KingSausage said:

I figured it would be a good scared straight tactic.

althom said:

This is a good suggestion. It's really not unheard of for the moms to plan a wedding. Usually, though, it's the bride's mother who plans it. And if she is paying for it, you should let her do some of the work.

But definitely keep the rehearsal dinner invites to a minimum.

Another reason for me to never get married.

I've already told my mother I'm wearing a red dress with a red veil, red come fuck me high heels and the wedding party is in black. Oh and a guitar version of "here comes the bride" when I walk down the aisle.

It's either that or elope!

KS your mom will get over it eventually. Do what you have to do...

You just gotta put your foot down & TELL her how it's gonna be. She won't like it, she'll be pissy. But on the day she'll be happy & she'll know she ain't running shit in your life. Sorry she's being so unreasonable

KingSausage said:

But you DID, though, tell your mom that CarrieLee & I will be one of the ones you'll be punching in the face, right??... :O

King Sausage, rehearsal parties are usually just for members of the wedding party...

My girlfriend was going through this with her mom, she was so fed up with the crying, and how could you do this to me...She and her fiance flew to Las Vegas and got married.

When she returned she so very nicely told her parents that she did it this way to avoid the animosity that she was starting to feel towards her mom... All is well.

Good Luck and don't let this get in the way of your happy day!

KingSausage said:

Ah, but this could be a good tactic to tell your mom. Threaten to invite 50 of your Org friends to the rehearsal dinner if she doesn't back off. Just tell her that the freaks with otters, muppets and Star Wars characters will all show up, and she will have to feed them! In fact, tell her we'll all show up dressed as our avatars! Imagine Wellbeyond in dreads, Icenine in an otter costume, mingling with your mom's family! It could work!

Watch My Big Fat Greek Wedding. Seriously, do it. Even if you already saw it a while ago. This will give you persepctive and a sense of humor.

Then call her and point out to her that your wedding is, after all, just a party. An important party to celebrate an important event in your life. But just a party. Ask her if it's really worth fighting about.

And then point out that the rehearsal dinner is a welcome-and-thank-you to the people who are actually IN the wedding, not an extension of the wedding itself, and it would be rude not to invite their spouses, but that's IT.

And point out that she already (presumably) got to have HER wedding, now it's your turn.

And then sit yourself down and realize that it will all pass and you'll all look back at it and laugh, and if you start laughing now it will make it easier.



All of that crap is why I got married in the woods with four other people present.

fake your own death