Seriously.

To those who do, I have a question.

C'mon! It's obvious some of you are slightly nuts out there.

i was a therapist for 10 years, does that count?

and, people that see are nut necessarily "nuts". i'm sure that you were saying that in good fun. if not...

I need one!

INSATIABLE said:

Dr. Karen at your service!!

medoc2003 said:

You're right. I was being fecetious. Sorry... I know better.

i see a therapist weekly, yes

..
therapists are shit

violence is a much better release of demons and stress

ohh wait

that's why they make me see a therapist

scrubb all O dat

..

i figured you were just being silly.

Muse2noPharaoh said:

how much do you charge?

Cborg, Medoc (and whoever else wants to intelligently chime in)...

I've got a therapist to help me with issues of depression, etc. He's usually quiet, but at the hourly rate I'm paying him, I've sort of suggested I wanted more feedback as of late...

Well, he offered it, but not only did he challenge some of my thoughts (which I consider healthy and welcome), but he scoffed at them and seemed to project certain uncomfortable, personal values into the discussion. At a point, our discussion seemed to evolve more into a light sparring match. I think he's a competent doctor, but I'm not sure exactly how this is helping me.

I very much understand that even a doctor is human and, to some degree, I feel the therapy process requires some level of challenge. But at what point can one decide whether the professional is helping or missing the boat --possibly even causing harm -- by spousing his/her own values?
[This message was edited Thu Mar 13 8:47:24 PST 2003 by Lammastide]

INSATIABLE said:

ill take a hug at a time! Im a very reasonable person!

Lammastide said:

Okay, here is my advice... my therapist told me from day one that if i felt in any way that he was not able to give me what i needed, that his feelings would not be hurt, and he would be happy to recomend one of the other therapists in the office, or any therapist he thought would be better. does he challenge me? yes, and mostly because that is part of what i require from him. each relationship is completely unique, and mine happens to include that i need someone who can be a bit more take charge. at first mine did not like to give a lot of feedback either, but i told him that i need him to be a bit more agressive with his thoughts and questions, bnecause if i knew what i needed to fix, i wouldn'ttbe there in the first place. mine does not really interject a whole lot of moralizing, but it could very well be that i just don't notice, because our moral beliefs are very similar.
if u don't fell it is working for you, you should seek out another therapist.

I can think of many Orgers and ex Orgers that could do with a spell with a therapist

cborgman said:

Thanks. this makes sense.

it's difficult to give a lot of sideline coaching in these situations.

i would suggest that you address this issue with the therapist. see if you can work it out with the therapist. those types of issues can be way more "therapeutic" than the ones that you initially go to work on.

it is important that you talk to this person and get a feel for what their basic values are, because if there are major differences of some core values, that can create obstacles to good therapy.

medoc2003 said:

Indeed...

It is a little difficult to give a valid opinion, since I don't know the therapist, or his methods... However I definitely feel it is something you should talk to him about, it is important that the therapist knows where you are coming from, and what you're feeling... including what you're feeling about him.

The length of time you have been seeing him also makes a difference I think, perhaps you need to give it a little more time and see where he is going with this kind of interaction (if anywhere, lol!) ... However, if it isn't working for you for a significant amount of time, and if you feel he isn't being responsive to you in the way you need, after addressing the issues with him, then perhaps it is best to seek out a more suitable therapist, as cborgman suggested.

A particular therapist can be absolutely wonderful for certain people, while completely unsuitable for others... It's about finding the one who best provides the advice, feedback and aid you need... naturally.. and if his ways aren't helping after a sufficient amount of time, then it would probably be best to find another therapist. No point staying with one therapist if they're not helping matters eh?!

Hope it works out for you Lammastide.

Lammastide said:

no i don't...are u telling me i need one??? is this just a nice way of hinting to me i need therapy??

lillith said:

Uh...uh... No! Not at all! Here, have a Coke

Whew!

I may need one after joining 2the9s book club

cborgman said:

I agree too...but, what wouldn't be helpful is to quit therapy all together. Maybe you should stick with this guy until you can transfer to someone else.
Until then, take care of yourself and know that you're brave for wanting to heal yourself.
Keep us posted, ok?

I wish I had one.

Natsume said:

Me too.

Sometimes I feel like I'm not myself.

Catsume said:

Hey ever notice how the face looks like a possessed kitty?

Thanks for the help, guys.

Hey... Take a look at this emoticon I mean a REALLY good look.

Can you imagine how freaky it'd be to see someone who ACTUALLY looks like this?!?! I'd soil myself, I think
[This message was edited Thu Mar 13 19:50:29 PST 2003 by Lammastide]

ian said:

you know... i don't even need to click the link to know what it is

Nope, but I need one...