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Printablewellbeyond said: sag10 said: The rebound thing just makes me crazy. What can you possibly give to another relationship, so soon after the other ended..
Unless you heal, you carry the baggage from one to the other, and so on, and so on. The cycle will never end.   "whoa, I say, whoa!!"  ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: wellbeyond said: sag10 said: The rebound thing just makes me crazy. What can you possibly give to another relationship, so soon after the other ended..
Unless you heal, you carry the baggage from one to the other, and so on, and so on. The cycle will never end. "whoa, I say, whoa!!" "Aw, come on, whoa!!"  | |
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jnoel said: We all die alone
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sawatdiikhrap said: That's so true. I felt like my wife didn't have anything outside of our relationship. I was worried for a while that my wife was with me partly because she was scared to be alone and I was soomebody safe for her to feel protected with. And I was worried for a while that I was with her because I wanted to help her and felt sorry for her.
Took some time and I realised that we do 'need' each other but it's just one aspect of our relationship. I looked at it and thought about how we're attracted to each other physically, absolutely have a ball when we're together, we're like best friends and can talk about anything with each other, and we care so much about how the other is feeling. Sounds like love to me. So now I don't worry about that. ... [This message was edited Thu Mar 13 2:46:46 PST 2003 by sawatdiikhrap] This is one of the nicest posts I've seen on the Org and reading it gave me such a smile. 
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I think it's worse to be the person on the other side...
But in any case rebounds are stupid. I think most people who rebound have self esteem problems and just HAVE to be with somebody. It's sad. I've always been happy single so I don't have problems with this | |
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CarrieLee said: I think it's worse to be the person on the other side...
But in any case rebounds are stupid. I think most people who rebound have self esteem problems and just HAVE to be with somebody. It's sad. I've always been happy single so I don't have problems with this Right-o! Now drop by this weekend... SUPERJOINT RITUAL - http://www.superjointritual.com
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CarrieLee said: I think it's worse to be the person on the other side...
But in any case rebounds are stupid. I think most people who rebound have self esteem problems and just HAVE to be with somebody. It's sad. I've always been happy single so I don't have problems with this I so agree with Carrie! I fear I have gone over to the other end. I wonder if I will ever let anyone get to close again. This is not the result of a bad relationship. Im no longer sure what I think of relationship longevity. I think about it often! It's my puzzle as of late. Do I have a point... yeah...usually do ... the point is ... what's the matter with me??? Life's good ... its on my terms... I am surrounded by love. well being health ... yet there in I still lack... I think IM lonely ... but all an all... I don't think I want a relationship ... an then I miss certain parts... I suppose this is natural in singlehood??? I am a contradiction of self and still old fashioned in some ways... I suck right now... lol...Rofl | |
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Muse2noPharaoh said: CarrieLee said: I think it's worse to be the person on the other side...
But in any case rebounds are stupid. I think most people who rebound have self esteem problems and just HAVE to be with somebody. It's sad. I've always been happy single so I don't have problems with this I so agree with Carrie! I fear I have gone over to the other end. I wonder if I will ever let anyone get to close again. This is not the result of a bad relationship. Im no longer sure what I think of relationship longevity. I think about it often! It's my puzzle as of late. Do I have a point... yeah...usually do ... the point is ... what's the matter with me??? Life's good ... its on my terms... I am surrounded by love. well being health ... yet there in I still lack... I think IM lonely ... but all an all... I don't think I want a relationship ... an then I miss certain parts... I suppose this is natural in singlehood??? I am a contradiction of self and still old fashioned in some ways... I suck right now... lol...Rofl 
I don't think you suck, you just like to be independent but then there are times you get lonely. That's exactly what I am. So just go get a fuck friend...works everytime! | |
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CarrieLee said: Muse2noPharaoh said: CarrieLee said: I think it's worse to be the person on the other side...
But in any case rebounds are stupid. I think most people who rebound have self esteem problems and just HAVE to be with somebody. It's sad. I've always been happy single so I don't have problems with this I so agree with Carrie! I fear I have gone over to the other end. I wonder if I will ever let anyone get to close again. This is not the result of a bad relationship. Im no longer sure what I think of relationship longevity. I think about it often! It's my puzzle as of late. Do I have a point... yeah...usually do ... the point is ... what's the matter with me??? Life's good ... its on my terms... I am surrounded by love. well being health ... yet there in I still lack... I think IM lonely ... but all an all... I don't think I want a relationship ... an then I miss certain parts... I suppose this is natural in singlehood??? I am a contradiction of self and still old fashioned in some ways... I suck right now... lol...Rofl
I don't think you suck, you just like to be independent but then there are times you get lonely. That's exactly what I am. So just go get a fuck friend...works everytime! ( I think you may have identified the problem all right! I'll ponder that thought! ) | |
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I have never met anyone on the rebound and dont intend in doing so..I know friends who cannot live without a partner, that is kinda sad cos they never meet the right one, they just crave company. I myself can live quite happily on my own, and wouldnt confuse the issue by meeting someone else just to fill a gap... | |
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Ok..  I have been single for 55 seconds...ready for a new man...
Anyone? | |
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sag10 said: Unless you heal, you carry the baggage from one to the other, and so on, and so on. The cycle will never end.
Yes. This is what happened to my last relationship. We just started putting shit on each other from our past relationships without realizing it. We were unknowingly terrible to each other, but were immediately 1000 times better friends after we broke up. Rebounds are not a good idea. You are just trying to fill a void... and sometimes that void was not necessarily left by the last relationship. You gotta learn to be single and alone. On that note, I'm trying really hard at this too Azure. I think I would have jumped into another relationship really quickly if the logistics didn't prevent me - mainly the fact that I may be leaving the country in six months. I've been in consistent committed relationships for the past four years or so, which doesn't seem like a lot, until you consider it's 1/5 of my life.  I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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I've never had any problems with this either. I've never done it, in fact. I am very honest with myself and allow myself to feel what it is that I need to go through in order to heal and move on. It's not easy, but in my opinon, it's the only way to live honestly and learn from whatever it is that caused the break-up in the first place.
It's very painful to have to face lonliness and rejection (or the disappointment and pain of rejecting another) and I think that people rebound in order to keep themselves from going through that pain. But, if you don't go through it, it's always hanging around in baggage of one sort or another. OR...as Stewart Smalley says 'Trace it, Face it and Erase it' | |
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MrBliss said: generally speaking... i don't think it's a good idea
when i'm single, i'm quite happy to be by myself... it makes me sad to see the shit ppl put up with because they're too afraid to be alone Damn good point Bliss. I'd rather be alone than to have to put up with stupid shit just for the sake of being with the wrong someone. *********************************************
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Muse2noPharaoh said: CarrieLee said: Muse2noPharaoh said: CarrieLee said: I think it's worse to be the person on the other side...
But in any case rebounds are stupid. I think most people who rebound have self esteem problems and just HAVE to be with somebody. It's sad. I've always been happy single so I don't have problems with this I so agree with Carrie! I fear I have gone over to the other end. I wonder if I will ever let anyone get to close again. This is not the result of a bad relationship. Im no longer sure what I think of relationship longevity. I think about it often! It's my puzzle as of late. Do I have a point... yeah...usually do ... the point is ... what's the matter with me??? Life's good ... its on my terms... I am surrounded by love. well being health ... yet there in I still lack... I think IM lonely ... but all an all... I don't think I want a relationship ... an then I miss certain parts... I suppose this is natural in singlehood??? I am a contradiction of self and still old fashioned in some ways... I suck right now... lol...Rofl
I don't think you suck, you just like to be independent but then there are times you get lonely. That's exactly what I am. So just go get a fuck friend...works everytime! ( I think you may have identified the problem all right! I'll ponder that thought! )In all sincerity, I not so long ago made an attempt at this. I simply am not cut out for that. DAMN i wish I was! However I am the monogamous one on one type. Just the way I am drawn! See? I told you I rather suck right now. Im certain ill snap out of it.  Eventually! Then i will be in here bitching about a relationship wishing i was single instead. | |
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