Actual grown men who were actually out of the dating pool; husbands of my good friends. That's the general answer I've gotten throughout life as to why I am rarely approached. :( Ask Stymie - I'm really nice. | |
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you are amazing. | |
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Stymie said:
you are amazing. Very VERY nice I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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Def better off ... | |
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Even with my current bf when we first got together it almost seemed like it bothered him that I had my life compltely together. I had a great job, I owned my own home, had great friends and a good life going on, I think he wasn't sure what he had to offer me. Obviously he got over it. And obviously I found someone despite being fiercely independent for years and years. So whatevs. |
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I had a job and an apartment at the age of 24. Got told I was "too independent" Wtf. I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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ZombieKitten said: I had a job and an apartment at the age of 24. Got told I was "too independent" Wtf. Yeah, crap like that! I was a single mom at 20. I had to take care of us and did it well...never on welfare, etc, although I am a mere secretary. Executive Assistant now, but you get the point. I would have *loved* to be a housewife with a good husband, cooking dinner, raising children, all that stuff. But because I can hold my own in conversation, I'm smart, and am not living under a bridge, I'm viewed as too independent/intimidating. That actually breaks my heart. But thank you, Ivy and Charlotte! Hugz to you both! | |
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When I had my life together, guys were threatened by me. Now that my life is pretty much crappy the guys see me as not being 'together' enough I suppose. I just don't get it. If I'm so smart, pretty, etc. then why aren't there guys around who want to share their lives with me? I don't know what to think anymore. I am well-educated but sleeping on a friend's couch until I can get back on my feet. This means that guys who love to "rescue" women should be banging down my door but they aren't. I was doing pretty good until about 2008 or so then it seems like things took a tumble.
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Uhope said: ZombieKitten said: I had a job and an apartment at the age of 24. Got told I was "too independent" Wtf. Yeah, crap like that! I was a single mom at 20. I had to take care of us and did it well...never on welfare, etc, although I am a mere secretary. Executive Assistant now, but you get the point. I would have *loved* to be a housewife with a good husband, cooking dinner, raising children, all that stuff. But because I can hold my own in conversation, I'm smart, and am not living under a bridge, I'm viewed as too independent/intimidating. That actually breaks my heart. But thank you, Ivy and Charlotte! Hugz to you both! I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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Yes U r better off enjoying your life than wasting time looking If it's going to happen it will on its own I much prefer being single to married life mailto:www.iDon'tThinkSo.com.Uranus | |
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Of course the women who have been fucked over are gonna come to this thread and say yes. 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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No, I think I'd like married life, given the opportunity. | |
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I'm sure you are a nice person, but pardon me for saying this, but you come off in your posts as being too desperate. | |
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I'm sure you are a nice person, but pardon me for saying this, but you come off in your posts as being too desperate. Wow! No she does not. She arely posts about her personal period. | |
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Her posts spells "Look at me, I'm available". Like trying to sell it. Not the first thread she comes off like this. For starters, she needs to stop belittling herself. The right person will come when she least expected. | |
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.... and I feel the same way about the OP and her posts, past and present. | |
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I don't know.
I don't have any irritations or fights. Never. I just have fun with my friends or enjoying myself on my couch with my remote control.
I can be moody and tired and not have to engage with anybody.
Everything in this household goes my way.
99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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I just hope you will start coaching yourself to make yourself happy. And belief me, when you do that, you are focused on your own life and not so needy anymore.
By the time you have finished the coachingprogram, you might end up being attractive for men. Because you are not so needy anymore.
I'm a big fan of Talane Miedaner.
Here's the link:
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[Edited 9/28/13 9:58am] 99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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statistically men are better of in a relationship. 99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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Beautifulstarr123 said:
Her posts spells "Look at me, I'm available". Like trying to sell it. Not the first thread she comes off like this. For starters, she needs to stop belittling herself. The right person will come when she least expected. I disagree with you but I am biased because she is my real life friend. Her posts state her truth and don't come across, to me, that she's desperate at all. | |
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If she's rarely being approached, like she stated, then she needs to find within herself what it is about herself that is making these men not approach her. She cannot always use her economic and educational position as a crutch. I think it's more than that, but you know her. | |
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That was interesting.
I am neither desperate nor "selling it". I don't know how you're seeing my education or economic situation as a crutch; I went to a vocational school and while not rich, I've always been able to take care of myself. Can't see what you're getting at here. I just don't put much stock in platitudes like "the right person will come along" etc. Based on what, your personal experience? That is not everyone's experience. And while I'm honestly delighted for those to whom that has happened, I don't find it helpful to have it tossed about like it's a stone truth, nor is it kind to belittle those whose experience is different. To answer the OP's question, even the Bible answers "yes" to that question see 1 Corinthians 7:40. But marriage is a normal, natural desire that unfortunately may be unfulfilled in everyone who may want it. We all just do the best we can. and thank you, Ivy. [Edited 9/28/13 12:24pm] | |
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...and Paul also said that if you cannot contain yourself, then it is better to marry than to burn. So yeah, both positions were quoted and are acceptable. I went to church, too. | |
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Aside from your comment about Paul (which was more directed towards the OP than anything else), I'm not sure what you're talking about. I certainly was not implying you didn't go to church or anything. I do know good and well that no man is my savior and that's not what I what... I'm good there. anyways, thanks? | |
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I could pull that thread, but why waste my time, and yours. Anyways, you're welcome? | |
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Curious - why are my comments in random threads of note to you? I don't recall ever engaging with you before. It's like I've offended you somehow. If I did, I am sorry. It was not intentional. | |
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Have a nice day... To Byron: Who knows? You menfolk are funny, sometimes [Edited 9/28/13 16:09pm] [Edited 9/28/13 22:44pm] | |
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