay, because why would I care if they did think that?

That is why it is homophobic for any straight man to have a problem with a gay guy hitting on them. Because they have a lesser view of gay people and feel the need to prove that they aren't.

I've never been hit on by a gay man IRL.

...I think that I'm feeling insulted all of a sudden.

Seems like someones' hankering for a dicking.

LayzieKiddZ said:

Seems like someones' hankering for a dicking.

PurpleJedi said:

LayzieKiddZ said:

Seems like someones' hankering for a dicking.

Well I meant the guy in the article, not you per se.

On topic, In terms of being hit on by gays its alright, no big deal. Most of the time if its girly gay guys they dont really do it seriously and they leave.

When its creepy old men who keep eyeing then weve got a problem.

LayzieKiddZ said:

PurpleJedi said:

Well I meant the guy in the article, not you per se.

On topic, In terms of being hit on by gays its alright, no big deal. Most of the time if its girly gay guys they dont really do it seriously and they leave.

When its creepy old men who keep eyeing then weve got a problem.

Lol, OK.

I agree with Militant.

However, I'm really annoyed by women that try to tell me that I must be gay. I think it happens because they first get attracted to me, but aren't comfortable with how different I've turned out to be from their expectations. The whole idea that you wouldn't be aware of the "true nature" of your own sexuality and that someone else would be able to "see it" after knowing you just for a while is ridiculous. Not to mention insisting something like that is really damn rude.

Happened about a week ago again, so I have to vent a bit, hah

Stephen Amell to Gay Fans: Go Ahead, Hit On Me

by Greg Hernandez | November 7, 2013

Stephen Amell on "Arrow." (CW)

Article writer, G. Hernandez remembers there was a little bit of controversy over Stephen not returning with it being floated that he was uncomfortable with the character being gay.

Hernandez was a columnist at the LA Daily News then and Stephen emailed him personally to let him know that it was not true. He had instead signed to do the film “Closing the Ring” with Shirley MacLaine and Christopher Plummer.

Oh, the irony.

I always get hit on by gay men, straight men, and sometimes even women!

It's when people stop hitting on you is when the real problem is happening. For the record I love women.

I'm as much OK with it as any other person hitting on me I'm not sexually interested in. And each and every one of us has at some point felt the time was right to try our luck with somebody, only to be told that they are not interested.

Why should it be any different with someone of the same sex approaching you, or approaching someone of the same sex?

Militant said:

vainandy said:

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Straight men are masculine but they aren't that masculine because they have nothing to prove. And they are also not as outspoken on trying to prove they aren't gay because they actually know they aren't and they aren't engaging in that type of behaviour in secret so they don't have anything to try to prove or hide.

PREACH! This is the truth right here.

I'm naturally quite effeminate. But I am also secure with my sexuality. I don't feel the need to act overtly macho to prove to anyone I'm straight. I'm not insecure if people think I'm gay, because why would I care if they did think that?

That is why it is homophobic for any straight man to have a problem with a gay guy hitting on them. Because they have a lesser view of gay people and feel the need to prove that they aren't.