I'm not just talking about shagging some British person if you're American, or dating someone in a different ethnic group within your own borders.


I mean, different language, differently religions--the whole 9 yards.


How do you bridge the gap?

I've found historically that I have had trouble identifying with even other Americans who don't dig the same music or have different political leanings. I'm also largely turned off by women who like sports. In other words, my historical comfort zone as far as finding someone close to me is...not expansive.


What are your experiences, you dirty sluts?

I went out with a Colombian girl who didn't speak English. We figured it out, though.

I dated a ferret once...the cultural differences were just too hard to overcome. That, and the intestinal parasites.

Byron said:

I dated a ferret once...the cultural differences were just too hard to overcome. That, and the intestinal parasites.

Yes I have. It was really hard for various reasons, different cultures was only one of them. We are no longer together, but we still love each other and I guess always will.

Yes, it is VERY hard.

I dated a muslim man and ultimately all the family/historical/religious voices in his head won out. As the only son out of 9 kids, he was consumed with the opinions of his family and ultimately things didn't work out. I would definitely be open to dating another Middle Eastern man but he'd have to WAY be over religious and cultural expectations.

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SuperSoulFighter said:

You're from Thailand, aren't you, Imago? In that country, dating outside your own country/culture is a whole industry! Me, I'm from Holland & been married to a Kenyan wife. What we had in arguments or differences were just like any other relationship. So for me, there are no boundaries!

!!!


Besides the industry, there are all manner of couples here: Iranians and thais, Iranians and Russians, Thais and Americans or Europeans, Europeans and Indians, Indians and Chinese or Americans, you name it... it's very, VERY mixed here.

But, it is VERY difficult to come to some middle ground with a person who doesn't share your world view, or even worse, doesn't understand why they should even attempt to understand it. Connecting with someone from a very different vantage point sometimes feels alienating. Exciting, but alienating.

But, I've lived here so long now, that when I could never picture myself with an American again. I've simply been so out of place for so long that I would feel almost like going back is....uninteresting.

I've dated outside my culture, but not my race. I've dated men from Africa and the West Indies. The West Indies men were the most compatible with me. They were funny as hell, meaning they could make me laugh., which is truly the key to my heart. If a man can make me laugh, really laugh, the draws fall soon enough. African men are a bit more serious.

Yes.

All continents.

There is no real Difference really.

On a human and spiritual level I mean.

On a materilaistic, physical, psychological, economic, social, political, religious, and cultural level there can be MANY differences.

And most of all: on a Individual Level.

I have exclusively dated non Prince fans, and it was very difficult for them to respect me.

NDRU said:

I have exclusively dated non Prince fans, and it was very difficult for them to respect me.

I know what you mean. When some of my friends found out my passion for his music, they said, "Really? What do you see in that little bitty man?" Yeah, he might be dimunitve, but he's got a huge talent.

Nope. Never have.

Yeah boy.
That's what I do most the time lol

I found it extremely difficult to relate to the people I dated who were from a different "social class" than I was.

Specifically, the two or three people who were from well-to-do, highly-educated, suburban backgrounds.

Not only did we have lots of differences in our cultural reference points, I often found the things they would say in an offhand manner to be offensive and/or ignorant from my perspective. I also experienced a feeling of being "exoticized" by them - they would ask certain questions about my experience or background, or say things in front of their friends that just made me feel weird.

Tremolina said:

Yes.

All continents.

Slut.

imago said:

SuperSoulFighter said:

You're from Thailand, aren't you, Imago? In that country, dating outside your own country/culture is a whole industry! Me, I'm from Holland & been married to a Kenyan wife. What we had in arguments or differences were just like any other relationship. So for me, there are no boundaries!

!!!


Besides the industry, there are all manner of couples here: Iranians and thais, Iranians and Russians, Thais and Americans or Europeans, Europeans and Indians, Indians and Chinese or Americans, you name it... it's very, VERY mixed here.

But, it is VERY difficult to come to some middle ground with a person who doesn't share your world view, or even worse, doesn't understand why they should even attempt to understand it. Connecting with someone from a very different vantage point sometimes feels alienating. Exciting, but alienating.

But, I've lived here so long now, that when I could never picture myself with an American again. I've simply been so out of place for so long that I would feel almost like going back is....uninteresting.

So you bottomed?

kewlschool said:

imago said:

!!!


Besides the industry, there are all manner of couples here: Iranians and thais, Iranians and Russians, Thais and Americans or Europeans, Europeans and Indians, Indians and Chinese or Americans, you name it... it's very, VERY mixed here.

But, it is VERY difficult to come to some middle ground with a person who doesn't share your world view, or even worse, doesn't understand why they should even attempt to understand it. Connecting with someone from a very different vantage point sometimes feels alienating. Exciting, but alienating.

But, I've lived here so long now, that when I could never picture myself with an American again. I've simply been so out of place for so long that I would feel almost like going back is....uninteresting.

So you bottomed?

My ex is Puerto Rican - (my folks are Honduran) - and even though we're both first-generation Hispanic-Americans, there were some cultural differences which caused bits of friction.

Moreso on her part, (which is part of the reason why she went with another Puerto Rican).

PunkMistress said:

I found it extremely difficult to relate to the people I dated who were from a different "social class" than I was.

Specifically, the two or three people who were from well-to-do, highly-educated, suburban backgrounds.

Not only did we have lots of differences in our cultural reference points, I often found the things they would say in an offhand manner to be offensive and/or ignorant from my perspective. I also experienced a feeling of being "exoticized" by them - they would ask certain questions about my experience or background, or say things in front of their friends that just made me feel weird.

I know EXACTLY what you mean. The person I was dating would say something and try to give liberties to talk on the subject with others around and its like WTF! Its as if some feel they can go there, say dumb shit and present like they walk in your shoes for a second because you have a humping habit together. Might hump somebody but we are not having kids together because I cannot deal with ignorance on such a serious level for extended periods of time.

imago said:

I'm not just talking about shagging some British person if you're American, or dating someone in a different ethnic group within your own borders.


I mean, different language, differently religions--the whole 9 yards.


How do you bridge the gap?

I've found historically that I have had trouble identifying with even other Americans who don't dig the same music or have different political leanings. I'm also largely turned off by women who like sports. In other words, my historical comfort zone as far as finding someone close to me is...not expansive.


What are your experiences, you dirty sluts?

I sorry but N-E1 who types N-E1 is gonna struggle getting a shag from N-E 1 period

Or maybe I am just very old

Ocean said:

My daughter has dated a moron, does that count?

Ocean said:

My daughter has dated a moron, does that count?

Although it's really not that funny to her lol

I once spent two weeks of a holiday with a stunning girl I wanted to have sex with (yeah, I was that shallow back then, but that's not the point...).

We met abroad, but she was from my country (not far away from where I lived), a blonde city girl who liked all the things a regular "Austrian" likes.

Still, I have never felt so estranged after trying to communicate with her for those 10-14 days. I felt closer to every extremely rich and spoilt South American christian woman, orthodox muslim woman and Kenyian woman with a rather poor background than I did to this Austrian girl, who supposedly was part of "my culture".

Because of that (and multiple times since then) I have learned that it's not cultures that "click", but people. If two people get along, they will overcome any differences in culture, taste or opinion. If two people are not on the same wave-length, even having exactly the same cultural background will not prevent them from feeling misunderstood and not appreciated.